In-laws versus "real" family
By fallingfan
@fallingfan (445)
United States
March 7, 2010 4:43pm CST
I have a bunch of brothers and sisters whom I love and whom I feel very comfortable around, but one of my brothers and one of my sisters both got married in the last couple of years, and I still feel kind of awkward around their spouses. My question to you is do you feel more comfortable around your blood relatives than you do around your relatives by marriage? And, what can I do to start feeling more comfortable around my in-laws?
4 responses
@LittlePrince2s (141)
• Greece
7 Mar 10
Well... its very difficult to feel nice and comfortable around some people that you may not know so well.. I think that its not only your responsibility to feel comfortable with them.. they have to make an efford too.. for examble, with my brothers "wife"(almost) we are very good friends, but thats because we both wanted that... and we both tried of course.. So you can just be yourself and show to them that you like them and also try to make them feel confortable with you... then, they will just have to do the same thing with you... ;)
@fallingfan (445)
• United States
7 Mar 10
Thanks for the advice. I admit that sometimes it is just too hard to try to be friends, you know? I just want things to be more comfortable now, because both couples are expecting my first nieces or nephews. :)
@LittlePrince2s (141)
• Greece
7 Mar 10
If you already like them, and if they already like you, believe, the things are very easy!! Just be your self, and show that you wanna be close ;)
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
8 Mar 10
A lot of cultures are different but in America you can ignore your in-laws. Usually you try to like them but in my case I didn't.
@fallingfan (445)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Haha, your response made me smile! The thing is, I want to get along (and feel comfortable around) my brother and sister in law. :) Thanks!
@hera_alhambra (193)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
when my brother got married, i tried to get to know my new sister in law, since she's the type who's quiet around people who she don't know well. it wasn't that difficult because she's a really nice person when you get to know her. it just takes time for the both of you to open up, then soon you'll feel comfortable being around with your sister and brother in laws.
@fallingfan (445)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Haha, sounds like your sister-in-law was my type of person. :) Thanks for the information!
@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I have never been married yet, but I finally got to meet the family of my boyfriend. His parents are so cool, and very accommodating. I don't have any trouble of dealing with them. I think they're nice people. I just hope that what relationship we have right now will still be the same after we get married. My family, on the other hand, are so so cool. I don't have much problem in dealing with my siblings, but my parents are not so open-minded. Mind you, I am already 24 years old but I never told them than I am in a relationship because I am still afraid that they will freak out. Haha!
@fallingfan (445)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Thanks for responding. My b-i-l and s-i-l are good people, too, and I am very thankful for that! Good luck to you! :)
