getting married to a convict
By avani26
@avani26 (1518)
India
March 7, 2010 4:56am CST
This is the debate I am watching in Larry King Live on CNN today and it is really quite interesting and got me thinking how could anyone marry a person who is already in a prison?
There are people on this show who have married people who are convicted in murder cases, et al and had been sentenced to life imprisonment. They have met them online and knew from before that they are convicts before meeting them. And the most surprising part that they cannot lead a conjual life till their partner is released from prison, if at all ever.
There are so many discussions here on mylot where I have read partners being dishonest when their better half are staying with them, so do you really feel that the person who has married such a convict would be able to be loyal to them? And if you think, then whu so?
Dear Mylotters, I would be looking forward to your views on this very interesting subject?
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7 responses
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
7 Mar 10
I have heard one such incident.. No doubt, all Indians know Charles Shobhraj, a famous criminal and who was caught after years of struggle. A girl of 23-25 fell in love with him, when he was in prison. And both of them decided to get married, when he would be released... I haven't heard any of them after that...
I think some people have fancies for real criminals and that's what make them take such a step. I don't think they would be able to remain loyal to their prisoned partners though... LOL... Happy myLotting!
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
8 Mar 10
Dear friend,
May be if a man becomes a convict after he gets married or if those married one know that person a convict after marriage I hope the situation would be different and much worse. Here the person knows what kind of person going to married. May a person could be convict for self defense, false allegations, false case, trapped or any other reasons that was not intentional. The power of love is one of the most powerful one.Another aspect I consider the taste of choice if differs.....
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
7 Mar 10
I live several miles from a Canadian Federal Prison for dangerous offenders. When I was with Toastmasters International I got caught up in program to help inmates learn public speaking. Our club went to the prison to listen to their speeches, and to assess them accordingly. The inmates speeches were very smooth. It would appear that these poor gentlemen had been wrongly accused. The addresses were all examples of the cream of Human Kindness. These men were without exception, all Bull-$hitters to the highest degree. There is an old saying that I believe wholeheartedly - "Once a Con, Always a Con!"
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
if im the girl and if the guy is in jail then why would i marry him knowing he cant be with me to share with everything. but if his an ex convict and his free already then why not, if i can see that his very true an really love me and if i know that his willing to change everything then of course i will give him another chance specially if i also love him. its not because his an ex convict it means they dont have a normal life ahead of them. but while in prison then no thanks, theres still a lot of guy out there who is free.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
A thing like that is very common here in my country, where couples met because of letters. There husband was convicted and they met because some of there friends introduce there selves with each other, since then they never failed to exchange letters from each other. Actually I don't know how to give some opinion on this, maybe the love that they had was so great that they even forget the reason why there love was inside the jail.
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@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
It depends upon the person, is he/she really the faithful type? If he/she is then that might work. Couples can get conjugal visits where they can you know :). However, marriage is not so simple. It takes two to tango and it's hard to workout even when your partner is near you all the time how much more then if he is away? But all these depends on the person. One of the biggest concerns aside from the financial aspect is the physiological aspect. We have physiological and emotional needs and sometimes we want it to be met right then and there and so what happens when your partner is always never around?
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@Gany15k (1673)
• India
7 Mar 10
I'm confused.
.I had never heard a thing like this.I don't know what to say but one thing is right.I have seen many tv shows about people being dishonest to their partners.It is really bad.But I don't know how much they will be true to their convicted person.But there are people who just marry for their society sake..So they just marry those kind of people and live a fake life.There can also be true love so they can marry that person and live for them in dreams.I salute those kind of people.This is my opinion...
.I had never heard a thing like this.I don't know what to say but one thing is right.I have seen many tv shows about people being dishonest to their partners.It is really bad.But I don't know how much they will be true to their convicted person.But there are people who just marry for their society sake..So they just marry those kind of people and live a fake life.There can also be true love so they can marry that person and live for them in dreams.I salute those kind of people.This is my opinion...