what will you do after an argue with your dad?

Philippines
March 7, 2010 10:50pm CST
I had a very bad feeling after an argue with my dad last night. I know and I respect him but there are times that I answer him in a way he didn't like. It's a way for me to express that he is doing something wrong. I know I am at the right age and knows how to think and decide for the family since I'm the eldest. But somehow, my pride hinders me from saying sorry for my dad. I just let it ride and after a few days, I act that ther'es no such an incident that happen. How about you? how do you response on this situation in your life even its your parent, or people around you?
13 responses
@pcserver (392)
8 Mar 10
First of all, I would go to apologize whatever I he has done. He is your dad for god's sake. I too have arguments with my dad from time to time...we yell at each other even...but finally I apologize, because I am younger and if he apologizes too it will be great. I think with family it is just ugly not to talk to each other....because that happens if we do not apologize after a big brawl :) The biggest mistake I think is to act like nothing happend, cuz these things stay in peoples minds and it is just hard to forgive after a long period of time!!!
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hi pcserver, I feel that my dad is keeping the pain in his heart without telling it to me. I felt so guilty about my self on this acts because he is still my dad. Its not a good feeling to live on a same house with misunderstandings to the people around you. We cannot be happy an be comfortable. I'm finding ways and picking up my self to do what is right for now. I want to have a good relationship with my dad because it feels better :)
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Apologize is the first thing to do. You only pointing out your opinion. You are on the right age to decide whats good for you.
@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
I would surely ask an apology after i exchanging words with my dad, actually i never done it myself, we have some words to talk but not to end up arguing ..I think arguing with parents is not really a good manner no matter how worse the case, i can tell what i think its right but never argue upon things..I respect their words and if its not right i can explain to them what are the possibilities would happen. Happy myLotting!
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
8 Mar 10
i don't think i had ever argue with my dad ever... but with my mum, yes... many times... i love and respect my dad a lot and he always give in to me anyway... so i never have to go as far as to have an argument with him to sort things out... we just talk nicely and share each other feelings... anyway, we are both adults and we try to avoid arguments as much as we can... but if i do really have to argue with him, i will definitely apologise to him as i will feel really bad and he is my father no matter what happen... take care and have a nice day...
@Detrox93 (106)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Family arguments are by far one of the most painful, sometimes even worse than arguments between you and your husband. They will go away, but the truth is you have to stop them before they come, because they truly will ruin your day. I've had many arguments, but each morning I wake up and tell myself, "Try to be accepting of everyone's opinions." It works well for me, but occasional I get set off the deep end.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 10
arguing with parents is normal because every child is entitled to issue and defend his opinions ... The most important is, how the way the child defend his opinions ... any way, still to be delivered politely
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@Gany15k (1673)
• India
8 Mar 10
To say truly I will just break anything in my home.Then again a fight will start with my father for breaking...He will tell don't be in home just go out.I will just walk to my friends home and then my mother will call me to come.And then I will come and have lunch or dinner and will sleep.This what will happen whenever I fight with my father.. We once had a big argument.I know it is my mistake.But I no one will understand from my point of view.Then it extended very badly...I went to my friends home and nobody knows where I went.They searched me and then after the problem solved I just returned....I want to ask sorry to my father for that.I will ask for sure when the time comes..
@airakumar (1553)
• India
8 Mar 10
Well, it is very rare that I have an argument with my Dad but when happened, I stay calm for a while and then of course apologize for argument and try to make my Dad understand the reason for an argument calmly and he understands it very well. What is nice about him is that he listens and I never try to convince him that I am right by telling him he is wrong! Seriously. And most important I believe you must always be respectful. It's not just your dad or my dad but allow the other person the courtesy of disagreeing with you! It's ok to have different perspectives and opinions. We all have our own experiences in life that lead us to believe as we do. None of us wants to be called "stupid" or worse because we disagree with someone right? In turn, don't be the person who turns an exchange of ideas into a fight which I do.
@ausgc21 (340)
• Australia
8 Mar 10
As everyone says, it's perfect normal. Every farther should expect that from the very moment he made our mother pregnant! Personally, I admit my misdoing on the spot and apologize when I have went a little too far. If I miss a chance to do so, and if my farther doesn't apologize for what he said/done either, then I would just let it drift as well. Though, the ultimate rule for this is, never ever bring the topic up again if you haven't said sorry. Don't 'pretend' it hasn't happened - make it as so it actually never happened. Then, if my farther happen to bring up the topic again (which he wouldn't usually do as he goes by the same rule as well), I would make sure to apologize first. After all, it's good to apologize if you do feel bad. Also, it makes me feel better if I apologise first as that makes my farther look like a hardhead, and makes me look like an open-minded man :P I wish you all the best! Happy myLotting :)
@MrKennedy (1978)
8 Mar 10
I usually just let my dad cool down, give him a chance to think, and hopefully approach him to resolve the argument once everything has breezed over We don't argue much these days, but when we do, things can get a little heated
@binagupta (627)
• India
8 Mar 10
I really respect my dad when i argue with him i really feel sad i start crying, after that when i get relax i go and talk to him
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Arguements with parents is inevitable. I also argue with my parents but then i apologize after our arguement. Maybe i feel i am right but then as a respect to my parents, i apologize for talking back to them.
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Arguements with parents is inevitable. I also argue with my parents but then i apologize after our arguement. Maybe i feel i am right but then as a respect to my parents, i apologize for talking back to them.
@Yanglong (27)
• China
8 Mar 10
Apologizing to you father, because no matter what he do, he always loves you. Your pride is needless before your father, so say sorry and talk to him, maybe your Dad and you will become good friends from your apology, come on!