Why are women so sneaky?
@Flirtykumquat (927)
United States
March 20, 2010 8:45pm CST
Well, it was brought to my attention today that women are more sneaky than men which is kind of obvious but I wonder why? The situation at hand is that I have a guy friend that has a child who I am kind of close with and her mom (baby mama) friend requested me on Facebook. I don't have anything to hide since the guy and I aren't together or anything so I did accept the request. I wasn't going to say anything to him but the daughter did. So every now and then he brings it up and wonders what the purpose of her trying to get to know me for? I mean I am with her daughter on the weekends so maybe she just wants to get to person around her daughter in my opinion. He told me that right after they broke up though she did the same thing to another girl and he has no idea how he knows her so he keeps saying something about her being a stalker.
But anyways women do tend to be more sneaky and always have a way of finding out information or playing detective and what drives them to do this? I mean I can admit that I use to call people using *67 to find out things and blah blah but I wonder what the real reason is. Do most women really do not trust men or what?
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
21 Mar 10
That's a pretty good question there flirtykumquat. Perhaps it is true, but then again maybe the men give us reason to be. I don't think it is right to stalk someone after you split up, or even when you are together for that matter.
However, men seem to leave out a lot of details. And if they have a history behind them, then it can be really hard to trust them. Therefore, we have to take steps to protect ourselves. Plus, there are those women who just keep there hooks in men and try to get them even when they are married or in a relationship with another woman. I think that the ratio of women to men is one of things that really gets us in this situation as well.
Good luck to you and this perhaps 'stalker' that you may be dealing with. I hope everything works out for the best!
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@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Well, I have nothing to worry about with the so called stalker. She knows there is nothing going on with her ex and I so I am not worried about it. But maybe it is true like you say men give us a reason to be the way we are. They do leave out details and then when you confront them sometims they act like they forget or it's not important to get out from talking about it.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Mar 10
hi flirtykumquat well if we women are sneaky maybe it is because some man or ment have made us do sneaky things to find out the real truth about them, as so many times its the man who sneaks around and plays the field even though he is married. Also I think back a few years a lot of men treated us as second class citizens and we learned to fight back in sneaky ways.It takes a sneaky woman to find out what that sneaky sneak she married is up to. I am so glad my husband was not at all like that, but I have had friends who were married to guys who sneaked around and two timed their wives over and over again. so the wives fought back, caugth them in the act, and got divorced. so hurrah for sneaky women
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.@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Mar 10
typo alert should be some man or men have etc. not ment.darn slippery fingers. also caught not caugth. darn again.
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Men is the cause of women being so sneaky. It is something about them that drives us to do the things we do. I can honestly say that I knew something wasn't right in my past relationship and I went driving places I knew he could be and I saw him in a car I have never seen before. He didn't see me but the next day I asked about it and sure enough he was cheating on me. I have a new guy friend and even though we are just friends I always know where he is and if I don't it drives me crazy what he might be doing. He thinks it is my own insecurity about trusting men but I don't thinks so
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
21 Mar 10
want to know why i end up being sneaky. it's cause everytime i want to do something i'm not allowed to, my partner will stop me. i get in trouble for it as well, and get the blame for everything. i think some people may be driven to do it at times, just so they can get what they want.
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Once again it's the men that drives us to do these things..
@jugsjugs (12967)
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21 Mar 10
I think that alot of women in the past has perhaps had a reason not to trust a person so perhaps that is why they do it aswell as if they had suspected something was going on in the past or in the future it is always handy to keep intouch with people that know that person as then you stand more of a chance in finding out.I am female married with 6 children and over the years i have learnt not to trust certain people even friends and family,so perhaps we are all like it.
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
21 Mar 10
It does seem like that. WHen I was in high school I remember my friend would wonder where her boyfriend is or have me call from my number and we would have all these situations and do things and now I look back in laugh. But even in the present time I know sometimes women might drive by where they suspect someone might be or just little things like that.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
I think it has something to do with experiences especially with that person. Based from experiences I've learned not to trust anyone that much especilly those who are not close to me. Why? I had a bad experience with someone I knew so well. She was one of my staff in the office. I knew her because I was one of her Supervisors. This girl used to be nice to me and even greet me whenever she meets me in the hallway. Then, one day she just started ignoring me and she's acting as if she does not knew me at all. I'm not a nosy person and I don't even read my husband's messages in his phone. I don's ask him about his whereabouts.
During that time there's already a nagging feeling within me that something not good is going on. Eventually, it turned out the girl is having an affair with my husband. I was so devastated and hurt because I trust my husband so much. Starting that day I never trusted any girl he is with especially the new acquaintances and he is aware that I don't trust him that much unlike before because of what he did.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Paranoia. That's one case of paranoia. Something of that sort is happening in her head that is why she is playing detective which many women are really good at. There is also this element of gossip that goes with it. Women always love gossip. they want to know all the bad things that are happening to others. It probably feeds on something inside them.
