How do you move one?
By uniqueorn
@uniqueorn (1011)
Philippines
March 4, 2010 6:39pm CST
There are a lot of ways of moving on.
1. Stop listening to songs which make you remember
2. Continue doing activities that will make you busy
3. Cry to death until all the pain's gone
4. Find a new one to satisfy the hanging feeling
5. Drink, drink and drink!
6. Keep praying to heal the broken heart
When it hurts badly, we can think of anything for us to move on. I know that the list above is not enough because we people are rational and have infinite reasons to survive if the situation calls for. How about you? How do you move on?
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7 responses
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
well at my first experience of heartbreak, i was 15 years old and it's my first serious heartbreak. at first i just cried and cried and tell to my friends everything about it and drink every night with my friends and cry and cry again whenever i'm alone at home. i just feel the need to let go the sadness inside of me, so i release it. as time goes by, the sadness is decreasing so i guess what really helped me is time. time heals.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
That is so inspiring. I also hid my emotions when I'm with my parents because they should not know everything about my love life and it was so hard for me since only few friends were there to comfort me. And whenever I'm in class and my ex-boyfriend suddenly popped in my mind, my tears just begin to fall and I really have to act like nothing, that was so hard!
But I never thought of letting him go until the time came that I gave up and I fell in love with a new man in my life. But I never thought of depending to God in those days. You're inspiring. :)
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
In my case, I think too that I fell in love first when I was 15. I can't help myself but cry all over again and again. Even though how much I try to resist it but tears can't just be stopped from flowing out. Good thing, I am good at hiding it. Even though I think that mom has a hint about what I was feeling but I seriously would want to lurk in my place until the sun rises. I don't want anyone to know about my problem. Not my family nor my friends. I just lift them up to God. Those days. Those days. I miss them. Those were the days were my hands were still too open about the possibilities what God could give me. I was his best friend. But now as I grow mature, my spirituality has truly been affected. I want as much as possible that I'd be back to the closeness I had with God before. I miss Him.
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
For me, the best way to move on is to keep your self very busy and start knowing your other priorities in life. I admit that the hardest thing to do in this world is to move on from a past love. We can't be just be stagnant in our life so we need to do something to start our world form turning again. Its not a matter of how much pain we suffer, its about the choice we have on the different challenges we encounter in life... Happy mylotting :)
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hard to do but true. It is only ourselves after who can help us when we are broken. Our decision tells who we are tomorrow. It all lies to our decision.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
5 Mar 10
A lot of those are good ideas, but you really cannot escape songs that will make you remember.
Exercising. Working a lot. Reading. There are many things that you can do to start moving on. You just have to find what works for you. Although, time is the ultimate healer of all wounds.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Time heals wounds ultimately along with our prayers of course. We have to be determined enough or persistent to change our views in life and totally eradicate the past we have had.
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Of all the "ways" you have mentioned above, I think the most effective is Way # 4. Find a new one. In my experience, that's the most effective. I have tried the other ways you have mentioned, but I admit, Way #4 is really the most effective. Plus, Way #6. :)
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
In my point of view, finding a new one may not be very effective. There are some things we can do other than this. Engaging into a relationship after being left hanging is not a means of healing. You are only hiding the pain unconsciously. But it will still show. You cannot hide your true emotions. The best way to deal with a broken heart is to pray and let the time heal the wounds. It will take months or even years, but it will really get better in time. It will.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
It would all get better in time. Even though you have loved someone so much but if it hurts to the extent that you are losing your life. We have to let it go. We know that it will all get better in time and we will somehow find someone who will love us surely. Someone whom we can mutually share with the roller coaster ride of our hearts.
@avani26 (1518)
• India
5 Mar 10
First of all would like to congratulate you on a very good rating.
With reference to your discussion if the person has decided to move on just take some close friends or family and go out and enjoy for some days that way one will have a distance and will slowly come out of it.
Hope it helps.
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Something I always did when I tried to move on is: when I start to remember all the good times, and intentionally talked myself into thinking about the bad things in our relationship that caused us to split in the first place. I hope this is a situation where this will work. Also, since you said pray, when I broke up with the man I had loved the most, I seriously asked God not to let me want to take him back unless he was serious about going to church and mending his ways.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Yes. Thinking about the things that has split the relationship is a good way of moving on. Accepting that it isn't really meant to be and talking all over again that your partner isn't just too good for you. Though you degrade your partner but it is something for you too to benefit from, a mechanism of survival.
