Should Men Get Engagement Rings Too?

March 3, 2010 2:03pm CST
When we agree to marry our partners, us girls always expect to get a good sizes ring, hopefully with a diamond, to wear on that commitment finger. Because we are living in an 'equal'society now, should us ladies be also be buying engagement rings for the guys too? If you are a guy, would you be happy to wear an engagement ring?
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@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Nope. I'm not buying an engagement ring for a guy. It'd be too...shall we say...unladylike of me to do so. Were I a guy, I think I'd be embarrassed to wear an engagement ring. A wedding ring is a different story, but an engagement ring? I wouldn't do it if I were male.
3 Mar 10
That's interesting! thanks for your response.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
28 Apr 10
The who;e concept of the engagement ring is to show your prospective bride how much money you earn. They say you should spend 3 months income on the ring. A bigger stone shows a bigger income. If the ring isn't expensive enough, she might not want to marry you. I doubt it is followed everywhere, but that is the original custom regarding the engagement ring.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
no!!!! engagement rings are expensive so i won't agree in giving engagement ring to the one i love. it's a tradition that guys should provide it because it's a sign that they're ready to sacrifice their being single for the benefit of their chosen woman.
• United States
4 Mar 10
I'm speaking for myself and guys that I know. We don't want to wear engagement rings. There is something to be said for the classic wedding ring. I realize in today's society equality rules, and traditional values are quickly going the way of the Dodo. But, given the significance of a man giving a woman an engagement ring, can't we just leave this one quaint little tradition alone. If the argument comes down to a question of equality then maybe it would be easier for men to stop giving a ring all together. Just phase it out. That makes things equal...right? :)
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
i think you don't need one to know you're engaged... even ladies don't need one if you need to cut on your budget. lol! i'm a man and i think that faith in each other matters most!
• United Arab Emirates
4 Mar 10
interesting post... =) if my guy would get me the engagement ring that I am dying to wear, then i will get him an engagement ring. leaving a mark that this guy is taken. =) i think it all roots down to our patriarchal society that it is the guy who makes way to marry a woman he loves. also i think the engagement ring is a symbol of ownership...aside from the fact that a ring is a symbol of love and promise that the guy will marry the woman. imagine men wearing engagement rings...they have slimmer chances of flirting or hitting on other women. hihi. =)
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
3 Mar 10
hey why not? i know my hubby wouldnt have worn it because he is not a big fan of jewelry but i dont dislike the idea. wearing something on their ring finger would only go to show that they are taken. so why not?
@barehugs (8974)
• Canada
3 Mar 10
I've been happily married for 54 years to the same woman. I never had a wedding ring, because I didn't want one. My wife wore hers occasionally (finger rings are unsanitary in the nursing profession) she took it off, and forgot where she put it. Engagement rings are a hazard on a mans finger.Its too easy to catch it on moving machinery and lose the finger. If God had intended humans to wear rings we would all have been born wearing an engagement ring!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Hi! Well I know when my husband and I got married, I wanted him to wear an engagement ring prior to the ceremony. It wasn't so much as because I felt bad he didn't have anything, but that I wanted a symbolic way to claim him as mine, since as you've said we live in an equal society now. I think that if not already, in the coming years men and women will both wear rings to symbolize their love before the engagement.