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Philippines
February 28, 2010 1:06am CST
Is it right for family and close friends to put pressure on someone to get married simply because the person is old enough? I've a friend who often told me that she's kinda annoyed by her parents, close relatives and some friends who urge her to get married because she's not getting any younger and should have kids at her age, but she's not ready and she enjoy her single life.
6 responses
@Chad525 (349)
• Canada
28 Feb 10
I don't know if this is the same kind of thing you are talking about, but my in-laws won't stop shoving the idea of marriage down my throat. In fact, almost every time I see them, they try to pressure me into it. Yes, I understand they really love me and know that I am best for Amanda, but some times the pressure is just too much. But no, regardless, nobody should EVER be pressured into marriage. It isn't a chore. It is something that is desired and wanted. If you don't want it, don't do it and nobody should have to persuade you other ways.
@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I think they know the reality your going old & no direction in life. They simply want you to settle down & make some baby or kids. It's hard but I think it's worth it.They're not pressured you into marriage but you must think your future & TIME is running down. They have been there & it's hard to make baby.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Yeah, people around you simply care for you and they want what they think is best for you. Because there are things that we see that they don't see, but the bottom line is they love and care for you, that's the way they know how to show their love for you. Although it could be real irritating and really gets on your nerve. You know what I told to my friend, is to understand her family and I advice her to live a life in happiness and with direction for her family to stop pushing her to make decisions she's not ready to take so far. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@saphrina (31733)
• South Africa
28 Feb 10
That really sucks. I think they should leave her alone. What is the point in rushing into a marriage and then get divorced after a few months. You don't rush things like this. It takes time. She should just ignore the and enjoy her life to the fullest. TATA.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Yeah, you're right TATA, it's not easy to fall into marriage when you're not ready to take the huge responsibility. It's just easy for others to say what is right and what is best for you because they're not on your situation and they're not the one who take all the problems that may come along. But still the thing is they're your family and they love you. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Feb 10
Hi Care, Well, it's a normal scene in a close-knit family ties. they do it out of concern for their family member to find the right one to be his or her lifetime partner. they too feared that if they want to have a baby, it will already be risky for the woman to bear a child when she married late. i look at it the positive way. the family wnats to be assured that there will be someone to take care of him or her when they get older. It's kinda irritating but let's see the positive side of it and we will have the appreciation of the pressuring to get married. of course it will always you who will decide whether you get married or not and if you have fouond the right partner in life.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Yeah, you're right its usually happens when your family is very close and I agree with you, it's all because your family did care for you. Although sometimes it could be too much, as what I learn from my friend. Yeah, it could not be good to bear a child when you got older, but could be harder to have a family and children when you're not ready. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@biman_s (1060)
• India
28 Feb 10
I don't think its a good thing to pressurize someone for marriage just because they are old enough. They should give you time to make that decision yourself. You should be ready both mentally and physically.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Yeah, it's really a good thing to pressure someone to make a decisions that takes a lifetime responsibility. Although the good thing is that those people did care for you, you just need to be patience and understand them. Yeah, one should be ready physically, mentally and financially. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@fsll518 (304)
• China
28 Feb 10
Hi, I am a guy 28, having similar pressure. I can understand that. If most people refuse to marry and have baby, then human beings are in danger... population decrease may not be a good sign. People should have choic, but no doubt, they also have some social duty.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Oh, it's good that you understand that kind of situations. Yeah, it could not be good when people refused to get married and have a baby. But it could be worse when people get married and have a baby when they're not ready for the responsibility. It will absolutely end up in divorce, or their children would grown up to be delinquent. It's all a matter of understanding in both sides. Married takes a whole lot of responsibility for a lifetime. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Hi careguarden! Tell your friend to do what she wants and not to listen to anyone, especially her family telling her what to do! When I was young and my family was pressuring me to get married I almost made one of the biggest mistakes of my life! I thankfully was able to stop myself, make my own decision and stop everything before it was too late! I was already living with my ex-fiancee, but I knew that he wasn't the right one! Don't ever let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don't feel is right for you because you can really ruin your life that way!