Does Age matter in relationship?

India
February 27, 2010 5:31am CST
True love is a powerful emotion. It has the ability to break through the barriers of race and religion. It sees beyond outer appearances straight into the heart and soul of an individual. Real love does not concern itself with someone's financial status, level of education, his or her talents and abilities, or any lack thereof. Most importantly, a sincere love is certainly not phased by the factor of age. do u agree with me?
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@sender621 (14932)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Age should never matter in a relationship. There can be no calendar on matters of the heart. When we love someone, what does it matter if they are younger or older than us. Love is the greatest emotion to have. Don't let a simple like age destroy something beautiful in your life!
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
Yes, I agree. Love conquers all. It always take two to tango..so long as both of you fight for your love then everything will follow. You might encounter a lot of difficulties as you go along the way but your love for each other will make surpass everything. I admire couples who are already in their old age but still hold their hands, sweet right?
@sissy15 (9792)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I personally have an age limit when dating I always said no more than ten years, although I could never quite get to ten years, I don't have anything against someone else dating older, but I personally can't date too much older, my boyfriend is seven years older than me, and personally that is as old as I would want to go, it's more of a mind set thing. I have a sister who is getting a divorce from a 40 year old guy (she is 23) and getting married to a 50 something year old. I find that it is hard to connect to someone that much older in a romantic relationship because of there being so many differences usually in music and movies, and morals even. Too much of an age difference usually means when growing up the way they were raised is going to be much different, but that is just me, I wont judge anyone who wants to, because you love who you love. Those are just my reasons for why I wouldn't want to, but I wont fault anyone that does, but sometimes there is such a thing as being too old like say an 18 yr old marrying an 80 yr old, at that point it gets a bit on the creepy side, but to each their own I suppose.
@fsll518 (304)
• China
28 Feb 10
there are extreme cases that couple with big age difference can work out... maybe many can work out in short term, but only time can tell if they can last long. If one side is getting really old, then maybe the other side would leave. Love needs commitement, and true commitment can only be tested through time.
@satya4186 (280)
• India
28 Feb 10
yes my dear i really in your teem and this is a truly that no one can explain this but age is a matter in few places the type of relationship.
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
i believe on what you had said that love is the most powerull emotion that a man has. coz i could say that im a person whos always being weaked when it comes to my emotion. thats why i believe on others believe that age doesnt really matters, age doesnt dictates a certain emotion that a man should feel towards a person. it only a sign for a man of his living here in this earth. age would not the basis of what we really feels.
@jzumari (101)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
somehow, it gives me frills whenever i imagine myself entering a May-December relationship. my friend has the same situation; her partner is ten years older than her. i tried to understand her feelings but i really cant help to be judgmental. and actually, this is my problem right now as I have a suitor that is eleven years older than me. i don't know how to react.
@fianne (1058)
• United States
27 Feb 10
yes, i agree with you... i am older than my boyfriend 10months and we were ok with it... also, he is more financially stable than me. well, i think what matters most is that you love each other most, respect each other and take care of each other. if you meet all those, then you will find yourelves that you are the best of friends there ever is, not just lovers.
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Yes I do. However, not all people would agree as we all have different beliefs and also culture that we value a lot. My Dad is ten years older than my Mom but they have a perfect relationship. I know a lot of couple where the man and even the woman is ten or 15 years older than their partner but happily married. As long as the intention of both parties are pure and they really love each other then Age will not matter no matter what other people will say.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
27 Feb 10
Hi Nirishasol I do agree with you to all of this as it is very true and I wish that everyone could see that instead of walking around with Blinkers
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
27 Feb 10
It might. It depends on the age difference you're talking about. Personally I feel that ten years is okay, but twenty years is too much of an age difference. This is because people who are that far apart in age will probably have widely different experiences and interests.
• United States
27 Feb 10
no i dont think age matter unlnless the person is old and creepy
@Niltusk (131)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Obviously age is very important in a relationship. It can define the relationship. If there is a huge difference or a small one will effect many things. Is there an illegal factor? Thats another question to be answered. You may view dating someone as underaged as okay because of your true love, but try finding a judge who will buy that reasoning if you've broken local laws. So, age may not be a critical factor in every relationship, but its definitely an important factor in a lot of peoples situations.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
27 Feb 10
Relations may be different, people may be different, love can be different from person to person, nothing is safe these days, the explanations are interesting, but may be valid only for one side or another of the people. Of course that what can be true for me, can not be true for someone else. All depend only of people who are involved in a love story, in theory all can be perfect, but in practice all is different. After me, age difference does not matter ... but everything is relative in a love story
• India
27 Feb 10
Ohh dear friend,I do fully agree with u that True love is a powerful emotion. but it seems to be only words of dreem now a days.Because today it is not the time of JULIA and RAB0RT.tHAT TIME HAS GONE.though I KNOW THAT IF ANY BODY TRUELY LOVES EACH other then mateer is something different.but can u say one thing honestly that suppose your soul-mate to whome u r loveing truely and one day come to know that he/she loves any other person then what u will do??will u leave him/her or u will pass your life only by memorising him/her.Can u give answer honestly???
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
27 Feb 10
How age affects a relationship is really defined by how the people involved in the relationship receive and interpret that difference. I've been in relationships where I was ten years younger than the man I was dating, and his son was only 9 years younger than myself. I got along well with his son, but it put me in the awkward position of his son vying to be my friend and vying to be a pain in the butt that doesn't want his dad dating a woman that he could almost legally date himself. It didn't take long for that relationship to end, but for numerous reasons. In my current relationship, I am 12 years older than my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years. We've been together since we could legally date. He's 19 and I am 30. At first, the age difference put us in some awkward positions and for a long time I didn't believe that things would work out. He was more interested in going out all of the time and partying with his friends, whom at the time, I truly didn't like most of their behaviors. He felt awkward because of the experiences I've had due to me being older and having a daughter that's almost half of his age (she's almost 9). It's been a rocky road thus far, but we're taking it as it comes. No promises, no guarantees of tomorrow. That might sound silly for some, but it's actually worked out well for us. He's evolving into manhood, his priorities of drinking with his friends who still don't want to act like they're 20 has slowed down. He's becoming more focused on sobering up, finding a job, and completing his schooling. I encourage him to do those things before he worries too much about a future together. If we're not both first strong as individuals, there's a good chance that we can't be strong as a couple. From this thinking, we are constantly learning new things about each other every day, everything from common interests and dislikes, to things like him seeing Rocky Horror for the first time and me learning about some of the more modern slang. We also joke about our age difference in a healthy manner. It definitely works for us, but sadly, it doesn't/won't work for everyone.
@ksmita (515)
• India
27 Feb 10
definetly age is not the deciding factor in love. its just an emotion like other emotions. love is all about respecting or loving the other person as he/she is irrespective of their age,caste , religion. love knows no boundries.
• India
27 Feb 10
Yes I totally agree with you. Love is a special state of emotions which even science is not able to explain. While one is in love, he is ready to sacrifice all those things which he would have never imagined before falling in love whether it is religion, caste, financial status or even age gap. Love is a divine gift of God and one can only realize it if he truly respects 'love'.Love is not a physical attraction or personality attraction, it is much beyond these materialistic things.