Creepy?

Hiya dawn, The other day I was in a Bar outside of Pamplona with my Husband and all this girl with another crowd could do was stare at me. Everytime I turned to look in that direction she was staring at me again. Maybe well maybe I could not think what she could be staring so much for as I don´t know her and she does not know me I have never seen her in my life. If it´s a man that does that I can take it better well you can think other things you know and I would just ignore that and shrug it off too. But with this girl I don´t know what was the matter with her however I took it in my stride and just ignored her completely. After all said and done she was in good male company she should have been talking to them. She was not in earshot range and I was not speaking in English either as you will always get heads turn here when you speak English so it could not have been that. Once or twice I have mistaken someone for someone else but I have not stayed there like a dummy staring at them when I realised I´d made a mistake. She did´nt "creep me out" as you call it but even when I was going outside through the Door she was still doing it.

Maybe the child thought they knew her from someplace or the child wasn't actually starring was spaced out. I know I can be thinking of something else but appear to be starring straight at something without even realizing it because I was deep in thought.

I look at it this way if you are keeping your eyes to your self then you wont notice if someone else is staring at you. I am def. not saying that your daughter was staring at this girl and thats how she noticed the girl was staring at her. Sometimes you can just feel someone looking at you and it gives you the creeps. I know this one girl who no matter where she goes says that people are staring at her. I really think she has a complex about it. It drives me nuts so thats what I tell her I say if you dont look at them you wont notice them looking at you. Imagine how much more creepy it would have been for your daugther to get home and find that the girl who had been staring at her had tracked her down and found her on facebook and requested her as a friend lol.

I find it creepy and would have felt uncomfortable and even scared (specially at her age). The responses Dearra got were not, I´m sure, what the people that responded would have felt and done had it happened to them. It is NOT nice to stare that way. The only reason to accept such a thing is when a mentally handicapped person does it: they dont know better. But I don´t know if I would have been able to see that at Dearra´s age. Congratulate her for me to have the strenght to be able to talk about that to her site friends and to you.

Perhaps the girl in the family thought Dearra was staring at HER...just a thought! Sorry to upset the apple-cart but it's a possibility.

Should you and your family come to my country, I must warn you now that the favorite past time here is staring. You could get stared at because you have nice clothes, nice shoes, nice accessories or really anything nice. You also merit a stare if you're specially attractive or specially weird. You can also get stared at if you have a liberal taste for clothes or you appreciate the not so standard color palette. That happens all the time here. Anything out of the ordinary and you get stared at. As for Deara, being so young just makes her instincts quite strong. So anyone staring at here will probably catch her attention. I sometimes just ignore people who stare except when they get too close for comfort. Either I go out of the way or I make sure they get out of my way. I'm pretty feral about my personal space so that only happens with strangers.

I think I would stare back. Or else ignore them and keep doing my business. Why should I let other people change my mood? People can stare at you for multiple reasons. They might look at you because you remind them of someone you know, or they like your dress, or they are just plain dumb and have nothing to do. I would not be preoccupied if I were you. I have lots of other things to do than worrying about such peculiar incident.

Well being the kind of person I am...I would have said "Take a picture it last longer" But I can be quite a little BEEP

You know what.. in Singapore, sometimes these staring games, they call it here have involved people in fights and etc. I tend to read the papers before and I see news like that. But nowadays, staring games are mostly for boys and girls wanting to know one another, LOL. I find that creepy, if someone wants to get to know somebody and they keep staring. Staring is a bit rude, if you ask me. It's something like glaring.

The only times ive ever stared at anybody its because they were very good looking. So rest asured you must have been looking good.

Um . . . ok, I did this to someone. I kept staring at this man at this pizza place (when I was with my boyfriend (now hubby)) - only because I thought he looked like my old college professor (the "god" of drawing). I just found it odd that he would be at a pizza place of all places . . . I was just looking and looking (so maybe that girl thought Dearra looked familiar???). Well, finally, to my surprise, the man had the guts after his meal to ask if I knew him or something . . . I told him, and it turned out to be him afterall (then we had a nice convo because he actually went to college with my boyfriend's mom!) Anyway, if it were me "now", I think I would go up to the person staring and just ask - just like my college professor did - you never know who that could be. But if I were very young, I guess I would have brushed it off and creeped out as well. At Dearra's age, I thought everyone was staring at me because I had self esteem issues . . . but that's another story.

Wierd! I had this happen this weekend at the mall. Me and my kids sat down next to a couple with kids to eat...and Shelley kicks me and whispers that the lady keeps staring at me...so I started casually looking around and sure enough she's looking me up and down!? I don't know what was up with it and that's the first time I've ever noticed anyone actually doing that. All I could come up with was either she's a lesbian or jealous. I didn't know her-never seen her in my life.

i'll weigh each of these options: smile, ignore, leave. listen to my heart. and act on the slightest cue.

I've had this happen a few times and so what I usually do is ignore them, stare at them until THEY feel uncomfortable, or go up to them and ask if I know them. I unfortunately had this situation come up a few days ago, but I've yet to confront the person because my fiancee and I live with her b/f so I'd rather it not affect things here at home. I just wish the woman would stop staring at us!! Lol :P

This has happened to me and it is actually very creepy and scary I could not eat as I also felt self concious about it

if they kept it up i'd probably tell them "why don't you take a picture?" i hate people who stare like that.even if it's well meaning,it's rude.

Hi, dawnald. I don't like it when someone is looking all up in my face while I am eating. If they kept on looking, I would just finish my food as fast as I can. I would then get up and leave my table. I wonder what they will be looking at now once I am gone??

I really don't know what I would do. I have encountered situations in my life where I've seen people staring at me and maybe a big part of it is because of the fact that I'm a bigger girl, but I'm not really sure about it. There have been times though, that I've seen people staring at my children and it bothers me to the point that we have to leave right then. I know it might be irrational, but I am scared of child predators.

While the situation you describe is creepy, I would do all I could to ignore the person. For me, simple focusing on the food would be enough to keep my attention away from any glaring starer.

People do that to me all the time because I'm fat. Now also they do it because of my legs. It used to bother me, but I've trained myself to ignore their looks. And even convince myself that I have celebrity status, and that's why they feel the need to stare. lol