In a quandry
March 14, 2010 1:27pm CST
I think of myself as a good person. I know what it's like to live on a dime & not know where the next meal is coming from. So when I'm met with someone in the same or similar situation, I try to help as best I can. There were several persons living in the empty lot next door to me. They weren't hurting anyone & they were keeping our neighborhood "clean" by collecting the trash that was recyclable like aluminum cans or other metals that were trashed. I offered food when I had extra & gave them work when I had funds for the job. One of the men had a dog. I respected him for caring for the dog even tho he's on the down & out. But he disappeared, leaving the dog behind. Later I found that he was in the hospital for several months. I took the dog in & took care of her. Now he's back on the streets. And taking advantage of me, I feel. I went out during the night & found him & his "lady friend" sleeping in the reclining front seats of my van. In the AM I told her I didn't want them doing that... Yesterday I talked to him & told him no, he couldn't sleep in my van. Last night, in the middle of the night, I let my dog out to potty & there he was in my van, sleeping. I know... lock the van. But when I do that, I know he will find another nook for shelter. I am facing bankruptcy myself & haven't worked in quite some time. I'm disabled with no family left & don't need the aggravation. I want to do what's right, but feel like I'm being violated & taken advantage of... What to do? What to do?
• United States
14 Mar 10
Unfortunately, he knows that I am disabled. I am unemployed. I am trying to get benefits like food stamps etc. My utilities are in jeopardy. He knows all that. But both of them seem to mistake "kindness for weakness" as someone I used to know used to say. I talked to another neighbor today & he said that they tried to sleep in his van last night, too. His father is letting him stay there because he's out of work. And he's afraid if they are sleeping in his van, his dad will kick him out. Wringing my hands,... What to do? What to do? I don't want to be unkind, but I don't want to be walked on either.