Shut the F*%$ UP!
By olisaur
@olisaur (1922)
United States
March 17, 2010 6:28pm CST
Have you ever been sitting at home, and found yourself listening to an arguement between two other family members/friends?
Just about everyday now, I have been listening to my mom and my 13 year-old sister get into arguements. A vast majority of them are pointless. My sister always says things just to get attention, but it turns out a lot of those things said to my mom will make her go off on a tangent about how kids her age shouldn't be saying that kind of stuff (mostly just opinionated stuff). And my sister somes back with some faux-witty remark like "well, it's not ALWYAYS like that..." or "it's not EVERYONE..."
I find myself wanting to butt in and say "Shut the F--- UP! You're both stupid!" Their arguements are just so pointless, and just [so clearly, to me,] products of our family's past chaos (...I guess the "feeling" of a need for conflict).
It's impossible to prevent these things, and I cannot escape them, but thankfully I am in the process of moving out. ^-^
8 responses
@gogierm4ge (398)
• United States
18 Mar 10
So with this "moving out" thing. Are you moving out of the house or ignoring these arguments?
@payout (3797)
• United States
13 Sep 10
So do you think moving out is the solution? It is!!!! I think its just a phase everyone goes through. I recommend that you just walk out or go to your room, same with your mom just don't pay her no mind. In time she will shut up lol. Your sister probably thinks oh "mom has never been through this." Your sister is still young so she still has years to argue with your mom, it helps the relationship. Because I believe a relationship with out arguments isn't a HEALTHY one.
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
18 Mar 10
it happened to me when i was young as well... my parents always have arguments with each other or with my brothers (elder or younger one)... and i being a middle child, always have to act as a negotiator everytime to clear up the situations... sometimes, when i get really tired of this, i just stay and hide in my own bedroom and do my own things... i just ignore them until they get tired by themselves eventually and stop... take care and have a nice day...
@Biomechanoid (2922)
• Estonia
18 Mar 10
I am in the same situation. My sister is approximately of the same age as yours and she also has such arguments with my mother from time to time. They just start fighting over some unimportant thing and it breaks out into a real conflict. I rarely have arguments with my mother, but I have to listen the arguments between my mother and sister.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
14 Aug 10
Haha.. Your funny.
My family is like this too but it's like full family battles. Ex) My Uncle and Auntie vs my whole family. That battle has been on going for about 5 years.. And it's always fighting about stupid things.
My cousin vs my other cousin is the worst. It will be over absolutely nothing. One time my cousin was just walking threw the living room and her sister is like DON'T GIVE ME THAT LOOK. First of all What the ----? Second of all I am 100% sure she did not even look in her direction at all. 
@Qaeyious (2357)
• United States
18 Mar 10
My favorite practical meditation I will teach you now.
If you are not familiar with meditation, there are sites for beginners to give you the basics. http://meditation.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_to_meditate_beginner_meditation_essentials is an example.
Once you are able to find your own space, take notice of any object. Don't meditate on the object itself, but the space it occupies.
Sounds are like that. They take up "space" in the realm of silence. Go into your space, and meditate on the silence that is always there behind the sounds.
It will take some practice, especially if your environment is continuously noisy, but once you get going, you can ignore all the disturbing sounds around you to your will.
I still need some practice with that blasted gum popping.
@moonchild117 (1990)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
We used to have that kind of situation when I was younger. What I did was to condition myself in disregarding whatever they were saying and just walk out. At times I'd even have the earphones on and listen to music just to keep my mind out of it. Eventually when us siblings got older, that stopped. I guess we all realized that was all childish stuff. I guess your sister is in that stage where she'd like to get attention for herself. And your mom -- well, all moms are like that, I think it's a given. Just chill and take things in stride.
