Wives who work for the family and husbands who stay home to watch the kids

Philippines
February 21, 2010 5:39pm CST
What are your views about women having to work for the family while the husband stays home and perform what a wife should be performing? Is role playing still important nowadays? Roles like -- a man should be the one earning and providing for the family while the woman stays home and do the nurturing part.
7 responses
23 Feb 10
Any arrangement as long as it is agreed upon by both husband and wives will serve the best purpose for the family.With wife being the bread winner and the husband doing the house matters is fine with me and I'm not in anyway against it. If the wife earns more than the husband then they have to agree on what to do, on who to stay at the house for the home and the kids. Whatever is best for the betterment of the family's situation, wether it be the wife to pursue her career, then it shall be with her own consent of course. it has to be voluntary so as no problem will occur later. We do believe that we have this stereotyping thing about man being the provider, but if the woman can do it too and that she has bigger oppurtunity then we have to get rid of this stereotype. If ever the man won't feel at ease with the situation, then he could freely say so and work harder so as to equate his wifes earnings and let her take the role in the house and him as the sole provider.It's that easy, just have both agree on it.
5 Apr 10
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• Philippines
21 Feb 10
for me it was fine.... it is better if the mom who'll watch for the kids but in this situation it doesnt really matter who earned. it is a family, the man and woman should help each other, we cant blame the father if he doesnt have chance to work but since he's at home that would be his responsibility, just make sure that when the wife got home there was something to eat and something to be appreciated from the guy...
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
You bet. Better be sure the kids and the dog are fed, and every thing's cleaned and is in it's proper order.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Traditionally that was the setup before women had to fight for equal rights for them. When they were not allowed to work like what men wanted to do in their work. I think that resulted for other men to lose opportunities that were once exclusive to them. Now there are women that can take over what men usually enjoy. So there are instances that the men tend to lose interest in the traditional ways and instead compensate for what the women of today now lacks.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I think that personally to each his own. If that particular couple is okay with the female head of household bringing home the bacon while they keep the house and kids in order then so be it. I personally believe in the old fashioned way of things. I feel that the mother is the nurturer and more than likely should be the one to stay at home with the children and take care of the home. Don't get me wrong fellas I have absolutely nothing against a stay at home dad. As long as that's what works in your household then rock on!
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I think that now a days, that we should not put limit to who is working or not. We need to think that we have a family to support. If the two are working together that's much better. It's the person who has the opportunity to get money gets to work. If you follow the traditional way, how will you earn and make a living and your the guy, who doesn't have a job or the wife who's capable of having one but you won't allow because she should stay home.
25 Feb 10
In the UK it is believed that one in ten households has the mother(wife)going out to work while dad(husband)stays at home and brings up the kids. I don't have a problem with that at all. If mum is making more money than dad then it would make good financial sense for mum to be the bread winner. So long as both parties are in agreement and are happy with the roles they are playing then that's good enough for me.
@Bassym (36)
21 Feb 10
Hi,women are working and men saying at home with children,should be the men who are working and suport thier families ,and performing and the women stay at home with children,but if the women have job and the men have not its fine no problem.