Man if I didn't love my man I would ........(its kinda of long winded lol lol)

United States
February 26, 2010 3:40pm CST
Smack the holy crap out of him. Now I do not have to many grips about my man. But, here lately it's like he is pushing every make me mad button I have. Okay, so here is the story. I work close to 50hrs a week. I work right downstairs from where I live. Which is really convenient. My boses do not mind If I need to lock the door for a while and run up stairs to take care of something. Well any who on with the story. Like I said I work close to 50 hrs a week sometimes even working 54 hrs a week. I also attend online classes. I have 2 kids one in school and one not. At this moment in time I work and my boyfriend stays at home. I just got a job offer before he did. Now I know being a stay at home parent is not an easy job I been there and done that. But, my god come on. I come home from work and have to wash every dish in the house before I can cook a dinner. Now he picks up the house after my 2 year old, and that a chore in it self trust me. But, he cant pick up a dish and wash it! Really! And then on top of all that my little brother which is 19 is there. No mind you I pay for all the bills, all their internet to play the 2 xbox 360 I have bought on the 37 inch flat screen I got for my b/f bday. And niether one of them can was a dish. Man this just really makes me so mad. So I went on strike about a week ago before I done this I took all the dirts dishes and washed them one last time, put them away. Man you should see my house. I am wow. and they are still not doing nothing every dish in the house is dirty. Its just awful! So now I been at work since 10am I get off at 9pm I have to go home and clean because I cant stand it anymore. I am just so mad! I just give up on it really! If it wasnt for my kids I would just let it go and rent a hotel room lol lol! You just ever just want to throw your hands up and throw the white towel in. Reguardless I am going to keep on keeping on finish school and work and do what I have to do. But, man I need a spa day ( which I have never ever had) and some time for me before I am no good to no one! Errrrrrrrrr! Thanks for listening to me vent I feel so much better! Woot Woot! You all have a great day!
4 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Sometimes you just have to spell things out for them. I would not only go off on him, I would go off on your brother. You should really not have to do anything. If they are not working, but are taking care of the kids, they should be picking up the slack or the internet and 360 goes. Be stern with them, but not nasty.
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• United States
26 Feb 10
Well lol lol I tried the nice approach didn't work lol lol. So I went the other direction. I wasnt to nasty but, it dont matter they both looked at me like I was asking them for a million dollars. They just couldnt beleave that I was asking them for more help. And then the nerve to yell at me for leave my coffe cups on my desk, and that they dont dirty the dishes that its me and my 9 year old son that does it. So I will just go home and clean. I have been doing now for like3 months it usally dont bother me. It is just starting to get to me or I am just having on of those days. Not sure but I am sure this will pass. Like my mother says. "This to shall pass" I am pretty strong person. But, thanks for reading and giving me the advise.
• United States
26 Feb 10
Well, I did just get some good news. My 16 year old neice just called and asked if she could come over and spend the weekend with me and I said yes. She was all like ok if you need help cleaning I will help! So I do have some help and I am going to see if my boss with give me a day off. So I can catch up with everything.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I am glad you are getting help, but it isn't coming from the right source. There is no way you should have to take it all on.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
27 Feb 10
Ok, let me see. I can relate to most of what you go threw. Accept for the work part. My hubby had this week off as there project are finished. Now, i wash the dishes after dinner. Leave him alone at home for one day, and i need to see a very dirty kitchen. But he has an almost good excuse. Men don't do dishes. Their feet are too big, too fit close to the sink or they are scared of breaking a nail. Hope you can make sense of this. TATA.
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• United States
27 Feb 10
LOL Yeah I guess I can A little. It wouldnt be so bad if every dish in the house wasnt dirty but, that is what happens. I just feel like throwing them all away which I can't do but, it sure dose sound good.
• United States
28 Feb 10
Yeah! I know we ran out! They go through them like crazy I think pay day I am going to buy a case of them. Cause sometimes I am feeding up to 7 people so....
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
28 Feb 10
Well, you can always try some paper plates. Just a thought, you know. TATA.
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@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
it's kinda long... LOL anyways, if you can't convince him to change his lifestyle then better leave him. he's not worth it! aside from that, it's not only you that will suffer... it's your children. think about it.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hi! Your boyfriend rocks! I think you should tell him your problem and say it this and you mean business. YOu have been exhausted and dying all day and when you get home the house is a mess? If he really cares for you he shouldn't be like that. That's what I think.harhar I think this is the best time to move out. haha Good luck!
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• United States
27 Feb 10
O it's not that serious I am not going to leave him over some house work.He does clean up after our daughter as I stated. It's the dishes really! I am the only one the does them. No granted he may not clean like I do but he does try. He could do a better job of course. But, I wouldnt leave him over it. I love him very much. And like I said its house work so...
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
Okies. LOVE Conquers all after all... I hope that you could find a way about your household chores problem though... Take good care!