Divorced with benefits
By sharlionse
@sharlionse (739)
Philippines
March 3, 2010 8:32am CST
I've seen the poster of Meryll Streep's movie entitled It's Complicated (Divorced..with benefits) and came up with this discussion. The poster shows a woman and a man, which I supposed was the divorced couple, lying in bed half covered in white sheet. Again I supposed something happened in bed..LOL!
I was just thinking if I were in her shoes, will I allow myself to still sleep with the man I decided to have divorce with. Wasn't it me that decided, or both of us have decided to end our marriage, and then after a while, here we are still giving each other the benefits in bed? I just can't understand why I should be doing that.
If it were you instead, will you be willing to give your ex partner the benefits?
2 people like this
5 responses
@anightmoon (5)
• United States
4 Mar 10
It depends on the guy and what the issues were that led us to a divorce. I cannot live with my ex, but the chemistry is still there and I do still love him, while he still loves me. I guess the answer for me would be yes, if I thought it was a mutual arrangement and we were still in love. There are reasons for everything and my reasons and yours may not have the same ending.
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
but why didn't you try to work things out before you decided to divorce? and then later on realize you still want to be with each other? just a question though..
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
Not unless we were working on a reconciliation...
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
i will not allow myself to be in that situation if ever, God forbids, divorce will happen in my marriage. perhaps, i would move on and find someone better to be my better half in the future than still having that relationship with my ex husband and give him the benefit of sleeping again with me after we decided to end our marriage.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I was watching private practice last year in which a husband and wife ran a business together and then divorced but were still business partners and were still giving each other 'benefits'. I also found that odd. I would just try to move on and forget the whole deal but if that person is involved in your life outside of the home then it may be harder.
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
I too really feels that it shouldn't be done, after all, you've hated that person and decided to get him out of your life but when time comes, you give him the pleasure of taking an advantage of you.. really odd..
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Maybe there are just people that doesn't like commitments. Maybe they do it because they are still attracted to one another but are afraid to be committed again. I had a friend before, she broke up with her BF. I thought they hate each other and end up with a break up. Soon I discovered that they still see each other and what bothers me is they still do it. I ask her why, she said they still like each other but doesn't want to be committed anymore. Because commitments limits their freedom in certain things. They are not yet willing to make responsibility for one another.
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
I too know a person like that, I pity her most of the time because when it comes to "games" like that, the girl is always at the loosing end. They end up used but without security, unlike the guys, they would still manage to brag for their experiences like that.
