I just wasted 10 months of my life.

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I think I just wasted the last 10 months of my life working on a marriage that was doomed to fail from day one. I married my daughters father. Boy was that the wrong thing to do. He acts like a bigger kid than our 13 year old daughter. When we first got married, he quit his job and I was supporting him and my 2 kids. Finally he got a job that was costing more than he was making. He is a truck driver and this company would send him out and he would take a load of freight and then he would sit out in some strange town until they felt like getting him something else to do. Sometimes that would be for 2 weeks, so I was still supporting him. I was paying all the bills, feeding and clothing the kids, keeping the car up, I was doing it all. I still felt like a single parent except with 3 kids now. All I have heard since we have been married is "I want to get one of these" or "I want this" or "I want that". He ain't making any money to help me out so we can't get all that and he has temper tantrums like a 3 year old He ran the cell phone bill up to 1500 dollars and when I questioned him about it, he just said oh well, we can't pay it. I had to have that one turned off and am making payments. We now have new cells and when he ran it up to 400 dollars, I fussed about it. He went out behind my back and got a new cell with a different carrier and thought that I wouldn't find out. I called him today on his new phone and caught him totally by surprise. When I asked him when he got it all he could say was "when did I get it?" I am now furious and I think that I am totally over this marriage. I could have put myself in debt if that's where I wanted to be, but I was not in debt and I didn't owe any outrageous bills like I do now. I can't take it anymore. Should I leave or should we try again to talk things out? He has a lot of #'s on his phone bill that he won't tell me who they belong to so that makes me think he's cheating. Can anyone offer advice? I am at my wit's end.