Does Your Partner Have Any Annoying Habits?

@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
February 23, 2010 7:14pm CST
I'm sure if my hubby was on here he would list a few of mine but seeing as he isn't I shall go on about his! I am ashamed to say that he doesn't wash himself perhaps as often as he should. He is not the only male partner I have had who is like this so I would be interested to know if it is a worldwide phenomenon or limited to the North West of England! He falls asleep on the couch when really he should be in bed. That is a man thing as well but you may know different..do tell. Tonight, for example, he went to play snooker, admittedly in Arran, which is in Scotland but he was back just before 11pm. He then ate an awful kebab and fell asleep with Sky News on the telly. Time he went to bed? 12.40am! I did try to wake him up but to no avail. He very rarely goes to bed before midnight and he wonders why he's so tired when he gets up (sometimes at 6am) for work in the morning AND he has to drive 15 miles. I despair of him at times, I really do! He never says "no" to his parents. What they say goes in his eyes (unless I'm with him in their house, then they won't dare to palm him off with ANYTHING) lol. He never has money for bits and bobs for the house but he can ALWAYS find money for his precious Carlisle United Football Club. Granted, I go with him to the games but I'm always thinking about the money we could save not going; he doesn't! He insists on getting the cat "daft" when he's had a drink. He tries to train her like a dog and wonders why he fails miserably. Er, John, she's a CAT! They don't like being told what to do! So, over to you my friends. I love my hubby dearly (really)? Of course I do! I wouldn't be here otherwise!
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
24 Feb 10
One thing mine does that drives me nuts is he constantly defers the decision making to me. I love that he values my input and all but too often it seems like he just wants me to be the one to say 'no' to someone. And when someone asks him a question - HIM, not US - he will quite often just look at me like, 'answer for me, please'. I really hate that. I don't want him to rely on me for every little thing and I refuse to let him turn into his father and turn me into his mother - I won't do everything for him and I don't really want to be viewed as 'the one who wears the pants'. Not that he expects me to do everything around the house or anything like that, but he could definitely get used to me being the one who makes all the decisions, handles all the finances and stuff like that. I refuse to let him get so complacent! So far I think I'm doing OK though. He also doesn't listen - which I realize is definitely not out of the ordinary for a man. He always asks about things I know I've told him about. He says it's just due to a bad memory but it bugs me because it really seems more like he just plain doesn't listen when I talk. We've been planning and discussing renovations for MONTHS and he still doesn't know which colors are going where; even though I've told him a dozen times, I haven't once changed my mind about them and there's only 2 different colors. I know men don't give a poop about paint colors but sometimes I can't help but feel like he just doesn't care enough about ME to listen. Which I know is silly buy sometimes I just can't help it!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
24 Feb 10
Ug, in laws. We had similar in law issues some time ago but we're finally on the same page. They definitely think they should have a bigger part in out lives than they do but thankfully my husband won't have any of it.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Your man sounds a lot like my Dad. Time and time again Mum tells him something and then later on in the week he claims she didn't tell him!! Grrr! My husband, on the other hand, DOES listen but I don't get much of a reaction from him, especially when I tell him off. I suppose this is just as well as neither of us would like a row but it can be frustrating from my point of view because his parents and sister are ALL THE SAME AS HIM! Nothing can be done in this house without the input of the in-laws and I'm afraid that's going to stop as of now. I have my reasons but wait for the sparks to fly if they ever want to do stuff in here! It's about time we stood on our own two feet and got professionals in to do a PROPER JOB!
• India
24 Feb 10
How very hilarious yet so absolutely true and yes, your love for him permeates thru your post. The worst annoying habit my hubby has is snoring…AND he wont agree that this was with him all along, he rather insists that our son, when a baby, jabbed his nostrils with his tiny fingers and from then on the nostril opened so wide that … well… almost a storm passes by every night *sigh* AND he’s off water for the entire winter period…thank God that Indian winters are not so long…just a month maybe with the severity, but even then I am aghast as to how a person can go without a bath for a month and yet be perfectly hale and hearty! ALSO he’s a master at procrastinating house chores which just needs to be done…he outdoes me in procrastination so you can well imagine our fights as to who should get the bulb changed or who should fix the leaking tap LOL but then life goes on and I just love him for whatever he is
• India
25 Feb 10
I can see John clearly...very similar to my hubby
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Haha! What an entertaining response, my friend. Deary me, you have your work cut out with hubby don't you! I think they are put on this earth to test us on a daily basis. Life would be such a chore without challenges every day to prove how much we love our dear husbands! You should have seen the state of John when he went to work at 6am. If you remember he went to bed at 1240am...not a good idea! Then he had to drive to work. After tea tonight he will just sit there and vegetate for a few hours. I won't be able to get any words out of him at all. It's a good job I'm not a DIY freak lol. Haha! We'd be divorced by now!
• Canada
24 Feb 10
Hi Janey, mmmm there used to be little things that bothered me but they dont anymore. I think I have the greatest husband. He doesnt drink, doesnt go out unless WE go somewhere together, he'll do anything I ask of him, he can fix anything I manage to break haha and he does it as soon as I ask him to. He helps me around the house but at times Id rather not, Im quite anal about how I do things, but I dont tell him he's not doing it MY way, I'll find something else for him to do. He does the groceries because he knows I hate shopping for food. He's always taking care of our property outdoors, cuts the grass every week, shovels the snow, etc. I cant find one thing that bothers me. What used to bother me is when he has to do something, he'll need to think about it and he drums his fingers on his thigh....used to drive me nuts but it doesnt now. I couldnt ask for a better husband. My ex used to drink and Im so happy I dumped him. I couldnt stand someone who drinks. It changes a person when they do. I dont drink myself. Oh and hubby puts up with me smoking in the house (he doesnt) Often times I'll wait to smoke because he's around and he's the one telling me that it doesnt bother him. He knew I was a smoker when we met. No I wont share him with anyone, so dont even think about it
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I guess our men in the Philippines are better off in the bathing or washing department. It's a part of our daily routine to bathe in the morning. It must be because we are in a hot country. However, the men here are as careless and lazy as the men coming from your country. They leave all the chores to the women while all they do is prim up themselves.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
25 Feb 10
Is that so? Well, at least my hubby helps out with the washing-up and ironing although he could do with priming himself at times. Still love him though.
• United States
24 Feb 10
I have been married to my dear hubby for 25 years and I love him dearly. Yes, he has some annoying habits. For one he can belch the loudest most obnoxious belch that I have ever heard in my life. He doesn't do it on purpose it just happens. He also falls asleep on the couch but if I do he wakes me up and tells me to go to bed. O.k. like I can get back to sleep. Lol
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Haha! I like it! It's the same with me although I never fall asleep downstairs...I just go to bed when I'm tired. Hubby on the other hand will sleep downstairs for what seems like an eternity. I've never been able to do that..unless I'm ill and then I'll go to bed anyway. He's being a martyr at the moment with his cold, bless 'im. You would've thought he'd go to bed really wouldn't you? Haha! I must admit I belch sometimes. In fact I probably do it more than hubby. Fancy that lol! Welcome to MyLot by the way!
• United States
25 Feb 10
i love my wife. but her most annoying habit is when im onthe phone. she keeps trying to talk to me when im in the middle of a convo. sometimes i just want to tell her to just wait a minute!! lol
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
25 Feb 10
Haha! I like your diplomatic answer my friend. Welcome to MyLot!
24 Feb 10
Oh that sounds so familiar hun. While i love my partner to pieces, I really wish he would come home from work and go on and on about every little thing that has happened during his day. Right now I am trying to ignore him as he tells me about one of his colleagues being late back from lunch, and the fact that there is a milk thief in the office. I really don't want to hear about his work day in such minute detail, it drives me nuts.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Haha! I like it although you probably don't lol. My husband doesn't go on like that about work (sometimes I wish he would actually) but just flops down onto the "magic couch" as we call it and will fall asleep....eventually. I've been on my own all day and sometimes I feel like a widow!
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 10
Never says no to his family, yep. Complains about spending money for counseling then goes and drops more than that at the casino. Says he's going to do something and doesn't follow through. that's just a few...
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Oh dear. My hubby has a "thing" about casinos but, luckily there aren't any here in Carlisle...but he's been to Vegas loads more times than me and he just can't help himself. He reckons he only bets with what he can afford to lose but deep down in my brain I'm going, "yeh, right!" I'm mortified if I lose $10 on the slots, to me that's a fortune! So I do sympathise with you, I really do.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
24 Feb 10
I am pretty lucky. My husband doesn't really do anything that bothers me. I think I am the one who does the annoying things to him - lol! The worst thing about my husband is that he snores. He doesn't always snore, thank goodness. He snores when he is under stress. I always know when he feels stressed, because his snoring gets louder and louder. I have a really hard time getting any sleep when he is stressed!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Sorry to hear that. If my husband snores I just go in the other room. It saves a lot of arguments!
@pandaeyes (2065)
24 Feb 10
Haha! Mine falls asleep too. He doesn't watch football though,he likes war films and cowboy films. It seems to be anything with killing in it which to me is so dreary and not very nice so he will sit and watch all by himself quite happily. His very worst habit is the 'drop it where he lets go' thing which involves the thing in his hand becoming the thing out of his hand never to move again unless someone else moves it. That is frustrating,letters,papers,clothes,dishes anything. I just ignore it now and point out that his key/coat/wallet/glasses is where he last put it down when he is in a hurry and looking for it. I am sure he has a long list of my habits too.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Haha! Thanks for that, very entertaining I must say! He sounds like my Dad, he likes those kind of films too, no wonder Mum is in the other room watching stuff SHE likes lol. Unfortunately, this house does not have as much storage space as I would like so John will open a letter and just leave it, either on the settee where he is sat, down on the floor next to him or on the coffee table. They are never stored away although he will bin them...eventually. My goal is to have a coffee table or magazine rack thingy with drawers so at least he can keep everything together. He's one of those people that has to see his stuff "displayed" so he doesn't forget paying bills. Er, that's what you have diaries for isn't it? Or a calendar. I give up lol.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Well, there's really none of his habits that annoys me, i love everything he does to me and if there's one of us that has annoying habits, it must be me, LOL. It has to be me and sometimes I can even notice him getting annoyed specially when we tell each other i love you almost every minute and sometimes he's just busy to say i love you too to me, sometimes i'll repeat it so that he'll say i love you back, so he gets annoyed and sometimes even get mad at me. He tells me that I should learn to know that he loves me so much even if he doesn't say it as much as I do. So I try to control myself, but most of the time I just like to hear it from him, and I am just so lucky, I could see that he tries his very best not to get annoyed by me. :)
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Feb 10
Awww that's so sweet my friend! When you get older though, you will realise that neither of you need to say "I love you" all the time. It's in the way you look into each other's eyes, that will say it instead!