What thoughts go in your head when you go in friendship with the opposite gender
By divineathena
@divineathena (1746)
United States
March 13, 2010 9:35pm CST
For centuries people have been saying that a friendship between a girl and a boy always goes through some kind of romantic tension. It is usually seen that men tend to approach a woman for friendship because she seemed attractive. But same is not always true for women because they are sentimental and more accepting of all kinds of friendships.
So my question is for both men and women: What is the first few things that come in your head when you approach a person of opposite gender for friendship?
3 responses
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I dont think so at all. Most of my closest friends are males and our relationship with each other didnt really result to something more than just friendship. They cherished me as one of their real friend and i also feel the same way for them. I am married now and so is the other guy but we are still good friends. Sometimes I even think that they are better than female friends because they really keep my secrets and they never tell them to anybody. I really love my boy friends and they love me too. I just know. I didnt even feel that they have something for me in a romantic way because they all considered me as one of the guys. haha!
I seldom see them now but we always plan for something to gather again and bring back the old times. What I like most about them is they really take care of me. I am just so comfortable with them that we even sleep in one bed, all for of us and I am the only girl but nothing really happened. Two of them drink but they never encouraged me to drink just for people to think its cool cause they know that its not cool for a woman to drink or smoke. They are helped me preserve my dignity and I am really happy about the way they treated me. They were my friends and they'll always be. 
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Its good that you have a sweet friendship with your guy friends. But did your husband ever doubt this friendship?
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
It was centuries ago that people have that kind of mind set but these days, its no longer like that. Most of my friends are males and we have been friends since I was young. They are still my friends now even though some of us are already married. I am the only girl in our group and it doesnt matter if I am. I like their company and they treat me as one of the guys. They also respect me as a girl and never encouraged me to do things that are degrading for e woman. I like the way they take care of me. I even trust them with my secrets cause I know they are not going to tell anybody about it. I really trust my boy friends and I really like them. 
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well, first of all, I believe that a friendship between a boy and a girl doesn't always mean there is a romantic tension. And not all men tend to approach a woman for friendship because she seemed attractive. I have many guy friends and they don't think that way. A boy and a girl can be friends just because they love being together, it's fun to be with each other, and that's it. In cases, where the boy befriends a girl just because she's attractive, is when he's using friendship as the first step to have a romantic relationship with that girl.
