When Does A Marriage Become Broken???

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I am soooo freaking tired of hearing about John & Elizabeth Edwards & Rielle Hunter!!! Yet the news this morning made me SCREAM like a mad woman!!!! Side note: YES, I am a mad woman, but this was worse than usual!!! Rielle says she & Johnny are in love until death do us part. Elizabeth says Rielle is delusional because there was NOTHING wrong with her marriage until Rielle entered the picture. My thoughts here are "WHO is delusional???" In my humble opinion...THEY BOTH ARE!!! John in NOT innocent in ANY of this!!! Comment for Rielle: He would have NEVER left Elizabeth had she not found out about you & asked him to go. She was his stability, his perfect political wife. He had YEARS invested in her. She was NOT flawed...HE WAS!!! You think he has NEVER lied to you...well Elizabeth used to think the same thing!!! You had best hope that he doesn't marry you or you will become the wife who is sitting at home while he's out running around with another woman. It's a character flaw John has. Yes, he's telling you he loves you & needs you every time he looks at you. He has NOBODY but you to feed his ego right now!!! Comment to Elizabeth: OPEN YOUR EYES!!! Your marriage was broken long BEFORE Rielle met him!!! If you think Rielle is the ONLY one, you better think harder & look closer. His ego tells him that EVERY woman that looks at him WANTS him. It has absolutely NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU...It's ALL ABOUT HIM!!! His needs & desire are MORE IMPORTANT than ANYTHING else in his life. He will spend a LOT of time with Rielle simply because you have removed his safety net. For now Rielle is his safety net. If it will make you feel any better, he WILL cheat on her too!!! YES, Rielle is delusional, but SO ARE YOU!!! She wasn't his first & she won't be his last!!! So, DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT TAKING HIM BACK!!! He will tell you ANYTHING you need to hear in order to get his stability back!!! Just in case I didn't make my opinion clear while rambling... A marriage IS BROKEN when EITHER person doesn't make the commitment required to be married. In this case it was the man. Before I feel the wrath of the Lamb for being a male basher, it is NOT always the man who has the problem...I feel the same way when it's the woman who feels the need to cheat!!! I didn't start this discussion to bash anyone. It was just after feeling caught in the middle of the Edwards affair, I needed to clear my thoughts & my feelings!!! In reality, this chit has brought back MANY terrible feelings from when I was married to a cheater. I spent YEARS feeling guilty for NOT having what it took to fill his EVERY need!!! Then, after him, I needed love WITHOUT commitment & I'm embarrassed to say I became the other woman. I rationalized it by saying that the wife was LUCKY that I was the one cheating with her husband as I did NOT want him to leave her!!! Now I can see how STUPID that was!!! I knew how bad it hurt, but I just didn't care at the time. So, it seems that I was selfish too as it was ALL ABOUT ME!!! I can say there are numerous wives out there who never knew I existed. The way I touched their lives was in a quiet unassuming way never trying to break up their family. I insisted their husband be home for Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays & ALL other family events. Now I feel I have insight that not everybody has. I think the ONLY part I missed was cheating on my husband!!! . When I married for love, I learned the difference between being selfish & being giving!!! Yes, I have changed my ways & I apologize to ANYBODY hurt in my growing up!!!