Would you stay with him?

For me, if my boyfriend is ashamed of me in front of his mother or doesnt want me to meet his mother, I would break up with him. It seems that this guy has a mother-complex or something, where he adores his mom too much. First, if he doesnt want me to meet his mom, then I would take it that he is not serious in relationship with me. For me relationship means getting to know each other and ended up in marriage later on, and for that to happens, I would have to meet his mom and dad, so how can he says he loves me and serious with me if he doesnt want his mom to know me ? Second, what does he meant by Im not the kind of girl his mom would want? Is he saying his mom thinks he deserves better ? Sorry I wouldnt tolerate that kind of things. In relationship there is a need to respect each other. If he is ashamed of me, then its his losses :)

I would not break up with him because of his mother. There may be an issue with is mother that he does not want her to see. If they are happy with each other then everyone else really does not matter. Family dynamics are real tricky. as parents we want the best for our children. In return, children are not allowed to make their own decisions. When do you cut the strings and live your life? Every one makes mistakes and that's okay as long as you learn from them and you do not hurt another person. He sounds like he needs to grow up and be a man to his mother. Relationships are hard that's why you have to work for them. Maybe she should ask questions and arrange to meet with her on her own. Or she could ask what is it that she may not like about me, or what kind of girl am I to her, or what kind of girl does she think should be with her baby? Its hard good luck.

No, I would not stay with him. I would think he was either ashamed of his mother or of me, and I would wonder why, and then I would decide that the real problem was him, and I would dump him.

Hi this is a very tricky situation because as a girl it is very important that she bonds with the mother more than any other peron in the household. If it were a guy, we would be looking at the fathers side. However, the only person that can save the situation is the boyfriend. He should talk to the mother and ask her why she does not like his girlfriend and let her know he loves her regardless of her opinion and would wish that she supports them keeping in mind that she can make other members change thier decisions. Keeping the girlfriend away from the mother is not a good idea.

It seems quite strange that you have met the rest of his family and not his mother. Does she even know her son is dating, or is it the case of he broke up with someone else that his mother loved only to start dating you? You need to have a heart to heart with him about your relationship and where he sees this going. If he truly loves you then he owes it to you to introduce you to his mother and let his mother make up her own mind about what she thinks of you. Has he even told her about you, or is he keeping his relationship a secret from his mom as well? If he can't give you serious answers about it, it may be best to cut him loose no matter how much it pains you to do so. You deserve better than someone who doesn't feel you are important enough to introduce to the other most important person in his world, his mom.

I've had a similar experience as you, honey. It's really sad and disappointing at first, and we get to all these sudden conclusions because of our disappointments and hurts, but we should take time to see what our boy friend's reason could be. In my case my boy friend was from a strict political family and it took time before he could formally introduce me to his parents. The reason why he wouldn't do it before is like your reason: I'm not exactly the type and ideal girl they'd have for him. Don't take it against your boy friend, I do think he's just protecting you. But given time I'm sure he will introduce you. It's also about proper timing. Anyway, hope you hold on and make the right choice! Don't throw your relationship away just because of a mom like that!

..hi.. well, for me, if I'm the guy, I would talk to my mother first about my girlfriend and explain to her that she is the kind of person I want and I love.. and I'll tell her the positive traits of my girlfriend and the reason why I fall for her.. I know and I believe that soon, the mother will understand.. on the other hand, in case I'm the girl, then I think that's out of my control already.. Maybe, the best thing for me to do is, talk to my boyfriend and ask him if he really loves me, because if he loves me, then he will do everything to convince her mother about me.. that's already one the situations being faced by lovers.. but since it will be you who would stay together in the end, then it doesn't matter if the mother wouldn't favor the girl.. Maybe, as the days go by, the mother will also realize why her son chose that kind of girl.. don't give up immediately and never attempt to let your boyfriend chose between you and her mother.. just open your heart and mind to her.. accept her mother as she is and be yourself..

What??? Exactly the opposite type of girl that her mother would have like for her son!!!! That is so sharp! Oh my! That would definitely hurt me! Why? Didn't her boyfriend love her so much? Why can't he stand for her girl? So how long does her boyfriend would try to hide her from his mother? If I were the girl, I would ask for a cool off. Am I not good enough for him? His mother doesn't know me personally, and don't I have good traits at all? I don't deserve to be hidden as if I am a shameful person. Remember, he did not ask for time, he said straightly to my face " I am the opposite", the reason why he doesn't like to introduce me to his mother..." It is not fair to be treated like that vjenkins86. I would definitely understand, if he ask for time... But not like the way he told that thing to me... I want to be loved TRULY! And I don't think the guy genuinely loves me, if that is the case... It is hard to let go but I rather leave than to be hurt more in the end. I need a man that could stand up for me. A man that would love me whle heartedly...

I'd leave him. If there aren't enough issues now, there will be down the road...

It's a tough situation. I know that the boyfriend wants to make everyone happy, but it can't happen with the mother not being able to accept the girlfriend. The mother needs to realize that her son is a man now, not a little kid anymore. She can't pick his friends or pick his lovers. The boyfriend needs to stand up to his mother, if he really cared about his girlfriend. Personally, I think that the girlfriend should just throw in the towel because there is no use for her being in a relationship with a man whose mother doesn't approve of the relationship. She can do better, I'm sure.