How Do You React To Criticism?

Criticism - How u feel when criticized.. and how u react
India
March 24, 2010 10:21pm CST
We all love being appreciated. We feel happy when people praise our good work.We feel proud for our achievements. But how many of us have the power to stomach criticism? It gives exactly the opposite feeling of being showered with accolades.Different people react differently when criticism. Some become aggressive while some others just ignore it. Some try to justify their actions that invited such harsh words. I personally take it in two ways. When i feel that the criticism is justified i try to accept it and correct the wrong i have done. If on the other hand i feel that i was criticized without any valid reason then i go silent and leave the place before i enter into an argument with the other.
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14 responses
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I usually just ignore those people who criticize for the sake of doing it. But those who truly are sincere that what I did is wrong, I would accept it and change my way.
@airakumar (1555)
• India
25 Mar 10
Yes, you are right. Listen intently to what the other person is saying. If you’re busy formulating your rebuttal, you may miss some valuable information that can help you avoid errors in the future or improve your overall performance. Nice one!!
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
we know in a fact that you cannot please everybody. so what i do with criticism is i make it as a challenge to improve my weaknesses points. i dont want to ignore it because i could not improve as a person if i do that.
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
26 Mar 10
I think it all depends what the criticism is about and how the criticism is delivered to you if it is done in a constructive manner it can be taken in stride and maybe something that you can learn from. If someone is criticizing you and yelling at you that would not be something that most people would take kindly and that would probably cause some friction and some problems. Most of us don't like to either be told what to do or to be told that we are doing something in a improper manner and the way I feel about that is there is always more then one way to do things and just because another doesn't like the way you do something as long as you are doing it in a efficent manner what it the difference as my dad always tells me there is more then one way to get the job done and it doesn't have to be the same way that he does it.
@vividh89 (69)
• India
26 Mar 10
Hi preethaanju! Yes, You are right, We should try to accept the positive criticism and correct ourselves and negative criticism should be totally ignored. But it is not that easy. I always try to ignore the invalid criticism but most times I become negative and sometimes lose my temper also to the person criticizing.
@birzaith (45)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I believe we have the same personality. I'm also looking on criticism on a positive way for as long as it is constructive. Most of the anyway, you're gonna feel the concern as, if there is, amidst criticism.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
25 Mar 10
there are two different types of criticisms... constructive and destructive ones... the constructive ones are the positive ones which will help you to improve and become a better person... the destructive ones are the negative ones which aim to destroy you... as you already said in your post, i also react differently to criticisms... with the constructive ones, i will definitely accept them with an open heart and do self-introspection to make myself a better person... with the destructive ones, i will just ignore them and keep quiet... the truth will prevail someday anyway... take care and have a nice day...
@umit_umit (1986)
• India
25 Mar 10
well, the thiong is this if i am right i am least bother about the world the critics can never make their place anywhere!they are afaliures!
• Portugal
25 Mar 10
i deal with criticism quite well but only when its properly justified. Cant accept when someone says something about me but then cant give me any valid reasons on why he/she thinks that. Im basically the same about compliments btw
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 10
If I've done something wrong towards someone and they criticise me, I'm usually fine with it: I resign myself to justified criticism. If someone criticises me to help me in something I want to do, provided it's constructive, and tactfully worded, I'll be anything from accepting to grateful. But there's also destructive criticism and if I feel I'm being subject to that, I'll not like it. My reactions will tend to the negative; I'll laugh it off; or ignore it in a dismissive manner; or forcefully express my objections. I'm fine with the right kind of criticism, but it has to be the right kind or I'm not a happy camper.
@derek_a (10897)
25 Mar 10
I really don't mind criticism when it is given constructively. I reckon this is because I grew up with my father who constantly used constructive criticism. Sometimes he was wrong and I would point it out and he would acknowledge this and apologize, but I guess I got used to. Where criticism is just sarcasm or coming from somebody who doesn't know that they are talking about, it doesn't bother me. I may sometimes tell them that I think they don't know what they are talking about, but usually just ignore them and continue doing what I have been doing anyway. _Derek
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
It depends upon the type of criticism used if it is destructive criticism then I will be expressing out my right especially if I have not done something wrong. If it is constructive criticism then I will be thankful to them especially if it is for my own good.
@airakumar (1555)
• India
25 Mar 10
Hi Preethaanju, Well, I would just say that everybody deals with criticism. Sometimes, however, people with disabilities have to deal with more of it than others. I think it's important to maintain your composure and not lash back or respond defensively to criticism. Take a breath. Don’t do or say anything. This brief pause not only helps you compose yourself and prepare to listen to what the other person has to say, it demonstrates your poise and self-confidence. Maintaining your composure when criticized shows that you’re in control. Otherwise you won’t be able to objectively consider the value of the information. Focus on the words and facts, not on the feelings they generate within you. Thanks.
@advokatku (4036)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 10
criticism always in line with the praise we receive. If we receive a compliment, like it or not, we must be willing to also accept the criticism. such as proverbs, the higher a tree, the more taut in the wind
• United States
25 Mar 10
If it is something that I can learn from I take it and love it. Like making my handbags better for my customers. I would like to have what ever I can get to get better. But,if it is out of meanness or jealousy. I will attack with all I have to offer. i will never sit back and take it. I am too strong willed and have to big a mouth for that.