Forced Conversation

@frissph (130)
Philippines
March 2, 2010 8:47pm CST
Has this happened to you and what do you do to prevent or cope with it? Let me try and define forced conversation so that my fellow mylotters can respond appropriately. Forced conversation in this case could either mean trying to carry a conversation that you aren't happy with or have no interest on OR trying to make awkward conversations due to you running out of conversation topics (or grasping at straws if you'd prefer the term). Both happen to me but I can deal with uninteresting conversation more than awkward silence especially if it's someone you just met or have been introduced to.
3 responses
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
3 Mar 10
If I did not like the conversation or had nothing to contribute I would politely tell the person its been a pleasure talking to but I now must move on. I would proceed to walk the other way or head for the restroom or something to make my exit. I cannot continue a conversation that ills me or has nothing of importance to me. If this person persists then I would tell him o r her that I am not interested in carrying on this conversation and can you please excuse, thank you. Being straightforward and polite earns that person respect , I believe. i would want the truth versus the candy coated version. But that is just my opinion.
@frissph (130)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
So, do you rely on the conversation to come from the other person? Sparks aren't always immediate and if you walk away just because of the way the initial conversation went you then it might have been a missed opportunity at something good.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Well If I an uncomfortable the person will sense this . i would rather walk away and maybe a little later the conversation may be better when we are more relaxed. I would not want to be in a stand offish position of what do I do and the other person be the same way. Its kind of a bad first impression. Then again it could be the setting you are in to. Some people may act differently because of where they are at or who they are with. Take care.
• India
3 Mar 10
I think we all have dealt with awkward silences many times in our lives LOL that’s why they are called ‘awkward’…we really have nothing to say except discuss the weather maybe! However, I dislike forced conversations more. People who just burble along without caring or noticing that you are not even remotely interested! This has happened to me many times and out of politeness the more I nod my head the more encouraged the other person becomes. Finally I make some silly excuses, I’m sure the other persona understands that I’ve just found an escape route but what to do…when I’m really not interested in listening or reciprocating in any way…do you think snapping and leaving is a better option?
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
i am not good when it comes to conversation making, but i could carry on any topic that one wants, just don't make me the one to start it. because i would rather read a novel than find a topic to start a conversation.