personal ambitions or family obligations,which one should bear more weight?

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I grew up in a closely knit family, where one sees to it that there should always be a helping hand that reaches to a member of the family who is in need. I was raised up with the values of responsibility and discipline, as the eldest in the family, I accepted the fact that I have to be in charge and take full responsibility of our family, when my father died. It's hard but in my heart I know that this has to be my fate and I'm not complaining, I love my family, and I believe in my heart that I came to be in this family because this is where I have to be, God gave me to this family to belong to because this is the rightful family that he sees fit for me and He is all knowing. I do not choose the family I belonged to, It's God who chooses where we should belong, that's what I believe in. But there are times, that family obligations that I am carrying on my shoulders are becoming too heavy to carry on and it is more harder when it always comes between my personal ambitions and aspirations in life, when all the time I have to choose and put aside my own dreams in order to serve what is better for the common good of the family. Now, I feel that I am lacking on personal achievements as compared to my contemporaries, as I can see on how much they have achieved in their lives and how far they have gone, I came to thinking at times if only my life situation have been different maybe I have achieved more... Is it better that I had chosen personal ambitions over family obligations?