Why do people judge you if you do not remarry a few years after your divorce?

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
March 1, 2010 1:30pm CST
There is something weird that you have not remarried 10 years after the divorce? In general, people judge you for what they do not know, women generally ask you, "have you a problem?" Men can ask TOO, but they at least do not gossip, but just curious look. Why?" Does she have a problem"," means it is not able to remarry". Maybe that person has not found someone suitable perhaps had other priorities, maybe just thinks its wrong one again, perhaps years left to go, and all said ... TOMORROW. Maybe it was too disappointed. Maybe in not her fate to remarry. can ... can ... can not have any problems, just waiting to find great love, maybe not , maybe one will never find again. Is really need someone to display a wedding ring on the finger, just to make people not to gossip? It is so weird? someone said ; "is still young, is nice, is smart and not marries, it means he has another problem?" Hey, she is normal, but perhaps the time has not come ... to be alone is a disease?
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
3 Mar 10
I would be a little more suspect of someone remarrying right away than I would of someone who stayed single for a long time after a divorce. I guess I'm looking at it through the rose colored glasses of a newlywed but personally I think I would find a divorce very devastating and I'm unsure about whether I would ever remarry. In my eyes marriage is supposed to be forever and if our marriage were to fail I don't know how I would feel about making that commitment again with someone else. And I'm definitely sure I wouldn't marry again in just a few years. So I don't find it strange at all if a divorcee doesn't get remarried right away.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Mar 10
Some people don't WANT to remarry too. It isn't anybody's business imho.
• United States
2 Mar 10
Dear friend, Surely you know people will use any excuse they can find to be judgmental! They're just plain ridiculous, and need to spend their time critiquing themselves, not the rest of us!