Would you try and give a slight chance?

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It will be two years this April since my husband walked out the door and a year since the divorce papers were signed........My ex husband has had a pattern for years of walking in and out of his childrens lives and running away as supposed to facing his problems.....But even tho it's a circle for him from his pattern the circle always seems to lead him back into talking to me or come my way again....I will try to give as much background as I possibly can.... We were very young when we were together the first time and have a son together well he walked out on my and married another and they have a child together.....This ex wife of his I grew up with her and know her very well....Well recently for the kids as well as not letting a man come between a life long friendship Her and I are talking again almost daily on the phone and letting the children talk....Well after she left him he came back to my door and talked with me we always had great communication just when discussions got heated he would bolt....We developed a great friendship then about 2 years of that tried again on us....We were back together in total for about 5-6 years.....We have had another child together a little girl who is turning 4 in May.....Well in 07 we went through a bad loss of our third born together and it almost claimed my life....I know that we had our problems before this but always seemed to work it out but he left me 3xs since the death of our baby and the final time for good....He moved in with my best friend and her hubby and their daughter......He didn't have ANYTHING to do with me or his kids he is severly depressed and messed up and said alot of things about me behind my back that are hurtful and lead me to believe our entire marriage and relationship was a lie..... Now it's been almost 2 years as I've said and we have had more contact as of recently as he lives about 2 and half hours away and wants to come back to this city....Now from his lies and hurt I don't have a TRUST in the world for him anymore he took that all away with how he treated me after almost loosing me....I still love him and I always will as the night we lost our baby I fell more in love with him so I know there is good in him where his pattern has shown just that good person doesn't seem to last when something happens to make him go back into his selfish shell......I have an no access order for my children to protect them from a Dad who wants nothing to do with them and I've told him I'm willing to let him know how they are doing but not talk to them or see them as I don't trust him.....He is showing and admitting some signs of regrets he has had....But that is also something he has done before....I would love to see him have a relationship with his kids one day but I'm fearful and Mother Hen is there.....I'm just also scared that if he tries so hard to convince me he loves me blah blah blah will I be strong enough to say no as I DON'T want him back......There is no trust and I don't think there ever will be.... Advice is welcome thanks in advance....