Being the one you are, or being the one the others want you to be???

I am what i am, so either you accept that or you leave me be. That is my motto in life. I will never be what others want me to be. For me, that is unacceptable. TATA.

You are being yourself by being who others want to be. You have intellect from school and work. You get tips from parents or friends and best of all.. Yourself

Hello To You phoenix8606- I hope all is well with you! For myself, I have been what others made me to be, and I didn't like it. Once I met my husband all that changed and he made me realize that I should just be myself. I was and am so much happier being myself then I ever was being someone else. It's better to be oneself anyway as being fake is just... well it's just wrong.

It is always better to be yourself but for some people it's difficult because they do not have a strong identity.

hi phoenix,i never tried to imitate anyone rather i do not feel shy to confess that i have been inspired by many and right now i have some principles and beliefs which have been inherited and learnt from many others i came accross in my life untill now and i make sure that i stand by it and wont let myself down for any thing.few of my close friends stayed with me coz they knew me well and suppoted me day and night,either it were sun or rain they were always there for me and i'm really happy for that---after all you would only enjoy those company who love you the way we are.great day.

The topic is great. What I actually feel is that we actually try to be ourself all the time but that's not where the discussion ends, but that's where it actually gets started. And from that I mean is, if we want to follow some trend or simply some kind of fashion, we don't do it because others want us to be. We do it because we please. In the same way, sometimes it often happens that we want to do something that others wants us to be not just because they want us to be like that, but also because we as well feel to be like that. So, the conclusion to my talk is that I am being myself but I also follow the trend and sometimes listen to what people say because I find it pleasing!!...I think thats how it goes with everyone..

I very much prefer being the one and only me. I believe that everyone has their own individual place within the universe that only they can fill. Individuality is what seperates us from everyone else and even if we were to imitate someone else we would still do it in our own unique fashion.

Well i think that one person should have a unique identity as in such places its is difficult to separate people from one another but if one has a identity , people start to recognize the person , this helps in the overall growth of hte community. whereas if one start to imitate another person we might not develop a liking toward that person as he is just an imitator and not ht "REAL DEAL"

I think I would try to be the best of both ends. Choosing carefully my best traits and attitude and the best from what others want me to be. It's never wrong to be influenced by others, you just have to carefully choose what you will follow.

It is important to be what you really are, and not just conform to the standards of other people.. Trying to be somebody you are not is just like killing yourself and hiding the body somewhere where nobody can see it... Being yourself is the best gift you could really give to yourself.

I would definitely be myself. And, I don't like people who tries to be the one others wants one to be either. Although, it could be that person's personality to 'become the one the others want you to be', so if that person stops doing that, that person will loose one's identity. This may sound ironic, but I think some people naturally live that way, and feel comfortable acting like that. If speaking out and doing whatever you want is your identity, you could also have an identity of not speaking out and doing whatever others want you to do as well. There is a saying "Speech is of Time, Silence is of Eternity". After all, do whatever you feel more comfortable I guess... Happy myLotting!

hello phoenix, I had this philosophy for myself,and i often posted this to my social sites like Okut and Mypage5 and other...i wrote there... "i accept criticism,but never expect me to change the way i am becoz of other people's dictate" I would surely accept advice and criticism,i am not perfect,but,i will never imitate other just to look good and better in the eyes of other people. I always prefer to change myself becoz i wanted to,and i know it would make me a better person. We have the uniqueness from others,we possess identity from each one another,we don't need to imitate other people. Let's bring out the person in our own true identity.

AM BEING WHAT I AM. Anybody and nobody cares. I don't like imitators. They are fake and don't have originality.

I guess the other you want to be has the influence of those whom you admire. when we admire someone we indirectly try to have those admirable criteria that we admire and thus we are not being ourselves... I think that is what the other you are referring too. To me.. being myself is the only pleasant things.. my life is simple... no headache.. even there is problem I would always find a way how to overcome it.. and just like one of our friend says.. it is unique being ourselves

I am what I am, let others make of that what they may!

Nice topic! I love being myself, be who I am. I always want to be unique because that's what people would know me for. If I imitated others then I wouldn't have an identity I could call my own. I never wanted to go along with the current hype. When everyone else is following the trend, I stick with my own tastes. Being unique is great. I guess some of those people who imitate others may sort of dislike themselves or a part of them and still needs to discover their own identity.

Most of the time I am who I am,but occasionally for people I love I try to be how I think they want me to be.

In my marriage ive always tried to be the one he wanted me to be but now that im older i feel the need to be who i am and not be faking my life. I just need to be me. How could people be happy being someone they are not. I participate in an online community of like minded people that enjoy the same desires as i do so i have a chance to be me. I think everyone needs to have the chance to be themselves.

I'd rather be myself that people like rather than be someone that other people want me to be but end up not liking myself and feeling miserable. When I don't have something good or nice to say I just shut up because I don't want to hurt other people. However, sometimes people would tell me that I'm not being honest by not expressing what I feel or think. All I can say is that this is me. People have different identity, personality and attitude. I prefer to be like this because this is me and if people don't like me for being that way I don't care. I am not hurting anyone and I am happy for what I am. That's what is important for me.

i prefer being the one i am ,live must be happily i take enjoyment in my job in my activities ,it is my life so even i try to be someone ,try to do same with them just to make my family,spouse,or friend happy so i cannot do that i live ,and follow what i think it is good for me ,