My daughter is going to be a Big SISTER, how do i let her know!?

United States
March 23, 2010 3:15pm CST
I am pregnant, due in October, My daughter just recently turned three. She is the only child. She is not around other children much. The majority of her time is spent with adults. My cousin has a daughter who is almost one. They came for a visit, and my daughter became very jealous of the attention the baby was getting. She even told me she doesn't like for "babies" to come over because they take all their toys. I am not sure how my daughter is going to react with a new brother or sister. I know she proabably will get jealous and may feel left out. Right now, she has all of my time and attention and that will change when the new baby is here. What should i do? How do i deal with this?
4 responses
• United States
23 Mar 10
She will adjust fine. You need to make sure that you play up the big sister role and all of the things that will come along with it. Also make sure that you make special time for just the two of you. You will need to leave the baby with either dad or grandma and have a mommy/daughter date where the two of you can go out and have special bonding time. And never tell her you are too busy for her because you have to take care of the baby. You will have to become a good juggler but don't worry you will somehow manage.
• United States
23 Mar 10
thanks. this makes me feel better. Having a special mommy/daughter time is a a great idea. I will be sure to remember that, and try to do it every once in a while. I do believe that is very important!
@marguicha (131410)
• Chile
23 Mar 10
Hi kainalu, Can you afford to take her to a nursery school so that she can play with other children? If you can, it is the moment to tell her how proud you are of her. It is time that she moves to the bid girl role. If she can also help you when you change the baby (and you tell her you couldn´t do it so well without her) her won´t fight for the place with the baby but "mother" her as bigger siblings should do.
• United States
23 Mar 10
yes, she is definetely ready for preschool. I would love to send her, but they are very expensive here. I am trying for financial aid, which i will hopefully will get. I think it will do her good to be around other children her own age. I agree praising her for helping and being a big girl, is a great idea. thanks!
@allknowing (85919)
• India
1 Apr 10
It is not her but your approach has to change and already now get her into mixing with other children. May be take her to the park and see that she mixes with them. Have a party for her where the other children will bring gifts for her and this way she will start enjoying company of other kids.
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
25 Mar 10
First tell her exactly what is happening, that a baby brother or baby sister is coming and she is going to be a big sister. Include her in helping you take care of the baby, don't leave her out of it. When the baby comes make sure she is given a few gifts to make her feel happy and still wanted. Some kids feel when another child comes along they are being replaced. You need to keep her involved in the whole process from the beginning because once she feels left out that could cause trouble. I wish you the best and a happy healthy baby. By the way if a baby shower is planned make sure your daughter is involved and she gets some gifts too.