Mom is aggrevating in the relationships...

I am a mom of three young grown girls. Two has gone through the stages of being with this one or that one. One lost almost everything in one of her relationships. Did she learn from it, YES. She is now preparing to Marry a man that is for her, as she is for him. They concentrate on what is needed for each other to "make it" jobs, school, etc. It takes work to keep a relationship going to grow with it, some don't grow as quick as others. That is how we learn from different relationships. I am not saying that the first isn't the best. In many cases, as for like my grandparents, my grandmother married my grandfather at 18, they grew old together. Some don't make it past the first year. I believe this is what is going on with your mom, she just wants to make sure your ok, your her child. It is hard to step away and let things happen. My second girl had many problems at 16 with guys. Ran into a bad one to boot. She learned though, learned what to look for in a relationship. It is a well rounded with friendship, being able to communicate about EVERYTHING with each other, etc. She is now preparing for marriage in May of 2011. The man she chose, oh my goodness, they are so good for each other it is wonderful to see. Now if she didn't have trouble with some, would she have found this one, the one that makes her so happy? See I am a mom too.. I had worries, thing is I had to learn to let them make mistakes, be there when they needed someone, let them go when they needed to learn what life is without parents. It isn't always easy for parents to "just let go" to let them be adults. We need to, so they can learn lessons we learned. Make sure you have your priorities in check. Make sure you have good communication with the one your with so they understand those priorities. Reassure Mom too now and then. Yes it gets tiring when a parent is there all the time. You need to let them learn as well, that you need your space to learn.

I think that parents think relationships when you are young are a waste of time because they remember their old relationships and silly decisions they made at that point in their lives. But what they don't realize is that making mistakes and trying new things in relationships when we are young is how we prepare ourselves for a mature relationship later in life. If my mother did this, I would tell her that even though I am in a relationship I am still focused on what is best for me. Don't put moving in with your girlfriend or even marrying her ahead of getting an education and a job. Your mom just wants to make sure you will be able to take care of yourself before you start taking a relationship too seriously.