I just wasted 10 months of my life.

United States
February 27, 2010 12:21am CST
I think I just wasted the last 10 months of my life working on a marriage that was doomed to fail from day one. I married my daughters father. Boy was that the wrong thing to do. He acts like a bigger kid than our 13 year old daughter. When we first got married, he quit his job and I was supporting him and my 2 kids. Finally he got a job that was costing more than he was making. He is a truck driver and this company would send him out and he would take a load of freight and then he would sit out in some strange town until they felt like getting him something else to do. Sometimes that would be for 2 weeks, so I was still supporting him. I was paying all the bills, feeding and clothing the kids, keeping the car up, I was doing it all. I still felt like a single parent except with 3 kids now. All I have heard since we have been married is "I want to get one of these" or "I want this" or "I want that". He ain't making any money to help me out so we can't get all that and he has temper tantrums like a 3 year old He ran the cell phone bill up to 1500 dollars and when I questioned him about it, he just said oh well, we can't pay it. I had to have that one turned off and am making payments. We now have new cells and when he ran it up to 400 dollars, I fussed about it. He went out behind my back and got a new cell with a different carrier and thought that I wouldn't find out. I called him today on his new phone and caught him totally by surprise. When I asked him when he got it all he could say was "when did I get it?" I am now furious and I think that I am totally over this marriage. I could have put myself in debt if that's where I wanted to be, but I was not in debt and I didn't owe any outrageous bills like I do now. I can't take it anymore. Should I leave or should we try again to talk things out? He has a lot of #'s on his phone bill that he won't tell me who they belong to so that makes me think he's cheating. Can anyone offer advice? I am at my wit's end.
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@spalladino (17922)
• United States
27 Feb 10
This guy is not going to magically change just because you have a talk with him. It sounds like he's irresponsible and selfish...is probably cheating and isn't someone you can depend on. So, why waste any more of your life? Every day that you continue to put up with this is another day he has the opportunity to put you more in debt...and another day that you won't meet a decent guy.
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@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
I think you're right spalladino in giving advice. She must move on if the relation won't work at all. Just care for the future of kids.
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• United States
27 Feb 10
thanks guys, i really appreciate it. that was my thinking but i feel like i needed more advice.
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@spalladino (17922)
• United States
27 Feb 10
It's hard to make the break and many women stay in bad relationships for too long because they feel compassion or a distorted sense of loyalty or obligation towards a bad partner. But, as with anything that is difficult, once you do it you will feel a sense of relief. You can move on in a positive direction and have a more positive outlook on life...instead of always waiting for that other shoe to drop.
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@laglen (19779)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I would get as far away from him as possible.
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• Canada
8 Mar 10
Try calling those numbers, and if there are girls on the other end, you'll catch them in the act! LOL Also, if it were me, I'd get the hell out of that marriage. Life's too short to deal with $h!t like that.
• United States
11 Mar 10
Thanks to all that have given me the advice to run as far as I can from this creep. Let me start by saying, he was too chicken-sh*t to call me or talk to me face to face. He texted me to say that he was done being married and he didn't care what me and his daughter done or how we survived but he wanted his freedom. What kind of pr*ck can just walk out on his child like that?