What is your BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND to your Life?

Philippines
March 12, 2010 6:43am CST
In our country engaging in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is "holy" in the sense that when they separate will result to extreme anxiety, major depression and sometimes suicide. I would like to know what is it having a relationship. Is it the same as having friends? Does it take that much time to share with each other? Is it necessary to hurt that much when separated? what is the limit of having a relationship like this?
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@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Most likely, I treat my boyfriend not just a lover but a best friend, a family, and a playmate... ^_^ We don't only cherish our romantic relationship but we also give so much significance in our friendship.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
You're very much welcome... :)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
My girl friend is my best friend. Thank you!
@evanya (72)
• United States
14 Mar 10
as for me,a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is a special relationship that be different from that either family or friends,we often want to contact each other whenever and wherever we remember,it has a strong feeling for me as do not meet her,sometimes,if a long time do not see,i will call her or sent shormessage to her,but,as time,i need to do follow my heart,and have spare time for each other to do what we wants,something wont be speaked out,you'll be done out of your control or feeling,that's love.
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Yes, I think you have the point.
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
A boyfriend or a girlfriend is a companion and someone you can share anything romantically. As the relationship goes by, it becomes deeper and deeeper. And extreme anxiety and major depression only depends on how deep the relationship was. That's what I think about having a relationship.
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Therefore if my girlfriend doesn't show companionship to me there is no reason to continue our relationship?
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
the boyfriend and girlfriend thing is like a getting to know each other more. trying to be friends with each other to have someone whom you can love and trust with. its only the time of where we choose to stay or leave once we find out the we are not compatible to each other so we can still find another person, its like an elimination period and if we already find the right person then thats the time that we proposed for marriage and become a fiancee then get married. though some took gf and bf seriously by making the other person as already part of their life and that without the other one they feel that they will die. thats why theirs friend in the words boyfriend coz they will also serve as our friends to know all about us inside out like what friendship did.
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I appreciate your comment on this matter. From what I understand if this "period" is the time of choosing, then courting someone to be your GF (or in some BF) is not really necessary for at the end its useless. To make my statement short to have a Girlfriend/boyfriend means no courting in the first place. If they liked you then you are in a relationship. Am I right?
• India
12 Mar 10
Hello, I don't have a girlfriend, neither do I want to have one. But I had a girlfriend once. It was the most tensed relationship of my life. I did so many things for her, which in the end she wasn't ready to believe. I sacrificed my career, my friends and so many other things that were once quite valuable to me. At first I was independent, but as time went I got more and more affectionate, and she became more and more distant. The love that was increasing in me, was the same love that was decreasing in her in the same amount, that is what I thought after she dumped me for apparently no reason. Now that I've grown matured enough I understand completely what went wrong then. Its not that I loved wrong person, we often do that. Its because of my expectations. She never loved me. She was probably not sure from the beginning, though what she said, how she behaved made me think that she loved me beyond all measure. I started to expect that from her, and from myself too, all of which proved disastrous. I was hurt when I was separated. I was hurt severely, mortally. But now when I think about it, I realize that that was exactly what was necessary to make me the person I am today. God bless you all
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I was touched. goose bumps is flowing all of me while i started writing this. Actually the reason why I started this discussion is that I am depressed that in our relationship now I am the only one who's making it strong. I mean she doesn't hesitate to tell me when we are in war that she will break from me. She is not afraid even a single time. Yes I know I must not expect but it is clearly unfair! I always believe that relationships don't end because you are not destined together but because you choose to end it. Revising it, relationships last if both choose to be together despite the hindrances in their path. ;(