building a home
@churchill1980 (764)
Philippines
February 23, 2010 8:18pm CST
me and my partner just got married and we are still on the stage of planning and doing the things we've planned for our future together. he just bought a house for us, a farm in the province and planning to have a car next year after his contract from work. but we are still hoping to build a house where we will spend our old years. we planned to build it in the province where his farm is located. the problem now is that as i am left here in the Philippines to manage his and my income because i am working and earning on my own too, i don't know what are the things to prioritize with our finances. i plan to buy appliances for our house, but i am afraid he will not like it when he comes home. i always think that it would be much better if the two of us will decide which style and brand to buy, but there are things i need in the house while he is away. i also planned to have our house repainted so it will look nice and he will be surprise when he comes home but i am indecisive to do it too. what do you think should i do? should i spend our money on things like that or just save it and wait for him til he comes home?
7 responses
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hi churchill, congratulations and your new found status in life. It is sad though that you are separated early on in the relationship. But there are things to attend to and the finances comes first. Don't ponder much about the old age. Think about it when you are both on that age. Right now, furnish your home according to your judgment. Your husband will feel bad if he comes home to an empty house and to a wife who is afraid of his comments. You can always compromise if something is strongly against his taste. Never allow though your preferences to suffer. I do hope that you have a lasting married life. Call on God always!
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
thank you so much for giving an idea about my concern. you are right, he will not be happy to come into an empty house when all he's been doing is to work for our family. i am just afraid that i might overspend, i don't know to where my limitations is, i am only used in spending my own money but now that it's our shared money, i am afraid i might overspend. thank you for your response.
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
As you said, there are important things to buy this early. Why don't you send him an email about it? Tell him your suggestions and ask if it's fine with him. I'm pretty sure that there will be things you would agree on. Of course, the ones you should buy now are the ones of top priority, all the others you can buy once he gets home. For the repainting, try doing the basic white or cream/beige. At least it isn't flashy. The most important thing here is communicating with him. You can do that even if you're far away from each other.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
thank you for the response, it will really help me in making up my mind. you are right, i think i need to paint the house so it will look presentable, just with white or beige. and we can repaint it when he comes with the color of his desire. i should also buy for the more important things in the house and leave the least priority when he comes. thank you again for your response.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
That's awesome..
Congratulations on having your new home, and building it some-more..all the more better.
If you ask me, I'd say to keep it to a minimal.. use your instincts and buy reasonable stuffs and necessities to beautify your new home. Stuffs that you know he and you would use on a day to day basis, I think that one you can use your taste without asking him in details. Perhaps just update him when you have the chance to contact him on what you intend to buy and all that. Tell him, and show him that you can be trusted with both of your budget combined together. Have a happy home and I wish you all the best.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
i guess you will just need to save your earnings first and wait for him, its better if both of you decided so there will be no problem in the future. theres nothing wrong in buying appliances but i guess you just need to buy the very common that you always use like a fridge, a television then wait for him for the rest. you can also tell him about your plan so he can share his part so that he will not be surprised to see new things when he got home.
@nagendra002mvs (165)
• India
24 Feb 10
i think building a house is not a easy task it requires huge money and huge planning go through it and prepare at first
@amarkovi (63)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
24 Feb 10
Get an architect to design the house for you: you'll get plans, views, colors schemes ... e-mail them to your housband and decide together. Since you are both going to be living there I think the best way is to agree on all things together. Or you could just wait for him to return. Since you have a home, the best thing is to do the project for the new house slowly and without pressure - it will be a great experience!
