Relationship Status: IT'S COMPLICATED!

@kd_fmay (555)
Philippines
February 22, 2010 5:29am CST
Hello! Have you notice the Facebook's trademark status category "IT'S COMPLICATED". I was amused and amazed at the same time to learn that such has been recognized universally perhaps and already accepted to describe ones relationship when one could not determine and caught between being single and being in a relationship.... If you are not with somebody, automatically you're single. If you're with someone, your either in a relationship or married. We often wonder about what complicated would mean. For you, what does it mean about "it's complicated" status?
6 responses
• United States
22 Feb 10
Well, here's an example from my own life: a few years ago my ex-husband and I got back together, it lasted a little less than two years. For awhile he lived with me but then I felt it wasn't really working and asked him to move out. However, I wasn't quite ready to give him up and so we stayed involved for almost another year, until I realized that I couldn't see myself married to him again and it wouldn't be fair to continue the current arrangement, as he was pressuring me to let him move back in or remarry. During part of this time he was also still in contact with his former girlfriend, I'm not sure to what extent, but he started dating her the day after I broke it off for good, so take that for whatever it's worth! Now, that is what I would call complicated and if I had been on Facebook at the time that is probably how I would have described it.
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi rapunzelcat! Thanks for sharing your relationship experience, there's difficulty to understand your status now, that's why it's called complicated. I hope everything will gonna be alright. God bless you!
• United States
23 Feb 10
Thank you! It's all good. He's still with his girlfriend and I'm waiting patiently for the right man to come along!
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
That's good. So you're totally divorce now. Well, just wishing that you may find the right man soon. :-)
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
hi kdfmay, when you say its complicated you dont want to reveal your status, you are a single parent or you have problems in your lovelife.. Other would just choose th option for the sake of intriguing ones personal life... But as what I have notice, most people uses it are the ones who are looking really for someone..LOL. Happy mylotting
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Umn, it's a way to cover up the not so good relationship that your into, but it cause curiosity to others who read it. Are you sure to your observation that they used it to look for someone? ....funny! :-) Thanks for sharing dorothy! Good day!
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
hi kdfmay might not be true for you but for some might worked and true, I have a friend who puts his status as complicated even if he is on a relationship. when he broke up with her boyfriend she still stick with the complicated status. this for the boys to ask about her relationship.. just my opinion and thought of observation.. have a great day cheers =d09:)
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Well, good observation. There are people who really find ways to meet the right one. :-) Have a great day too!
@Torunn (6946)
• Norway
22 Feb 10
I've got quite a few friends that have been using that option when they've been in either the getting together phase or the splitting up phase. Or just want to make all their friends curious as to what they're doing :-)
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi Torunn! Using it to make their friends curious...haha, its okay. It never comes into my mind, hope you didn't do it. :-) Thanks for sharing!
@Torunn (6946)
• Norway
23 Feb 10
Not yet, but I'm pretty sure that if I ever want the attention of all my female friends, that's the way to go :-) I don't usually notice changes like that myself, I don't think I'm curious enough.
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
So far you don't need attention from your female friends right now... you are satisfied with your relationship status. :) You know, to be honest, if my relationship status is not that good or let say complicated... I still not use that option, I'd rather leave it blank. I don't want others to be curious about it. I don't want to broadcast... "hey, my life is complicated or my relationship is complicated." I really don't like to gain attention to my complicated life. I thinks there's nothing wrong with that, isn't?
@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
hi dearey! it is either commited but the relationship might be on the rocks. or complicated in the sense that the person doesnt want to reveal his/her current status or unsure of whether there really is. oh well, just an observation. miss u! :)
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Good observation, sis. Did you use it? Let me see your profile info in fb...hahaha. Miss u too! :-)
@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
well i cannot reacall, haha! dont have much time to visit my profile. :)
• Slovak Republic
22 Feb 10
I think about the same thing when ever I see it in facebook. What can you been by its complicated, I am still amazed that the creators of facebook can put such a status on their website. I feel it just a way to make everyone curious about your relationship. Its a status for attention seekers .
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Attention seeker...ooh, that's not cool...haha. Maybe its just hard for them to explain the relationship that they recently into. Try to understand them and hoping that everything will gonna be okay. Thanks for sharing fireice! God day!
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
actually i also put mine as complicated knowing that im into a relationship with someone while im pregnant with another man. i put it there so that every one will know that my love life is not ok. besides my family and friends already know my situation so its ok and no one dare to ask question.