Feel disappointed because your mylot friends do not respond to your discussions?
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
China
March 11, 2010 7:38pm CST
Hi, friends. I believe all of us have made some good friends on mylot while earning, regardless of the number. We are friends because we have something in common and would like to share our interests with others. When we start a discussion, it's natural that we may expect our friends to respond. But there are also times when our friends take no notice our discussions. In such a case, will you feel disappointed or even feel angry with your mylot friends?
As for me, I first hit the "friends started" button to see if there are some interesting topics whenever I log in. When I'm finished with them, I search for other discussions. If I start a discussion but receive no response from my friends, I don't feel disappointed or angry with them as they have their own interests and I can't always expect them to be interested in my discussions. What about you? Do you prefer to respond to your friends' discussions first?
Please share your views. Thanks in advance.
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3 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 10
hi no I never get mad at my friends as I never know why they might not respond and truthfully a lot of them do respond all the time. I guess I am lucky I have some really wonderful friends. I do a lot more responding than making discussions as I like to have time to tend to doing comments on the responses to my discussions like tending a flower garden in a way. I comment and some comment back, so I comment to their comments, its a lot of fun that way. also I hit friends first and play browse and find all the discussions I am interested in and respond to them. I always respond to my friends first of course.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
26 Mar 10
Hi, there. You're really lucky to have some wonderful friends, or rather, you deserve their attention as you take them sincerely on your part. It's a mutual friendship, and nothing could be better. It really makes no sense to request our friends to respond to our discussions. They will be willing to respond so long as they care about us. Thanks for responding. Best wishes!
@pierone (1894)
• Italy
12 Mar 10
Nahhh.
If my true friends would do that, probably I could be really disappointed. But I'm talking about life friends. The true people that you know in real.
Here we misuse the word "friends", and we use this word just meaning "contacts".
Contacts are people with their own life, interests, job, hobbies, and are not our friends. Are just people that occasionally exchange few sentences with us. So why you should be disappointed if someone who don't know you don't answer your discussion? Is nothing personal, is just he's not your friend, he's just a nickname in your contact list ;)
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
12 Mar 10
Thanks for your response. You pointed out a quite innovative idea. Perhaps we really have misused the word "friends". It's true that friends in real life does not mean the same as friends online, just like friends on mylot. But I do think there are some "contacts" as you called in my friends list mean something to me because I take them as my real friend though I know nothing about them except some words typed here. I don't know if other mylotters feel this way, but at least this is what's on my mind.
@gogierm4ge (398)
• United States
12 Mar 10
No. I feel I don't get that because I don't do it much myself. I add them to get to know them, not to be a machine at responses.
Friends can be for that, yes.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
12 Mar 10
Thanks for responding. 
It's great that you take your mylot friends interest into account. You really deserve their friendship. Some people may expect their friends to be active in responding all their discussions, but that's totally absurd as we cannot do that too.
It's great that you take your mylot friends interest into account. You really deserve their friendship. Some people may expect their friends to be active in responding all their discussions, but that's totally absurd as we cannot do that too.1 person likes this
