Are you the oldest, middle or the youngest?

Philippines
February 22, 2010 6:12am CST
I am the middle of the family... we are six, I am the 4th. Yet I am used with the role of the oldest. My big brother was 10 when I was born, when I reached 10, he's already 2o and on his own. I was 5 when my sister was born, and 7 when my mother delivered the youngest. I grew up taking care of my sisters because both of my parents were busy for work. We had no baby sitter except from me. I went to preparatory when I was 6, but stopped because I was ill... then I went to school again when I reached 9. I got irritated with my sisters... I thought I was not supposed to be the oldest, but I have no choice... I wanted to be always the middle, or rather the youngest. I have my classmate in graders, she's the youngest, and she told me, it's nice to be on the last because all her brothers and sisters treated her like a baby. Now, it is your turn, wanna share it? How is it to be the youngest? Are you the oldest, middle or the youngest?
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23 responses
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi primeaque86, Well, i don't know how to answer you're question coz I'm a little bit of all you've mentioned. :) Actually, it's none in your choices. Am I confusing you? hehe.. I'm an only child. that's the inspiration of my username, actually. My dad worked abroad when I was still in pre-school, and came back when I'm in high school. So it's easy to figure out why I didn't have a sibling. I love being an only child, however, sometimes I wish I had a sibling to talk to, to share my problems with, and so that my parents attention would not always be focused on me, hahaha.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi onlyprincess, Not really dear, I guess you are the only one... 'the only beloved princess'... I guess further we are just 'kababayan' (living in the same country, hehehehe, I just define for other sake). Well, nice to talk with you princess, I know you are happy with your life, but it's natural for you to wish a younger sibling, didn't you try to ask your parents? Are your father still abroad?
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hi again, Nope, my father is here since my high school days. And I admit, I did not attempt to ask for my parents for a sibling (sneaky me, haha). they are both professionals in their fields, and that time, we're building our own home (we used to live in my lola's house) so I guess because we're tight on budget that time and they're both busy with work, I didn't have a chance to have a sibling. but that's fine with me ;)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Thanks for dropping again dear princess. I know you are very grateful to have a whole family together. My father was not been gone abroad, but I grew up with my mother most of the time, my father was busy for work until I finished my high school, he just stayed home during my third year when got ill. You've been selfish though, hahahaha (PEACE angel). Maybe your parents wish for one but as what you've been telling me now they were both busy with their respective carrier. Well, faith did favored you, hahaha. How was it like living in a house of grandma? You just reminded me of my grandma who had just passed away, I love her... she used to tell a lot of nice stories. finally then, you are a certified onlyprincess dear... well I love your kitty...
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
24 Feb 10
i am the eldest of the three, the only boy, but treated as the youngest. we we're all pampered with love and care. 5 years gap between me and the second, the second to the youngest is 6. feels good to be treated as the youngest though am the eldest hehehe
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
hahahaha, wow, sound different my friend... how is it feel despite you're the eldest but treated as if the youngest? Are you 'mama's boy' or what? Wow, this sounds interesting, I hope I can hear again from you? But I guess, this happened because you are the only 'boy', am I right?
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
24 Feb 10
not only mom treated me that way, also includes my dad and my two sisters :-) strange right? cant really say am a mamas boy as a whole, maybe kinda mama's boy hehehe. the truth am sickly, got heart blah blah, asthma, and easily get sick. but am not accident prone, thats the reason. hehehe one event i can't forget is when mom didnt talk to dad for a day or two becuase dad lend me his motorbike, i went to see a friend about 35 kms away. came back home very late at night because it rained, empty battery-cant call, jammed along the way, where no houses in the area. my mom's so worried and alarmed the police already hehehe (my dad's still cool- he believes in me - but i know he's worried that time as well)she waited near the gate of the house with towels on her hand. my sisters we're laughing at how my mother treated me but she just yelled at them. since then i was never allowed to ride the motorbike (if mom's there hehehe)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Wow, very nice bro... you are gifted with a loving family. And that is really the attitude of all mothers. My Mom is just like yours too, she get easily worried than my father (kinda showy because we know our father would get worried too, but they believe more on us than girls hahaha... Peace GIRLS) It just reminded me of my high school days, when I could not go home early, my Mom would visit all my classmates' houses to find me... And she didn't know I was just stuck at my neigbor's mext to our house. hahahaha, playing some cards...(Because I could play at home, my sister would got them all from me).
@malpoa (1218)
• India
23 Feb 10
I am the youngest of three daughters to my paretns. Also in a way youngest in the family coz my uncle got divorced and his wife took away their son (who was younger to me)along with her. It is nice to be the youngest an you get what you want and there are always people ready to pamper you. I always got away with most of my misciefs and my elder sisters were very angry about it. When my mother tried to reason to them that I was a kid, they would say, from which angle she looks like a kid!! they used to pinch me out of sight of my parents. And since they didnt include me in their little adventures, I used to secretly listen to their plans and tell them to parents. And so I was named drum!!!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hahahaha, nice one malpoa, but I know you have changed now, don't you? When I was young I dreamed to be the youngest everytime I get tired to act as if I am the eldest... but you know, regardless you're the the eldest, middle, youngest or the only child... as long as during your childhood, love was there, from you parents, from all people around you... then it would make the entire chapter unforgettable... God bless you!
@malpoa (1218)
• India
24 Feb 10
Yeah I completely agree. Now when I look back and think about those days, I feel good and happy. I used to caus eimmense trouble to my sister. Because of me we missed our school bus many times. no wonder people say that childhood is the best part of one's life. whne I was a child I just wanted to grow up, finish studies and start earning. Now there is no going back!!! I only wish I could...
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hi malpoa, When I have a problem, I sometimes wish to go back my childhood days... but life has no turning back. God bless you.
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
22 Feb 10
I am the eldest child of the three. Being the eldest is not easy. My parents were ever so watchful about me and kept reminding me that I had to set an example for my younger and sister. Also, since I am the eldest, I have to help to keep a lookout for my younger siblings. Anyway, we are now grown adults and I am still keeping a lookout for them whenever I can. LOL!
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Hi myaire72, (I apologize for my term, I wrote oldest, but the exact term is eldest) I have questions for you, have you ever say thank you to your parents for being watchful with you as the eldest? What are the good things this role have brought to your life now that you are grown to a man/woman?
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
23 Feb 10
I am grateful to them, though I did not explicitly tell them. I learnt some leadership skills and also how to take care of people. Now as a parent, I feel more able to perform my duties well.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Good for you myzire72. Now that you have your own family, and a parent finally, and know you have appreciated much what your parents had told you to do before... God bless.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Second to the eldest and the only son. Good thing I didn't become feminine since being surrounded with sisters
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Good deejays1974, but you are not the middle for sure? Femininity, well could be acquired on that case too, but I guess you have a very strong genes buddy!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Welcome to the family buddy!
@kieszha (18)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
im the youngest and itsreally good coz they pamper me a lot they gave all there attention yto me ... sometimes its annoying but... its cool to be the youngest
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
hahahaha, good for you kiesha.... try sharing to your other older sibling, LOL
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Welcome to mylot and enjoy. Start your discussions now and keep up this activity... I promise, this is addicting... for a good purpose! I'll try to reach you. I want to help new comers here know about mylot further...
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I'm the oldest of two. My younger sibling showed up when I was seven, and I resented having to share my parents' attention with her. Now I hear from my middle daughter that being the middle child is the worst thing ever!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Why she can say that DeenaD?
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
I am on the middle, but my brother was away when I and my sister grew, so I used to be the Big Brother. I rarely heard stories of middle children...
• India
24 Feb 10
Am the oldest.. yes i ll have to give up everything for my younger sister.. it ll be really annoying to do so..
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hi, When you're mind is still young, it is natural to feel that. But if you are grown up already, you would appreciate the time that you would give something for your younger sister. When everytime my sisters would asked me for something, I would really find some ways to give it to them if I know that the request is not for ' bad' and even I have nothing for me. The happiness brought by that is 'something' you can cherish all your life. God bless you.
@eekikit (87)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Same here, I am the middle of the family...but not like you I remained the middle child because my brother was still in the house when I got to college, I was 18 back then, he's still in the house. But now, he already found a job and he's far from the house. Me and my little bro are the only ones studying now. The good thing about being in the middle is that you will learn how to be patient with your little ones and you will also learn how to receive advice and know you mistakes from you elder siblings and not be proud all the time. Am I right prime?
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
'Absolutely' right Bro! Jut hit the BALLS EYE!!! Good for you... and now I know you learn a lot from your Big Brother; and you are the best Big Brother now to your little Bro. How I wish I have a little bro also, but my parents are old enough now too give me some, hahaha. LOL
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Well Being the Eldest in the family makes it hard for me.. For the Reason that your parents will always make you as the role model for your small brothers and sisters ^_^
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
That's right there... But it has a great help to you though... some kind of preparation when you are already standing at your own feet... welcome to mylot...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Feb 10
i am the oldest of four children. I have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. Being the oldest sometimes gives the feeling of power or being special. It also has its drawbacks. Being the oldest means setting a good example, All I can say to that is I do y best!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
BALLS EYE sender621, I am used to that too...
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
23 Feb 10
In my adopted family I am the youngest and FOR ME it was NOT like what so many say its like to be the youngest..I am NOT favoured, I'm NOT the golden child, I am NOT pampered etc etc....in fact it was just the opposite but I'm ALSO NOT their biological child whereas my brother and sister are....In my biological family IF other children were ever had by my mum or dad I would be the oldest..
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Thanks from hearing Ravenladyj, If you are not favored and pampered, but I know that your parents still love you and care for you as they are with their biological children, don't I? I know for sure that if the family would adopt a child, they have all the willingness to share fully their hearts to the child. You are adopted by 'truth' but you are there own and youngest by 'heart', and so your older siblings...
@lingli_78 (12841)
• Australia
23 Feb 10
i am the middle one in my family... i have one elder and one younger brother and i am the only daughter in the family... i think being the middle and the only daughter has its own advantages and disadvantages... my brothers always gang up together to play pranks on me or tease me... but i know that they actually love me and do that because they love me... the good thing is, i always have 2 'bodyguards' when i was still a child to look after me wherever i go... :-) my father always make sure that they look after me and protect me from bad people... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
You are so blessed lingi_78. God bless you.
@magtibaygom (4863)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
We are seven brothers and sisters. Four are girls, and three are boys. I am the oldest among the boys. It's nice to be the eldest among the boys, but it is sometimes hard. My younger brothers look up to me as their role model, so there is high expectation on me. But it feels good to be their BIG BROTHER. :)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi magtibaygom, Yes, that's it, there something special feeling that your other younger brothers would follow and obey you... It's a great opportunity to be a 'big brother' though. God bless. Happy mylotting.
@junil_jk (498)
• India
23 Feb 10
i'm the youngest of 5 siblings - the eldest being 2 sisters, then followed by 2 brothers, and then me. being the youngest i was quite spoilt, mom being always there to defend me! i wouldn't study, wouldn't let mom out of my sight even at school too! knowing that i would be spoilt further, dad put me in a boarding school when i was still very young(around 7 years of age), along with my eldest brother. i still remember how i felt for the first time the mammoth difference between the heavenly comfort of mom(and home) and the strict and rigorous routine of boarding life! from then on it was only boarding schools. i have spent more then half of my life so far in boarding schools and hostels...and that's the reward(or punishment...whatever!) for being the youngest and spoilt!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hahahaha, but you have changed, haven't you? Love to hear your story junil. Nice day Bro!
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
23 Feb 10
we have by today's typical family a relatively small family there is just the two of us my sister that is older by a little over two years, but we have the same birth month, which is kinda nice. the funny thing about it is, well at least with going to school by the time we got to high school my sister and i we in the same grade i was considered smart enough to start a year early and i think she got held back once. she didn't care too much for us being in the same grade i can tell you that for sure. i guess its a good thing that we both had our own stuff so we didn't have to share a lot. so in my family being the youngest of two is not too bad, because mom and dad didn't treat us any differently and taught us good values so in that way we both were raised as well as you can be in this day and age. now i have a niece and i will consider her the youngest now, but she is too young to know any of that yet, but i have been watching her quite often lately and she is a lot of energy and takes a lot of energy to keep up with, and i think she is wearing my poor sister out so i think she is glad when i come over and keep an eye on her for awhile. being the youngest in a small family is not too bad, but not being from a big family i could not give a great opinion of what that is like, since my best friend also came from a family like ours one boy and one girl and his sister was 3 days younger then i am and he was 10 days older then my sister.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Wow, you can even make one big birthday party, haven't you? I've known several brothers/sisters who also happened to have the same birth month, and they sometimes joined their birthday celebration. And in some cases, for expenses sake. LOL Hahaha, you're kinda bright boy timhinyy. Congrats!!! Wow, love to hear you have your baby niece now, I have mine too... she's the youngest so far, she is now learning to eat her food... and beginning to crawl, her older sister would hit her sometimes with pillows that she would cry out loud when not watched by her mother, specially if busy preparing meals. You know, small families nowadays should be the model of many big families out there like ours. It is better to make a big family if both parents have stable jobs, but in this era now that the budget is so tight, it's better to create small. However, I have no regret living with a big family, and as far as you enjoy the family bonding, whether small or big, doesn't matter. Thank you for the sharing!
@alilin28 (1530)
• Uruguay
22 Feb 10
well, at home, apart of my parents, im the older.. i only have one sister, and she is younger than me, and we have 4 years of age difference.. be the older has benefits and not benefits, because the parents "experimented" at the same time like u, and when u are younger, is different, the younger has all the way done! lol! (well, is a manner to say, lol).. thanks for asking, have a nice day
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Yes, that's it alilin28. LOL
@TAZNEM (656)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
in my case i am an only child. i get whatever i want and whenever i want it but given this i always wonder how it feels like to have brothers and sisters, i often watch my cousins fighting with their siblings and i always wanted to experience being nagged by a sibling or simply having someone in our house that trashes your stuff and invading your privacy for once.. to be an only child you have everything but it gets lonely sometimes=(
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Yes you are right there TAZNEM... being the only has all the chance of everything, except the chance to have the company of your sibling, however you still play with those other children in your place, but the sibling's presence is much more different. If you only child long to have a brother/sister, I, who is on the middle but play the role of an eldest child long too the opposite: How if I am the only child, is it more fun? Doing everything I want, etc. God bless TAZNEM.
@cher913 (25884)
• Canada
22 Feb 10
i am actually none of the above. you missed an important category in your list because you forgot onlies. i am an only child. my parents got pregnant shortly after they got married and then tried unsuccessfully to have another one (they tried for 12 years!). i often still wish i had a sibling but i really dont mind being an only. i think you grow up faster because you are around adults more.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Hi cher913, yes, that's it I missed 'onlies', and thank you for reminding me. I've also heard a lot of stories about only child, only son/daughter. They almost have the same experiences: they are loaded with everything, with love, care, attention, and material things because they have nothing to share with. And like yours, they always dream of the companionship of a sibling... and like what you have said, they would grow mature early in their young years because they are used to be with adults (their parents). However there are also cases that only child would grow dependent to their parents because they are used to be loved, to be cared.. . to be treated as baby. Yet I still believe, wherever us maybe: being the eldest, the middle, the youngest or the only, our childhood depends on how our parents molded us to be strong individuals.
@freeboy90 (458)
• Italy
22 Feb 10
I am the older one, we are two. I love my brother very very much, we often fight and at times I'd like to be only child but if I had to choose I'd never give up my little brother. there is this sort of string bond between brothers many times, even fighting and arguing I think it's natural.
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Yes that's natural freeboy90, brothers usually fight... I have my older brother too and we often argue with some matters, but we always resolved such... talking it, and accepting who between you did the mistake can help you solve it... and I love my brother, even if I could really show it to him!