Help! I like this girl alot, But shes taken.

United States
February 22, 2010 8:39pm CST
I have a friend who i like a great deal. Recently we've become pretty good friends and I've started to fall for her. The only problem is that she's taken. I've told myself its a bad idea to like her but i cant stop thinking about it. I told her how i feel and she said maybe we should wait a while and see what happens. Should I wait. I like her enough to wait for her but I'm scared that she wont be single any time soon. Please Help.
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@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Oh you don't need help about this, you simply back off. She's taken and if you really like her then respect her, i'm so sure you'll find someone else, or even better. i'm so sure that you don't want your gf to do the same thing to you, that would suck.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Or if you really like her and only her, then you have to wait. Don't do anything stupid as well, don't try to get any closer to her or else you'll just regret them, you'll get hurt. If both of you are really meant to be then that time would come, just be patient.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
In my opinion regarding your problem, PATIENCE IS a virtue.. It is not bad to love someone in freedom, but if you intentionally hurt someone else for your sake, then that is wrong to be considered. I understand your love for her. This is not a hard problem to solve. It is a matter of acceptance of the present situation and waiting for the proper time for yourself to freely show your love and affection in a different stage level of relationship. If you will think clearly, though she is presently taken, this is not assurance that she is committed for lifetime. There is no such thing as permanent but change. But, your relationship with her as good friends can have the assurance for long time and may lead to change and permanence. It is in you which among those two situation will you prefer. Your affection with her can grow more and you just have to wait for the right time as she said. The best you can do as of now, is able to support her, be a true friend and let your love bloom in such a way that time will prove both of you are worthy to have. This will give both of you realizations and what will be at stake in your relationship. A person who truly loves do patiently wait, understand, support and accept the situation, no matter how bitter it is, the important there is TIME had lead you both together for real.
• United States
23 Feb 10
YEAH, What he said!lol
@pilson (94)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I think it is better for you to wait a period of time if you do love her, love means you hope she have a happy life. anyway, in your situation, it is undoubtful that you will pay much, may be there will be no results for you both in the future. i think that girl also don't want to last the situation for a long term, so respect her before she makes the final decision.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
nah... stay away from her... she's already taken... learn to forget your feelings for her. she shouldn't give you signs because it seems like she wants you to be one of her reservations. girls like that aren't worth it of any guys' genuine love.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
If she's into a relationship right now, just back-off. Put your attention to somewhere else, you never know, there's someone waiting for you. Now, if you tell me that you love her so much, then I will have to say, just wait. If fate would be kind enough to you, it will make a way for you and to that girl that someday, somehow you meet again when she's free and things will not be complicated anymore.
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
WooOOOO...maybe you should think a million times before taking any steps!!!its so hard to be inloved to the girl who has already taken...
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
24 Feb 10
Hi, Nicapol. Well waiting on her would be entirely up to you. If you feel that this will give you a chance at being with her, then this is soley your decision. If you feel that she is not going to be solo anytime soon, then it is best to move on. It would not be fair to you to wait on her when there might be a female that is ready to be with you. If this girl is meant to be with you, then it will happen. But just continue to find love that is ready for you, not one that you will have to wait on.
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Well dude, unless you are absolutely sure she must be the girl you must spend your life with, back off a little and give her space. see it this way, if and when you two become an item, and another guy would want her and steal her from you, would you want that? You could also use the time you're waiting to really test if you truly love her or not. If its just fleeting feelings, they'll disappear while you're waiting. IMO, if you really do love her, they'll only get stronger. But respect her situation too mate. She has a someone in her life, but she wants to see where your relationship would go if there wasn't someone else. Be patient dude, she wouldn't tell you to wait if she didn't want you too. Just be observant for clues from her if she really wants you too or if she's just making you a back-up of sorts. That would hurt. Good luck mate.. ^_^
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
If she is already taken then don't anymore... back off Nicapol. It is not nice to intrude... Don't be the caused of her relationship break up or her confusion... Just think, if you are in the position of her boyfriend, how would you feel? Would you want your girl to be taken from you too or your girl to cheat on you??? Because there is someon out there who is trying to win her... That is definitely not good, right Nicapol?
@magicwin (15)
• Singapore
23 Feb 10
I think you should wait if you like her enough to wait for her then even if she is not single anymore at least you will respect her decisions, but maybe things might turn to the better side if you wait and she comes for you.
• United States
23 Feb 10
Well fate has its way of working problems like this out. if it is meant for you and her to be together it will happen. I suggest you wait and let time take its course continue to have relationship with the girl but try not to push yourself on her or make her feel pressure because that may drive her away from you. sounds like to me she likes you too yet knows what the right thing to do is. I hope this works out in your favor soon :o)
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Hi Nicapol, I don't think it is fair for you to put your life on hold and wait for this girl. I think you should date others because this girl is in a relationship with someone else already. If her relationship does not work out and she becomes single then you can decide if she is someone you may want to be with.
• Canada
23 Feb 10
You should let her go. Why not find a new girl to love. It's not wise to like a girl whose taken.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
your friend told you to wait..In other word you have the chance, then if you think you can wait for her then be patience cos it's a virtue. But, do not do anything that might broke them apart, never cross the line. If you're badly in love with her, wait with hope and be patience
@ralphido (843)
• India
23 Feb 10
well.. you know what they say.. " if you love something, you have to let it go... if it loves you, it will come back.." but in your case, i guess, it wouldn't be worth waiting for, since she does not even know that someone is out there waiting for her.. so i would say, give it a rest for now and move on ... if she's really meant for you.. she will be back eventually..
@laglen (19779)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Run! Run fast. She shouldnt keep you in the wings. She is taken, there are approximately 3449710000 women in the world. You can find another.
@Lata_45 (219)
• India
23 Feb 10
back offf stay friends there is nothing wrong in loving someone but dont expect same form that person too so just be friend with her
@umabharti (3976)
• India
23 Feb 10
Unless she also likes u we cant come to a decision.If u really love her and need her and if ur love is true then she shall definetly be yours,But just see that u r not indulging in to a pair who are already one life.
@jugsjugs (13038)
23 Feb 10
I think you should leave well alone as that way no one will get hurt.There is nothing worse than wanting something or someone that you know that you may never have.I am sure you would not like it if some one wanted to try to take someone away from you that you loved.Think how the other person would feel rather than just your feelings.
@Metono (5)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Well if you really feel special about being with her...i think its good to wait but you will have to take every painful thing you would probably see when she's with her boyfriend