My baby ignores me when I go in and out of home, what should I do?

Philippines
March 18, 2010 1:47am CST
My baby is the center of everyone's attention in the house. I hired a babysitter to take care of him because I am a working mom. In a week-long observation, he's getting closer to my auntie and even to his nanny who are always with him 24 hours a day. Whenever I leave the house at daytime, he doesn't even care to wave me goodbye and still rejects me when I go home after a day's work. He doesn't want me to carry him yet prefers to be with my auntie most of the time. I can't even calm him down when he cries. Why is he behaving that way? Should I quit my job and spend more quality time with my baby?
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7 responses
• Germany
19 Mar 10
Hi, eloveriz2004. It's very normal that your baby behaves like that. When he is acting like that, please do not be angry at him. Because for sure that baby wants to bond with those who spends most of the time with him. I can understand how you feel. I would feel the same too if my baby does not bond with me. That's why i am a stay at home mommy. Whether you should quit your job or spend more quality time with you baby, depends on what you think it's more important (career or family) and your financial status. If the finance is allowed, i would say spending the quality time with baby is more important between 0 - 6 years old, especially 0 - 3 years old. Between this period, baby gains the knowledge very fast. They love to learn. And parents are the great teacher for baby. This is what i think. I hope it helps. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
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• Germany
3 Apr 10
Thanks for the best response. I am happy that my words help you. It's always best that parents can spend more time together with our children. The children need our companion. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Your welcome lulu! I have spent some quality time with my baby on holy week. We had fun together in 4 days and I can see his treatment to me is improving now. Thanks.. God bless you & your family!
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• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Your words bring enlightenment to me. I find it hard or even painful seeing my baby more attached to other people than me. I know I can be a better mom if spending more hours with him can be made possible. Thanks lulu! God bless you & your family!
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@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
That's what I also observed with my son when he was in that age. He is more closer to the people that surrounds him. Since I am working at that time. What I do is I always spent time with outside our house. We go out just the two of us and let him seen different places. When I gets home I always bring him something that he likes. So better know what he likes to eat or play.
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• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Here's one good news...It seems my little boy recognizes me now since we had a 4-day bonding on holy week (no work). He's always beside me during the whole time as part of making up for all the days I wasn't with him. Yeah, when he turns 1 next month, I'll be bringing something for him every time I go home..Thanks for the suggestion ada! Have a good day...
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@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
That sounds really a good news for you. I am happy that your baby now starting to recognize you. Just be consistent and keep on doing that one so that your baby would always remember you. Keep it up, and always find sometime with him. No worries I would always love to share my ideas.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
this is one of the sacrifices a working mom has to endure and the only way to cope with this is to accept that it is but natural for any human or even animals to like those they often see. babies don't stay babies forever so in due time they'd realize your importance and the reason why you were not often seen most of the time in the house.
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Yes, I'll just wait for the right time when my baby recognizes his real mother. Maybe at age one, he will..haha Thanks ritchelle, your words are wonderful. Are you a working mom too?
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@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
18 Mar 10
Your baby is how old? Children will bond best with those they are around the most, the same is holds true to us humans at any age. So, it is normal behavior to bond with those that are closest to him, and a around him the most. Should you quit your job and spend more quality time with your baby? Is that in your best interest and in the best interest of your baby, and your aunt, and every one else concerned? How will quitting your job benefit your baby? Can you afford to quit your job? What is right about quitting your job? What makes that right? Ponder those questions, then ask for guidance in earnest prayer, and the answer will come to you, choose what will be for the highest good of yourself and all concerned though. Cheers.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 10
My baby turns 10-monthls old today. I just thought of quitting my job for it seems my baby doesn't recognize me at all. My husband advised me to stay at home and be a hands-on mom to our little boy but I need to weigh things out. Thanks for your beautiful response.
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@wll521998 (109)
12 Apr 10
you know you need pay some attention and good take care of your babe althrough you have already hired the babysitter. babe like stay with someone who always around her but not the stranger face.
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
I got your point my friend, thanks for sharing your good opinion on this matter. My baby needs my total care and full attention, I know that very much but I'm still waiting for the perfect time when I'm ready enough to leave my job and be a stay at home mother...It's going to be so soon...
@jenny08 (136)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
...baby's are getting more closer to the people he always seen.,so give more time for him.,
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• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Everybody has been telling me about it but I just can't help but wonder why he's behaving that way. When he grows bigger, maybe he will change and keep an eye on me whenever I go in & out of the house haha!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Apr 10
hi eloveriz2004 why not just work part time so you have more time with your son and still have a job and contribute money if its really needed. I know I finally had to do that, and somehow I managed to have enought time with my two children to bond closely with them, and watch them grow, and still bring in extra money for the household. You child is just used to going to the people hes been around the most, get more time at home and he will start knowing his mommy , and be there for him, good luck, God bless he will learn who his mommy his, hang in there and be patient.
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
I have registered in some paying sites in order to have part time online job but never got payment yet because I've just started joining this year. If this will work, I'd really quit my job & stay at home with my baby. His dad works in a place away from us so, I think my baby needs more of my attention and care. Thanks for posting Hatley! Have a good day...