Are you friendly to all your neighbours or is there a rotten apple ?

@pandaeyes (2068)
February 25, 2010 7:36am CST
We have just had the fence at the bottom of the garden mended. Well not us personally,it isn't our fence but it closes in the whole of the bottom end. About 5 or 6 years ago , some of it fell into the garden and we went to ask the neighbour who owns it(2 people own it but one is domineering and fights with the other) to please put it back up. Well they said they would and then nothing happened. A couple of years ago ,another bit fell and yet again we asked please put it back. Eventually about 40 feet had fallen in. A few days ago, I saw some workmen actually standing it up. It was so long in happening and we must have asked 3 or 4 times in all and so did some of my next door neighbours. I think this person must be thinking of selling their house. When selling now,you have to disclose disputes with neighbours and so it is finally in this persons interests to get it done. I think this is the only neighbour with whom we have ever had a disagreement in all the years we have lived at this address. How are your neighbours when it comes to getting along? Do you have a good relationship with them or is there one who is the rotten apple?
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@derek_a (10898)
25 Feb 10
Yes, we have great neighbours now that we've moved. They are very pleasant and ready to lend a hand if we need help. We we lived before was in the city and we had bad neighbours who didn't care for anybody except themselves. They would regularly have parties that lasted into the following morning, shouting and playing loud music. I am glad we left the city and came to live where we are now in a country village that is very quiet. _Derek
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@pandaeyes (2068)
25 Feb 10
Ours were just the opposite. When we lived in a village it was our immediate neighbours who were annoying and it wasn't noise or parties it was just a strange need to complain about every little tiny thing. Now we are in a town and have many more friends amongst the locals. The two noisy party families that have come here in the last few years have settled down now they have kids and were never really any problem socially otherwise.
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@derek_a (10898)
26 Feb 10
Oh yes, neighbours who complain about every little thing can be very annoying. And my philosophy about noisy neighbours Alice is to do what I can before it gets any umbearable. I would let noisy neighbours know straight awway now if ever if happened again. Then they would know that I am not going to stand for it and will do all in my power to get them to stop. There are noise laws in place in the UK and some noisy people don't seem to realize this! [_Derek
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@derek_a (10898)
27 Feb 10
Oh yes, I say live and let live too, and if neighbours come and tell me they are going to have a late-night party, then I will be OK with that. It is when they don't tell me that the problems can start, because that has shown me that they are inconsiderate with the people who live around them. _Derek
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@allknowing (81651)
• India
26 Feb 10
I have a couple of neighbours who have no consideration for others but others being tolerant which excludes me I do have issues with these but that does not bother me. I have kept them at arm's length and have bought my peace.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
I had a work colleague like that years ago. She was fine if I just kept at a distance from her but because there were not many females and she was the type who wanted to be the popular one with the men, she could be very petty . I wasn't bothered how popular she was with them but she seemed to think that the other women at the firm were all vying for position.
@allknowing (81651)
• India
26 Feb 10
That reminds me of my days in the office. Being a go getter obviously I had enemies but had I been what I am today I would have been much happier. I took everything to heart and came back home with sob stories. Years have matured me and I take things in my stride knowing that the green eyed monster is at every nook and corner and the best way to treat it is to ignore it.
@se7enthbird (8326)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
neighbors come and go here in our house. most of them are very busy that we barely know who they are. we know the face but we never had the chance to talk with them. we havea friendly neighbor but we seldom see them. husband wife and a child just like us. but their son goes to school already. mine is just four years old. we know their names and they know are names and we exchanged gifts last christmas. i know they are busy for they both work but they still manage to smile and say hi or hello every time we see each other out.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
Nice that you exchanged gifts. We do swap Christmas cards with quite a lot of people in the street. I think when your child starts school the other persons parents might get more talkative because having children in school even if they are different ages, is topic for conversation.
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
they gave us sweet tarts and we gave them steamed bread. yes our four year old child will soon start summer school its like an introductory for the real school and we are looking forward for it. i know there is another topic to talk about with the neighbors.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
25 Feb 10
We are cordial with our neighbours. We aren't friends especially but we don't go out of our way to upset them and I imagine that they are the same with us. We are a lot older than both sets of neighbours but fortunately they have the small children and so are always apologizing about noise. At the weekend the female partner on one side was extremely noisy. I wouldn't be surprised if there isn't another small child along in a few months time! LOL.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
25 Feb 10
Oh ! Well that sort of noise is not particularly terrible so long as it isn't all the time LOL This neighbour with the fence is one I have never met as my husband always went to ask although I met the other person who was responsible for the fence(her neighbour). He sounded like he was frightened of her. We have people a few doors up with little girls and they were quite party people before kids but have quietened down a lot.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
25 Feb 10
I've just thought. You might be my neighbour! (Not the noisy one necessarily) Wouldn't that be funny. LOL.
• Estonia
26 Feb 10
I live in an apartment, so there are many neighbours around. We had some small conflicts in the past, but during the last couple of years we didn't have any serious problems with them. We get along just fine and even help each other at the moment of need.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
27 Feb 10
We used to live in an apartment also and I wonder sometimes if that manner of living makes people more tolerant. I think it does. I can remember hearing domestic fights(verbal and breaking crockery) but noone ever complaining at the noise. People were very friendly.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
For me I'm very good to my neighbor I make that emotion because the Jehovah God don't allow his people to be not good to everyone.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
I agree with that. It is all about humanity and being equal. I do think though that you have to always be a little bit cautious as some people will take advantage of open friendship. I would help anyone who asked for it but will always evaluate the situation carefully and if I find it doesn't seem quite right,I would say so. We have been too naive in the past and regretted it.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I try to be friendly with all of my neighbors if possible. You never know when you will need each other for some kind of help or support. Don't burn bridges that are not necessary.
@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
You are right. Some people call that social networking but I think that sounds a bit cold and clinical an even selfish. It is all about being able to get along together and that involves equal amounts of interaction from all sides. We had a neighbour who's son was in school with mine. She seemed very cold but sociable. We would have her son round to play but she never had ours in return. When I said we were not going to drive to school anymore but walk instead, she seemed to lose interest in being friendly. She got a new job and persuaded another mother at the school to have her children every day after school . I decided that we had probably been removed from her list of free child care because our car had been taken out of the equation and that was why she had become aloof. They moved away about 2 years ago and hardly anyone noticed,I suppose because there was much more take than give.
@hofferp (4737)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I think I'm the only neighbor that gets along with all the neighbors in my area. But I can't say that for my neighbors. Almost all of them dislike one neighbor in particular (she can be a "drama" queen, but I get along with her fine); some of them dislike two or more. The good thing about liking everybody...you get invited to everyone's parties.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
It is quite hard to be everyone's friend if they are not friendly with each other isn't it? You have to be neutral and try to keep comments under control. We have a lady one one side of us who is very old and her daughter is often at the house. We really love the old lady but the daughter is quite strange and has very little common sense. Even my neighbour on the other side of us who has known her for much longer than us, is tired of all the silliness but both of us do talk to her and try not to show that it is hard work to stand and listen.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I am friendly to all my neighbors, or at least I'm civil. But then, I don't have any bad neighbors. If there were someone I really disliked, then I would probably try to avoid them as much as possible.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
Its hard when you must live in the same street with someone if you don't get on with them. One of the young couples that moved here about 10 years ago,bought the house of a couple who were everyone's favourite. It made it hard for the young couple to fill the space if you see what I mean. They were such a contrast. Finally they settled down and are very friendly and nice people.
25 Feb 10
In general I get on well with most of my neighbours BUT we also have the neighbours from hell in our road and despite numerous complaints and arguments, they persist in being the rotten apples in the area. Just before Christmas last year my neighbours and I had occasion to complain when they had a party which resulted in a drunken brawl in the street.
@pandaeyes (2068)
25 Feb 10
There is a 'no good boyo' further along from us. He is not unpleasant but has had the odd very loud party. His next door neighbours took him to court and they won but moved as well. Really I think they weren't very tolerant as he has been no trouble to anyone since they moved away. Sometimes people just are unlucky and move next to their nemesis in life. We did in our previous house. Here we are very lucky.