Fifteen Years Ago.
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
March 2, 2010 8:26am CST
It was fifteen years ago today that my father passed away. I was fourteen years old at the time, and I wasn't ready to face life without the influence of both of my parents. However, I did survive, I now consider myself to be a successful woman for the most part as I have a great husband and two wonderful children.
However, as this day has hit this year, it has been more difficult than this anniversary has been in the past. You see, my husband has been dealing with kidney stones and had to have an emergency surgery yesterday for them. He is in the same hospital that my father died it and there is no one that is answering his questions. It is putting both of us in an emotional uproar.
Is there anything in your life that makes you have a harder time dealing with the depression issues that you face in your life.
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3 responses
@pandaeyes (2065)
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2 Mar 10
It can be awful when they just wont answer your questions.
Sometimes you have to be very bold and just point out that no one is telling you anything,sometimes they already told you but the words didn't register or were not layman's terms so you are none the wiser.
The problem I have with hospitals is the smell of them reminds me of the one mum was in 30 years ago.
I think if only the people there would understand about the building being associated with negatives, maybe they could add some more positive aspects and it would trigger happier feelings in people.
I hope you both soon have more news and can relax.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Thank goodness they finally discharged him from the hospital. However, I am still not really happy with the treatment that he got while he was there. I worked in nursing several years ago and I know that things can change over that period of time, but I saw so many things that I don't think were appropriate and I can't wait for us to be able to review his stay.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Mar 10
One of the things that I was happy about concerning the hospital is that my husband was given a private room so I was able to be there a lot which I wouldn't have been allowed to do if he'd been in a semi-private room. However, I didn't like the fact that it seemed like the nurses had forgotten about him.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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4 Mar 10
I'm glad you have him home again.
When mum was in hospital,they put her in the old peoples ward and it was awful because the people in the beds were not given any dignity.
Screens weren't pulled around enough and if someone had lost some of their overs they were just left like that.
I wanted to go round covering them up and saying hello but we weren't allowed to do that sort of thing.
The hospital where my husband was when he broke his hand badly,was lovely,very small wards and a proper lounge to sit in to chat and the kids were allowed to come in.
We made friends with the other people in the ward too. That hospital was a special one because it was for burns victims during the war and had been laid out cheerfully with windows out to the gardens and lots of daylight.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Mar 10
Hi Dorann,
I know that you are a strong person and can manage whatever challenges that will come your way. you were able to use the positive impact of all the challenges that happened in your life. keep it up friend. you are on the right track. hugs for you.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Mar 10
I have learned in my life that the challenges that I face are the things that serve to make me stronger. If I had not had to overcome the adversity that I've gone through in my life I know I wouldn't be the woman that I am.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Mar 10
as long as we are open to see the positive side of everysingel challenge and trial that we face in life. then it will be an opportunity for us to grow mature, strong and better person. i love challenges and i love enjoying the positive results of it.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 10
so sorry to know about this, dora. may God keep his soul in heaven. amen. thank God I still have father. I'm 30 years old and I'm still able to touch him, make a deep conversation, enjoy reading together, and share everything. thank God. I feel blessed.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Mar 10
You really are blessed. There is still not a day that goes by that I don't miss my dad. I know that he would have been proud of his grandchildren and I know that he and my husband would have gotten along with each other very well.
I do know that I am blessed as well because I have my mother who is my best friend.
