Where are the knights in shining armor?

South Africa
March 25, 2010 6:02pm CST
Today, me, my fiance and his friend went out to get takeaways. Getting back to the car, his friend opened the door for me to get in. I commented on what a gentleman he was, and we started a discussion about chivalry and how nowadays, men don't do those nice things they used to do anymore, like opening doors for ladies, holding up an umbrella in the rain, standing up at the dinner table when a lady stands, etc. But just because I don't see them doesn't mean that they're not out there. I'm sure many of the gentlemen here on myLot are still knights in shining armor... am I right? And ladies, let us also know of situations where a gentleman has been a real knight in shining armor.
10 responses
@phoenix8606 (4942)
26 Mar 10
well, I think that we are here but you just didn't meet us till date, but if you keep looking around, you will find us- the "knights in shining armors". Yeah , I can agree that nowadays guys like that are really a rarity, but we are not disappeared yet, and i have always tried to be a real gentleman and help the women indeed, not in order to flirt with them, just because this is what one real ma must do when there is a woman indeed
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• Pamplona, Spain
26 Mar 10
Hiya phoenix, Yep Phoenix, I think that the Knights in shining white armour are still out there even though it may seem hard to find them. They don´t only exist in the Films they exist I know they do when you least expect it they turn up I think that´s the most exciting thing about it you never know when you might meet up with them imagine.
26 Mar 10
yeah, I am really glad that you still believe in them! and if you keep looking one day you will find them!
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
Hi phoenix, yes I know that there are some knights out there, but I don't want to have to pull out my mobile phone and search my contact list for a knight when I need one. They should be around ready to rescue whenever I'm in need. But I guess you're such a guy so if I ever need a knight I hope I'll be in your area!
• Estonia
26 Mar 10
Well, I know it's not good to boast, but I consider myself kind of the person you're talking about. I open the doors for ladies and help to carry heavy luggage and so on, but I must admit I don't see too much men who would act the same way. They push their way to the door even if there is a woman coming behind them. That's rude, but a lot of men find it normal and don't even think about it.
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• South Africa
29 Mar 10
I think you should be proud of yourself! and even if you don't boast, and if no-one seems to appreciate it, just keep doing it! it's really a blessing!
@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
26 Mar 10
My boyfriend is a gentleman every single day! He opens doors for me, takes all heavy packages and/or my backpack when we walk somewhere, gives me his hand to help me get off cabs and buses, buys me flowers at least once a week, gives me his coat when it's cold, and of course he won't let me pay for anything when we go out...
• South Africa
29 Mar 10
Wow, what a great guy you have! Hold on to him dear... but don't smother him! And enjoy it while it lasts... as time goes, he'll slow down with some of the things... although it won't mean he doesn't love you anymore. It just happens. But your boyfriend doesn't really count as a knight in shining armor because he's kinda expected to do that. I think a true knight in shining armor is a complete stranger that does something for no reason without expecting anything in return... would you agree?
@benny128 (3615)
26 Mar 10
to be honest I try and be a so called knight in shining armour but to me that is just having good manners I will open the door for anyone whether male or female. Though in this worl of equality I would expect the woman to go half on the bill on a night out etc etc simply because we are all equal now. So yeah chivalry is still alive but it now has a lot less to do with gender as women now a days should not expect to be treated in a certain way just because they are female. I also hope that the women out there would open doors etc etc if the situation was reversed.
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
I agree that it's really about being polite, so it shouldn't matter if it's a man or a woman, you should open doors for them. But I think women should be treated extra special than men.
• Bulgaria
26 Mar 10
They are an extincting breed. Very rarely it happened to me someone to open the door for me or some other small gesture. I mean when this is not a part of his work or he doesn't want to attract me with trying to be kind.
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
yeah true. Nowadays, chivalry comes with a price tag. If as a woman you're not willing to pay, then you don't get chivalry.
• Romania
26 Mar 10
I'm the opposite, but girls now a days like it better than "gentleman". I treat girls bad, pretty much, but they still treat me nicely, weird isn't it ?
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
That's so mean! Why do you treat the girls badly? Is it because you think you're better than them? Or maybe you think they're worthless? How do you feel when they treat you nicely? wouldn't you want them to feel like you do when you're treated nicely? Anyway, people are different. Maybe the girls like it when you treat them badly... although I can't understand why. Thanks for sharing and being honest though...
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
It's true that knights in a shining armor are so rare now adays, I don't know also where to find them, so far I never encountered one in recent years. I hope to meet them one of these days.hehe
@marguicha (215708)
• Chile
26 Mar 10
I think that knights in shining armour come in many disguises. My husband never stood up when I did (in fact I would have found it very funny if he had done it) but was generous and caring to me and to many other people. He did not open any door for me unless I asked him to. But he did a lot of other things that for me were more meaningful. I have met other knights in my life too. After my husband passed away, one of my male friends took special care of my daughters as a father would. And they were wholly grown ups with children of their own. But sometimes we need a father to put things in perspective at any age. So when his father role was needed, I invited my friends and the damsel in distress for diner and I went to talk elsewhere with his wife (my adopted sister in my heart)so they could talk privatly. If we were needed, they would call us. I could tell a lot of stories like that as I have been blessed in life by having dear friends, a loving husband and woderful grandsons.
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
You're so right marguicha! Knights come in all sorts of shining armor. And what you've described about your late husband and his friend definitely qualify them for Knighthood! Thanks for the point!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Mar 10
I think most of the knights in shining armor are busy online! If not myLotting, doing some other online games with other knights. The jocks who are out there in the world are busy trying to prove that they are OK with women's lib, and that it is ok for women to be treated equally. I once was a knight, but my armour got rusty!
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
LOL! I think you're right! And the sad thing is that those guys lost in fantasy games and such stuff online are the ones that know how to be proper knights in shining armor. The men out there on the street are too busy with the hustle and bustle of life to remember to be knights! Don't worry, I know a great place where they sell stuff to clean out rusty armor!
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hello. yes I agree with you. I know some of them are still out there. in fact some of them are my friends, :) they are such good people and I just smile whenever I see them being a knight. :)
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
You're indeed fortunate to have so many knights around you. I think men like that make this world such a beautiful place!