Single, Looking! If You Are Single, Do You Think About Marriage Very Much??

@artistry (4152)
United States
February 22, 2010 11:42pm CST
If you are a single individual, are you enjoying your life, or are you thinking about marriage? Or are you doing both? What do you think is a good age to get married? Are you pressuring yourself with the thought of marriage? Share your thoughts.
3 responses
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
i used to enjoy mylife while still single with big income on hand. i can do everything. i never even imagine myself looking for partner coz im enjoying my life. but things change. now, i dont have even boyfriend and yet i am pregnant and dont have job. wow, what a crazy life isnt it. thanks god i have my ex right now. i still want to get married someday so that my child can have a father figure while he or she grow up.
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@artistry (4152)
• United States
23 Feb 10
...Hi there homeshoppers, You sound as if you were really having a good time with your single life. The fact that you don't have a job can be a bummer. We need money for our day to day livlihood. It is good that your ex is there to provide some support. If you feel it is the right thing to do, to get married to whomever you may consider, then good, but be careful in your choice. You don't want to go from the frying pan in to the fire. Take care of yourself and your pregnancy, good luck to you with everything.
• United States
24 Feb 10
@homeshoppers, you may find this to be none of my business, and maybe it isn't, but you brought it up and I can't help but wonder how your situation came about. Obviously I know the how, but if your ex is not the father and I'm assuming he is there more for moral support than to take on the role of father? Is it possible that you find yourself depressed by the fact that you no longer have the financial freedom you once enjoyed and being a single mother is less of a concern? In other words, if you had a big income and could afford to take care of you and your soon to be child, would you still want a father figure, or would you like to raise your child on your own, not only for your own self esteem but to show your child that it is possible to enjoy life on your own terms?
@jlamela (4905)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
I am single and I am eager to get married and I cannot wait another decade.lol!I mean I am already tired being single and I want to get married as much as possible, I want to have a family of my own and I want to have kids. I am beginning to feed up with the cruelty of circumstances. Why I was always on the last priority list, if there's an opportunity for me to be closed to a guy I am ended up rejected!oh gosh!
@artistry (4152)
• United States
23 Feb 10
...Hi jlamela, In this world I think we have to be careful that we are not being influenced by society, that we should all want to be married if we are of age and are single. If we come from a family that has a history of people staying married and being happy in their marriages, I think that I can understand why a person might then want to share in the possibilities of a happy marriage. But of the people who get married in the U.S. at least, over 50% of them wind up divorced, so we all need to be sure we are ready for the flexibility that marriage requires. Our fantasy of how marriage is going to be, might not live up to the reality. That also applies in my opinion to having children. I used to think that children make marriages happier, studies they say disprove that theory. So at any rate, good luck to you in your quest to get married, try to enjoy your life where your are, until things change for you. Take care and thanks for your response.
@1hopefulman (45560)
• Canada
25 Feb 10
I enjoy my singleness and at times I think about getting married again. It would be nice but...and there are so many buts.
@artistry (4152)
• United States
1 Mar 10
...Hi 1hopefulman, I think you said an awful lot in a few words. Enjoying the state that you are in is very important, that to me would mean that you are not spending your time trying to change where you are in life as a single person. You are baasically satisfied. At times you think about getting married again, but not all the time. Therefore it appears that things are in balance. It would be nice, but....so where you are now, is where you are content to be for the foreseeable future, but? So we will leave it at an enjoyable phase. Thanks for your very interesting response, take good care. "o)