What do you think?

Philippines
March 3, 2010 1:45am CST
What do you think or what is your reaction about kids "fighting" with their parents? I have a cousin who always argues with his mother everyday because of small things that as time passes by, begins to be big. One day, they argued because my cousins child hasn't eaten yet even though it's late already.His mother (my aunt) didn't stop talking.After a while, he started arguing back and used foul words and his mother started crying, but still didn't stop talking saying that she is his mother and he shouldn't fight back. Nobody wants to lose and my cousin threw the phone to her mother. What is/are your reactions?
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• India
3 Mar 10
I think your cousin is being as childish as her own son. As a mother of a 10yr old, I know very well how easy it is to lose our cool with our kids but one thing I’ve learnt is that each child is an individual…no matter what the age is, you cannot expect a child to listen to your every word just because you are the parent. This is a mistake I find many parents making day in day out…telling the child that he has to listen to his parents or accusing the child of disobedience. See, if a parent is always nagging with a child to do this and do that, after a while the child will no longer respect that parent and instead start arguing…after a while, all parents lose in such arguments…I don’t think we can argue and win with our kids…we can beat them into submission or we can make them feel guilty…but if we argue over everything we are teaching our kids to become argumentative and they will try it out with us. So if the child is not eating…fine…give him some leverage, give him some space, let him get over his bad mood and then sit and ask him why he doesn’t feel like eating…it shouldn’t be like ‘its so late, you still haven’t had your food, I cant clear the table, I cant go to sleep…’
• India
3 Mar 10
I’m sorry I got a bit confused about the relations…so its your cousin who’s abusing his mother? OK so my response is targeted at the mother (your aunt) who I feel as a parent is being quite childish in her dealings with her son. As parents, we are dealing with a soft mind…trying to mould it into a responsible individual…wherein does the question come of who wins and who loses!
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Both of them just won't let each other win and I'm sad to see them like that. My cousin left their home/house for 2 days and admitted that he doesn't go to school =(
@mjcookie (2273)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
"My cousin threw the phone to her mother." Oh my goodness. That is way too much. I have a friend who argues not just with her mother but with her father and her brother as well. They always yell at one another over petty things such as the absence of food or missing items. Every time I would visit her there would often be a time when one of them would be pissed off with the other and then things would eventually heat up. My friend would then cry and tell me how irritated she was with her family. It is really sad when families fight like this. I mean, at the end of the day you only have your family with you. Your friends may turn their backs against you but your family's there to catch you. And yet things don't go well among them. I can only pray for them. We must always remember the Fifth Commandment.
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
You are absolutely right! Our family (mother,father or siblings) are the one who should help each other when times of despair or something like that, so we shouldn't fight, esp our parents because life is short. Shallow arguments should be finished and should be six feet under already by like an hour? =) I love my parents so I just shut up and let them do the talking esp when I know that I have a fault too.
@verptc (247)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
I think It's okay to point out your cousin point of view to his mother. They must talk in a lower voice that everyone must point their views. We have all the right to fight our point of view on peaceful way or diplomatic way. But arguing in the high tone of voice leads to no where. They have to negotiate in calm manner & in order to solve the problems. Respect each other point of view is good. Hearing each other opinion will resolve the misunderstanding of the arguments.I know he should respect his mother because it's a moral values that every parents teach to their son.He must apologize & understand her mother opinion.Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Your right, but they just can't seem to be calm. I think both of them are competitors because if the others tone is high, they try to go at that same level which makes me laugh. If my mother and I argue, well we actually don't coz I just let her speak until she gets tired XD, I only let her cooldown and everything's fine again XD
@totor_53 (223)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
Answering back to ones parent is not a sin but the moment you answer them through shouting that becomes a sin because you are disrespecting the authority of your parents. Answering back is just a normal thing to do cause there are also times that parents would to be to much yet you should always put into consideration the fact that you would not exist in this world without your parents so it would be best if we would just answer them politely.
@leeoz22 (183)
• Australia
3 Mar 10
I think this is terriable. A child should have respect for their elders. I just hate the thought of kids today being so rude and disrespectful. Years ago a child would never even think of fighting or being rude to their parents. Where has all the respect gone????
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
I guess that has something to do with the upbringing of the child. I personally can't do that to my parents. I have been taught since young not to fight back with any elder person, but instead I should pay them much respect. I believe that the child wont be like that if such behavior was not tolerated. Child should be trained as early as possible.
@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
That is very bad. Your cousin is very disrespectful. How can he do that to his mother? I think it is good for family members to just talk it out and not use bad words in a big voice. That can really destroy family solidarity.