Are You Jealous?

Philippines
March 5, 2010 1:49am CST
Is it normal in a relationship to get jealous? If a guy or girl is super friendly with your gf or bf do you naturally get jealous? Is jealous healthy or not healthy in a relationship? What makes you insanely jealous?
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Mar 10
Yes, i get jealous not my love talks to boys, but they comes and talk to her. The jealous shows how much i love and care her. Jealous should be like conveying to your love the care u have for her. It should not create hatred or burden to your love. Be jealous in right way. Never exceed too much
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
6 Mar 10
When I was younger, more so than now, I remember getting jealous about one man in particular. I didn't let it get to be insane jealousy, so I guess it was normal. But I can remember certainly not liking it.
5 Mar 10
I think it's normal,I have felt jealous but luckily for me only twice so far.
@vince06 (98)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
yah, its normal to get jealous if you really love your GF or BF.and the reason of that is your afraid that she or he might be stolen from you..you ask if it is healthy or unhealthy??..well, it depends you can say that it is unhealthy when your to much like you know that its her or his cousin or relative you also get jealous..thats not good..but if the scenario is that your GF or BF has this friend and they are new friend and they are usaully going out i think you must get jealous of it and if ever you will invite her or his to have a date and he or she will refuse because this friend of her or his invite her also thats the time you will get jealous..i also feel jealous whenever i see my girl with some guy in the picture but i will just control my feeling coz i know its not right because i know its only her friend..its normal to get jealous but see to it that it is right for you to get jealous..and always trust your GF or BF..
• India
5 Mar 10
hi candyfairy You get jealous only when you like or love someone. I think, being jealous, in a relationship is healthy to some extent. It is because of jealousy you come to know how much you love someone. And you come to know the importance of that person in your life
5 Mar 10
I trust my husband, I really do. He's a great guy and very honest and I know he would never cheat on me. I don't mind if he fancies people on TV or if he looks at a pretty woman when we're walking in the street. Even so.... I really don't like it when he talks too long to another woman if we're out. I think it's that I don't like to see him get too emotionally close to anyone other than me. I know it's a silly reaction but I can't help how I feel. I'm not sure whether jealousy is healthy or unhealthy but I think it's a normal reaction.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
5 Mar 10
Is it normal in a relationship to get jealous? I think that jealousy is part and parcel of love If a guy or girl is super friendly with your gf or bf do you naturally get jealous? I don't mind that my wife would have male friends but I would not appreciate it if they become over friendly. If a friend keeps his boundaries I dont; mind it at all. Is jealous healthy or not healthy in a relationship? Jealousy can kill a relationship. If someone is over jealous and tries to control the other partner, the relationship is doomed to fail. I don't think that it is healthy at all. What makes you insanely jealous? Hmm Can I skip this one?
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 10
I think only robots don't get that jealousy feelings. As a human I do get jealous but I have my limits.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hi candyfairy... I don't think feeling jealous at times is unhealthy in relationship. But it still depends on the situation. If there is something to be jealous of, like your bf is super close to a girl, then it is not bad. I even tell my bf about it when he's super close to some girls, and he does not hate me for it. He tells that he feels how much I love him and how I would not want to lose him. But if I know that a girl is his friend, I never get jealous. Well, it really depends on the situation and on how you both talk or handle the situation...
@champan (513)
• Argentina
5 Mar 10
Its normal. But if it becomes a routine, its really bad , and then it makes things for complicated, it brings problems,and the hole thing... It always depend on both, you and your couple. If you really trust in each other here wouldnt be big problems. In my case with my ex girlfriend , the first month we have some discussions about that, but with time we really started to believe in each other. I really trust her , but the question is... you believe and trust your couple... but can you trust other people??? People you dont know , or people you know that talks in a bad way of you to her. I cant do that. SO, i really trust in her , but not in other people...
@chetanvk (211)
• India
5 Mar 10
It is a natural common mind set found in most people. I am also get jealous if my girlfriend is closed to some one else than me. I get jealous when my colleague get more increment compared to me. This is really normal case. The natural mind set person will get jealous. If any person who is not jealous then it means he is not a normal. There is a different mindset. Jealous comes from mind it depends on the persons thinking only. but to be frank, yes people get jealous and this is normal.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
5 Mar 10
hi my friend! Jealousy is the worst of all "conditions" in one relationship and maybe the most frequent reason for many break up's between gf and bf. I don't have a gf now, because she left me several months ago, but not because of someone else( at least i think so ), but because I moved to another town and she prefered to stay with her parents! well, i am not angry to her, maybe I wasn't that important to her, but I have never jealous her from some of my or her friends, because I knew that they are just friends. and as i told I can't do nothing else with jealousy than make her leave me So don't be jealous if you really love the person next to you
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hi candyfairy, I think it's normal to have jealousy in a relationship. Sometimes, it's healthy coz you'll value each other more and figure what you're true feelings are. It also helps couples to be at the tip of their toes. Some would even be flattered. But there's a point when jealousy is too much and can be a reason for the falling apart of the relationship. It will seem you do not trust each other, and you don't value the worth of your partner because you're making him/her jealous. What would make me insanely jealous? Hmmm.. I've been in this situation a lot of times, I admit. I became very jealous when my bf is showing almost the same affection for me to his girl best friend. Another situation is when he secretly meet up with his childhood sweetheart. That pushed me to the edge. It's normal and healthy to have a little jealousy in a relationship but make sure it's not too much and affect both of you frequently.
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
I think it is normal to get jealous, but it should be reasonable, and try not to overreact. Guys hate it when their girlfriends get jealous when there is nothing to be jealous of. But sometimes guys like a little jealousy because it shows that they are important to their girl. Just do not overreact. I personally don't get jealous if my bf is super friendly to a girl, what makes me jealous is when the girl starts to give something, like jewelry, to my guy. It happened once. I was so upset. But he promised it will never happen again.
• India
5 Mar 10
No i never feel jealous because being jealously is very bad and its not good habit if my boyfriend talks with some other girl i never feel jealous instead of being jealous i will tell him to some time to yours friends.
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hi candyfairy21 I think it is fairly normal to get jealous when your guy get super close to a girl and it is considered healthy because it shows how much you value your guy and how you think of him as a good catch. However if you are constantly jealous of everyone and is paranoid of his daily activities then that is what we call unhealthy and may lead to a lot of fights. I haven't been insanely jealous for a while now because he rarely goes out and if he goes out, it's always with his guy friends at a computer shop.