What your kids are really learning in school
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
March 16, 2010 11:57am CST
Everyone can empathize with a child when they say that they are being bullied at school or that they are not liked. Some parents take a very active role in their childrens social life, forcing this and that socially interraction upon the child with the best of intentions. What our children really learn in the 12 required primary educational years of their youth, is the social dance and fitting into the social hierarchy. We also build relationships with people with whom we share common likes, dislikes, neighborhoods, situations, family lives, etc. Some of these relationships will last throughout a lifetime and some won't last throiugh the week. You learn how to empower yourself either through excellence or through physical superiority. You learn how to deal with people not liking you, people liking you, spreading tales about you and about other people. You learn how to make friends, be friends, lose friends, and the warp and woor of interpersonal interraction.
All this prepares you for life in the big, bad world once you are grown and gone from your parents home and into your own grown up life. There are a lot of interpersonal skills and experiences to be had, digested, and used in the molding of ones personality, to be had in this enforced socialization which is school. Whether they are loved or hated at their school, popular, or not, smart, or not children will learn a great number of things in school over which we have little or no control and which are not in the curriculum or in anyone's curriculum.
2 responses
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
16 Mar 10
The real study days have gone these days. A time was there when parents extended their time towards children for their study. But these days they have totally dependent on the school teacher or with the tut ions they are being given.
Of course some children are very intelligent with their grasping power - an all are not blessed with this.
It is the prime duty of the parents to just keep an eye on children as to what they re being taught and parallel they also should refresh these so that the child gets support for his growth.
@Lochoa (222)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Personally I was in the "in crowd" in school and started messing up in school like talking back to teacher sand all that stuff. I ALWAYS got good grades though so they couldn't complain too much but I can honestly say I don't remember learning anything! Like anything useful for my adult life. Maybe little things like how to make friends and stuff like that but people can learn that everywhere not just school. For high school I did independent atudy and that helped me alot! How to be indepdent and everything. I was still popular it was fun and we got to meet every couple of days during the week for Math and stuff like that. I learned a lot more during this time of my life then Elementry but still. School sucks and so do teachers. Well maybe not all of them but for the most part in the regular schools but in my independent study the teachers seemed a lot more helpful and caring like they weren't just there for a paycheck. I even went to a private school s my parents were paying a lot of money for my education but they still sucked. For Independent study it was public so there was no tuition. My two lil sisters did Independent study and they both did really good. One graduated and the other one is still in school. She's getting a lot better grades then regular school too. We've all averaged 3.5+ GPA.
Everything of what you're descibing is with the regular school system and I hate the way that's run they need to change it up or make smaller classes so the teachers can be more focused with the kids b/c the classes are too big for the teachers to really make a difference in one's life b/c when the classes are bigger the teachers always have their favorites so gthe other kids are automatically jipped of their education so they slack off more
