What you don't know won't hurt you...?!

hi arstine, I agree with you its really hard to trust again , No matter how the person tries to convince you that he/she have changed, if that person is very sorry for what she / he had committed. But I give second chances but when you are in the situation again sometimes you cannot help it but you really doubt the sincerity of the person. Cheers :) =d09:)

Almost everyobody has some or the other skeletons in the cupboard, so to speak. No body is clean.People like to hide their infirmities, their faults and many other things which they fear to disclose because they would not like to have their reputation and character sullied. Therefore they take recourse to lies and hide their past if questioned. However one day or the other the truth gets exposed either, inadvertently or accidently either from their own mouths or by someone else.Its best therefore to tell the truth even if it embarasses you, but you will then have a clear conscience and get a good nights sleep.Some people are inveterate liars and are used to make up big stories about themselves. Such persons usually have a deep sense of inferiority complex and do so inorder to have a reputation but all this comes apart when the truth is revealed.

It can be rather difficult to know who to trust and who not to trust. Of course I'm one of those types that needs a lot more to convince me that what I'm doing is well worth it. I can't tell you why people do that, but there are those who can't confront what's really bothering them. This could be the motivation behind this.

Yes, it is very hard to trust again a person who has a track record of dishonesty. Integrity. One powerful and very important word. Integrity.

Hello friend!! It is wrong to make the promises which one can't complete or telling lie and I am strongly against it. Everyone has a past so why to hide that if someone want to be good relation with someone then first thing comes is your honesty towards the person that how true you are with the person on what ever you are saying whether it is regarding your past or present or the future. No doubt it hurts if we get to know from someone else then our closed ones so best thing is that they should not hide anything. Moreover if they had some past and if it hurts us then we should tell them truly for future that they don't do so and should accept them as they are. One should be happy that at least they have not hidden anything from them so that can make a true relation with being loyal. Have a nice time!!

White lies happen every now and then but I try not to do any white lies anymore for fear that it will be back to haunt me in the future.

My roommate does this.. and it has ruined our friendship to say the least. I hate it, and I only tolerate it because I don't want for myself and daughter or for my roommate to end up homeless or having to move back in with our respective families... but there are no words in existence that can express how I loathe this!

I agree that it is difficult to start a relationship with a lie. Usually, one lie is not enough. Then sooner or later, you won't even recognize yourself with the web of lies you've created. Trust me, I know this first hand. And it has been a difficult lesson to learn. So now, I try to be upfront. Thankfully, there are these social networking sites which you can be anonymous. Then, you don't have to hide.

i can not understand that people ,not because they are made something wrong ansd i don`t understand them because they lie and that create one big abyss between them and the lied person,i hate that and i never want to be friend with same people . here in one of my discussions i `ve started i told to all of you about my close friend who hide of me the truth of her life now and that make me feel bad because i thought that there wasn`t lies between us and hidden things, i cannot promise to stay a friend to her

What if you confide to a person about this truth but he ends up not believing you. This is the time that saying the truth doesnt work. Why? Because the truth is simply not believed upon. I would rather choose a liar than someone who doesnt accept what is true.

i think persons who lies about their past has considerable understanding why he or she chooses to hide those things, maybe she is afraid that if others know this things about them then these people will avoid him or her for some reason. but you cant hold it against them because everybody has secrets you know, and secrets are thing you don't want other people to know about you. however when it comes to promises then that's entirely a different story. i also don't like people who deliberately makes promises that they cant keep