I sometime feel difficult to be a mom...

@babyEj (1522)
Philippines
March 25, 2010 7:02am CST
I've got a son and his very playful. I am sailing through the big waves of life being a mom. You may ask what "waves" I'm talking. Whenever I finished the first shift in the office I go home to take a nap but my son would ask me to play with him but two hours playing with him wouldn't be enough. Sometime my son likes to disturb us while taking a rest often times during at night. He almost everyday cries at night seems having nightmares or plainly wants to get attention. Have you experience it same way as mine? What do you do?
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@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
25 Mar 10
It sounds like your son just wants to play with you and have attention from his mother. He misses you when you are at work. That's why they say being a mother is a 24 hour a day job. If you need a rest or a break get a baby sitter for a few hours or overnight once in a while. Other then that it is just something you will have to get used to.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Thank you. Well I have a nanny to take care of my son whenever I'm not at home but I'm not also at ease if my son sleeps with her.. so even though I'm tired I tried to be at my son's side at night.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Ohh yeah I've experienced that one. When my son is on the age of 3-5 years old. I was still in school that time. So I really awake the whole day and no chance to get some nap at the afternoon. Then at night at night he keeps on crying as well just like your baby. What I do is that I make him tired the whole night so that he fall asleep and not keep on crying if he cried I'll just give him a milk then he stop crying. But he cried almost 3 times a night. So I still woke up and give him milk.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Ooopss... I think the effect to my son is reverse. Whenever he had so much play time in a day it's expected that he'll be like a clock at night. He cried every three hours and called your name. Then , being mom, we're to the rescue.
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Mar 10
I can understand you. I am also a mom. Although I try to be nice, patient and understanding to my son, but sometimes his behaviors can also drive me crazy. I also have to work in the daytime and then go home at night. I don't have much spare time because of my son. Nowadays I am busy with cleaning my house at night and I hope he can co-operate. I told him that I could play with him when the cleaning job is done. Everything will be better at that time. Last night he helped me and I am sure tonight he will be glad to help me, too. As I bought a digital broom and it can clean the floor easily. I think it will be an interesting housework for my son. He may treat it as a toy:) I love China
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I have definitely experienced that and it was a really eye opening for me. It may be difficult but if you see it in a way wherein you should spend most of your time with your son and develop them as a person in a young age, that is great. I used to see it as just something I need to do. But when my eyes opened to another phase in life where this is what I am destined to be, a mother who teaches her kids to be the best that they can be then that is love.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
thanks... I agree it is really an eye opening whenever you think that you have to be always there to teach and guide him ....
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
i wasn't experience it yet because i still dont have a child but before when my niece was sleeping in our house she likes to play ever minutes of the day.we are so tried catching her for running and she also disturb me in my nap during the day because she was jumping in the bed and cant sleep anymore very annoying but she passed that stage now shes 10 years old well behave now.
@770876 (151)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 10
It sounds you are working mom. This not easy thing,Firstly i do not how old are your son, if your son is under three years old, So I only can suggest you give more time to your son at weekend, And try to well understand his habits and temper, And give him more praise and more hugs. If you can know his temper, So I think you can be more easy to be mom. And when he did something well , Then you should praise him , either a kiss or a smile to encourge him, give him confident, And let him know that his dad and mon love him. That is my experience and share with you , Hope that is useful for you.
@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
25 Mar 10
My daughter used to wake up a lot of times during the night. It was very stressful and i used to be very tired. So i had to take naps in the afternoon. I wonder how old is your son? You could try to put an educational dvd to entrance him for some time (such as barney or the wiggles), or buy games which he can spend some time playing alone. My daughter loves to see books and play with blocks and a cooking set for example. You need to explain to him that mum needs to rest a bit too. Maybe he wakes up at night because he is hungry or thirsty or if he is afraid you might give him a soft toy to cuddle up w ith and leave a nightlamp switched on.