Too much togetherness caused breakups?

Philippines
February 27, 2010 9:19pm CST
Too much TOGETHERNESS can be the reason for breakups. Spending time apart gives you new stories to share and helps you grow as a person. When you see each other a little less, you value your time together more. This is "I MISS YOU" was thought. Right?
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11 responses
• United States
28 Feb 10
I disagree. When your away from your partner, your partner suspects you're with someone else.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
That only means, your partner doesn't trust you totally. :)
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I disagree with you reasons for break up is not too much togetherness except if you are too possesive to your partner & a very jealous person. If you just trust your partner I think ther is no reason for you to break up. Keep that communication line open.
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I respect your opinion. It's just that there are really some instances like that. Too much togetherness sometimes leads to breakups because of this you feel like you're not happy anymore because you were together most of the time that you don't have enough time for yourself. I think it's true.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I agree with you to a certain extent. I don't think that being together "too much" will break people up. However, if they're together and not communicating properly or not spending quality time together, of course it will drive them crazy! This kind of wasted time together is not time well spent in a relationship. On the other hand, a bit of long distance is good for any relationship because "absence make the heart grow fonder." As long as the relationship is to be, then time apart will only make the relationship grow stronger.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
28 Feb 10
I agree "absense makes the heart grow fonder" but there are some people who have to be with their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse at all times. I think it can be smothering after awhile. I like my space. When my boyfriend and I were living together, I would love it when he would go out with his friends. It gave me alone time to enjoy by myself. I think we should all want our space. We can come back together where you will have things to share of what happened when you were both separated. I also think it gives more trust to the relationship.
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I agree. Sometimes we have to be alone in our comfort zones to give more time for ourselves. And, we should always remember that, always LOVE yourself Firsts before somebody else. :)
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I will agree with you.. I am in a long distance relationship now, and I believe that " absence makes the heart grow fonder " Too much togetherness can be the reason for breakups, I think it depends to the couple, If they have the same likes,interest and they are enjoying so I don't think they will get bored with one another. so it depends.. If both are really in love with each other everyday is a especial day for them
@phoenix8606 (4942)
28 Feb 10
yes, you are right. many couples break up just because they spend to much time together and they really get tired of themselves. They haven't got something new to share with each other, the shiver is missing too!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Hi gtloquero, Yes, each person needs their own space and time apart from each other. A good relationship should be like two circles intersecting. One side is your life and the other side is his life. In the middle...that little spot where they share the same place...that is the relationship. Who you were and how you lived your life before you had your partner was what attracted him/her to you in the first place. If you give up all your friends and outside interests to devote to your partner then it won't be long before it all gets boring and starts to fizzle out.
@redchase (347)
28 Feb 10
i agree with the idea that there can be too much of a good thing. simply because i am in a relationship with someone does not mean that i have to spend every waking moment with him. truth is, i had a pretty full and hectic life before i met him and i'd like to keep those relationships and activities i had. after all, just because i have him doesnt mean he is now my only friend and that i cant spend time ALONE with my friends. i think space is essential for a relationship. the relationship shouldnt consume a person. you should not become your relationship because there are still 2 of you in it and that is the way it should be, i think.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
In major cases what you have said in relation of too much together causing breakups do happen. However, it depends on their level of relationship. Whenever a person missed his loved one, this situation is applied when they are in distance. Though there are also couple that too much distance lead to break ups. It really depends on their situation and how to deal with any factors that lead to possible breakup. Sometimes, even there is no real life problems in their relationship. A person tend to feel the feeling of aloofness or just wanted to be alone for quite sometime. This also has been one of the great factor for causing break up. When things emotionally are net secured and settled.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
28 Feb 10
I have to agree. Beign together each day, can cause a lack of that litle something that makes you miss your partner. You get used to each other too fast.TATA.
• United States
28 Feb 10
I agree with you, you need time alone for something the other person doesn't know and get sometime to explore some discussions a little. It could be right, smart thinking.