People that can't get pregnant

@maximax8 (31053)
United Kingdom
March 19, 2010 7:22am CST
It is sad that some ladies try to get pregnant and don't manage it. Some of them seek and are successful in fertility treatment. They can try to have a test tube baby. It is an expensive treatment to have in my home country. It is a shame that in some places there are not many children available for adoption. In the past adoption was easier and it happened quite quickly. I wish that adoption become easier and more popular. My cousins Jane and Karen both tried to get pregnant but couldn't. Neither of them adopted. I have been able to get pregnant three times and this resulted in me having two son and a daughter. I would have adopted if I hadn't been able to get pregnant. How about you? Do you know anyone that had a challenging time getting pregnant? What did she do about it?
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12 responses
@raijem (335)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Doctors say that for most women, stress is may be a factor for some women for not bearing a child. I would recommend taking some time off from work or any stressful activity as this also affects hormone function. I would suggest taking a vacation or probably a "Second" honey moon. Regularly check with your doctor or consult and have sperm/egg cell count so as to know you are in the right track. This is what I would recommend to women that are having problems bearing a child. My wife and I have done this before and it was successful.
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I don't know anyone personally who is trying to get pregnant but is not successful, but during my blog hopping, I stumbled on a site that talks about her trials to become a mother. She tried everything, and some times frustrations come in. But I admire this lady for being so tough and not giving up on ways to get pregnant. She is trying everything just to get pregnant, I think money is not the issue as long as they will have a baby. Though, I already have a son, so I know not how it really feels to be unsuccessful on getting pregnant, but I know and I understand how depressing it is. If ever it happened to me, I would first do everything I can to get pregnant, but if all else fails, then I will resort to adoption. And hoping that me and my hubby can give the baby the love of a real parents. Happy mylotting!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
21 Mar 10
Oh Maxi, you have touched the chord... My fiancee and I plan to marry this year, but she has already found out that she can never get preganant. I am okay with it! And yet, I wanted to be a father... I have already started thinking about adoption or some other ways... Whatever it may be, one thing is true that I love my girl the most... And I can live without becoming a father, but never without her... And yet, I would have loved to be a father... :) Have fun!! And my regards for your kids....
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello max, My cousin Eden is married for more than 10 years now. On their 4th year of marriage,they decided to adopt a child. Now the child is 8 yrs old,a very bright girl,worth their love and care. Still they are hoping to have their own child. They tried every possible ways to have their own,the doctors were giving them hope,since no one among them(the couple)is infertile,and both are healthy. Maybe,there is good reason why God is not giving them child of their own. Now they are planning to adopt another kid,probably a boy this time. You are right that,there's a lot of homeless kids waiting to be adopted. If childless couples will only adopt one from orphanages...then,a lot of homeless kids will be given a chance to live a normal life with parents and love that they've longing for.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
19 Mar 10
Some couple are trying their level best to get their own child. That's ok. Most of them get success. But some of them failed. Now my openion is ' loving God is speaking to those couples. God calls them to adopt a poor child and show love to it'.
@jcburrou (59)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I know some women who have had a dificult time getting pregnant. Fertilitytreatments usually work, but with fertility a lot of times also means having more than one baby at a time....that's something people may need to prepare themselves for. Also, diet could play a key role in whether or not a woman can get pregnant. Every woman should make sure her diet follows the recommended amount of fruits, vegetables, meat, dairy, and grains. Sometimes it just takes some patience, though. And sometimes women aren't trying to conceive at the right times...they should track their periods and make sure they try conceiving when they're ovulating...It's a good idea to try to conceive every day though, to be positive you don't miss your fertile days. I know people who were successful with all of these ideas.
@AmbiePam (85468)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Yes, I do know someone like that. Someone in my family. It is very expensive here also to have any kind of fertility treatment. This person in my family has been trying with her husband to have a baby for three years. She has told me she and her husband have talked about adopting. It is so expensive to adopt. But I know they want a child very badly.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
19 Mar 10
I have a friend whose wife went through IVF thrice. It was a painstaking session everything the wife went for IVF and never succeed. They would have given up if the last attempt was not successful. The baby boy is now 3 years old.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
19 Mar 10
i have 2 friends both of them ..are trying to get pregnant but they are very dissappointed ..both of them went to see the doctor together with their husband but they cant be pregnant..i was so lucky to have my 2 kids
@jakill (835)
19 Mar 10
I know an English couple who tried IVF treatment several times at great cost with no success. In the end they gave up and moved to Spain to pursue a childless life. I think they have adopted several stray dogs.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
19 Mar 10
I am currently trying to have my third child. I only have one ovary. But I got pregnant with my second girl on only one so it is possible. I feel very bad for people who can't have any children of their own. My friend only 22 and already had to have a full hysteroctemy. She luckily got to have one little boy before. But it is sad she is no longer with the father and wont be able to have any more children. She said she may adopt someday. I think adoption is a great option. Someone has to care for the children out there with no parents. Personally if I was never able to have my own children I would be very sad. Being pregnant and feeling the baby move and kick is one of the most amazing experiences. Adoption would only fullfill half of the void I think. The rest of the experience is being pregnant, and labor and having that new born in your arms that was just in your belly. I feel very bad for these woman......it should be cheaper to adopt.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
My dentist went to London just to have a test tube baby. That time, I think it was not available in our country. That was I think 1994 or 1995. And since then, they have been coming back and forth here and London. But up until now, they weren't lucky enough to be blessed with a child. They settled in London, and I have no news if they adopted or what.