i lost hope

see friend I aslo suffered from the same,and its kinds in every house i suppose!but then you have to try your level best!from everyside!make her understand that God has given the body and one should try ones level best to make it move till end!so she should coooperate!try healing,or the accupressure,puncture therapy it is really very helpful!even in these stages,by magnets,some seeds of pulses!it really works!see if you have some expert in this line!

stand still bro keep aiming for good sake of your own and don't be too easy of every single problems of our life, all of this has something to do to our future, what happens is normal to us.. We should get use to it, learn from every mistakes as time goes by. Keep our self calm. Think of very very simple but very good choice so that we can keep moving forward on our own and everybody else..

Hi 7th, before i start responding on this discussion i already offered a prayer of relief to your mom. i am aware of your mom's situation as i was able to keep track of your discussions about your mom especially that time of ondoy. i feel sad hearing this news. i hope she will manage to bear all the pains. i know she so tired of meds and all the intervention but let's hope and pray for more blessings for her health.

As far as I am concerned, I think I do know some little about you situation. I think no matter what, I think you should be full of energy in our daily life,which can help you get a lot confidence,and you will succeed in the end. Hope you get better soon.

I'm really sory to hear that. It's really depressing when you're in the point where there is nothing you can do about it no matter what you do....It must be a hard time for you, but we can only move on as a human..but still I hope you won't stop believing..

Give her some more time what i mean is spend more time with your mother. My mom got stroked 4 years ago she also have diabetes and high blood pressure not to mention myopathic legs too. To top it off im the only son so im the only one to carry all the burden. But i dont let her feel that im having a hard time. I spend time with her make sure shes happy even if its painful for her when it comes to her theraphy sessions.Again you just need to give her more time and make her feel loved maybe thats what shes looking for and thats why she keeps on rejecting other peoples help because she wants yours her sons/ daughters attention try to think bout it i know you love her much show her let her feel how much you care ;)

se7enthbird, I am sorry to hear this and hope that you could find a way to convince your mother to be more compliant with her treatment and medications. I hope that what I am about to share will be of help and that may let you find a way to change your mother's attitude. Your mother is really going through a lot at this moment and to have both diabetes and hypertension is really overwhelming for her. In the course of her treatment and medications, there will be a need to overhaul her habits and diets. No one especially the aged can take this change easily and coming from your end, I am sure you would be protesting with eating food that are bland and plain. As a person ages, their attitude will regress to that of a child and your mother will need to be understood, comforted, pacified and motivated to go through the changes. So, you need to find out how you can encourage and motivate her. Get to know what she likes and could not be without and start working from there. Let her know that the family is supportive and would like to see her through this, have her favorite child or relative accompany and talk to her during the initial stages. Teach her grandchildren to remind her to take her medications and undergo her treatments. Then, the family will need to be determined enough to change dieting habits together as well, no more sugar or salty or oily diets. Going for lean meats, skinless poultry, fish, vegetables and fruits. Always be on the look out and to understand when she does not feel like taking her medicines or undergo treatments. Ask her, don't reproach and convince her that all of you are there to help and support her. If finance is her concern, just reassure her that she is not and NEVER a burden to anyone in the family and that all is worth it for her well being. Last but not least, if your family or you are spiritual, to try to seek God as a family and commit this challenging times to God. I am not going to be religious or dogmatic but I am sure you are aware that there are a lot of instances where people have turned to religion and have worked. So, you should not deny God into your life and family's predicament. Take care and all the best.

I'm so sorry about this, my friend. And I hope that you and your siblings can coax your mom gently to go for therapy and take her medicines. Tell her that those medicines will provide recovery for her, and perhaps a fast recovery. Diabetic patients and stroke ones need lots of gentle talk to let them know that they are loved and cared for always. I know it's not easy, but you can try to talk to her everyday and lift up her spirits, so she would take her medicines regularly.

Have more patience and faith to Gods that she will realize all the sacrifices you've done. Most of them are pretentious they like to do the same thing when they are not yet sick. They hates medicine and don't like also therapy that cause them feels pain. They are all moody. Be patient friend. God will help and He know every thing. Let us pray to Him deeply.

hi se7enthbird, I'm so sorry about your mom. And I do feel your pain...in a way. My grandmother was like that too, she passed away two years ago. She was diagnosed with diabetes a long time ago and still smoke until her last month living here on earth. All I want to say is, don't stop hoping. I know it is hard but, it is way harder to lose a mom. I lost my mom when I was 11 and it is hard. I always told myself I hope I was older back then and helped her more but all I can do is pray for her. Maybe your mom needs to be inspired again. I don't know how, but maybe you need to let her realize more how important she is on your family. And that, you are doing everything for her and it is because you need her and love her. I will pray for you and your mom.

I understand that you Love a Lot your Mother... God always Works in many Mysterious ways... Remember these always, if you are losing hope, God has given us Love, Hope, And Faith... The Greatest is Love, but these, Love, Hope, Faith is God's Gift, and it's meant to be shared, most of all to your mother... Faith, by always Praying for your mother's health, and always Pray for the best for your mothers sake... Don't you ever lose Hope for your mother's sake, slowly your mother will know that...

I believe you would not like what i am about to say, we do have to face reality, we only borrowed our existence from our Creator. Could it be that She is now ready to return her borrowed life and you are making it hard for her. I have a similar experience with my Grandmother, i am her favorite APO, i dont know how to say this, while everybody was giving her a treatment, for 3 years, they were all in vain, shes just to old to endure her treatment we have to let go. I love you Lola, The one Lola that i will ever have.

hello. I'm sorry that your mother is suffering from paralysis due to diabetes and high blood pressure right now. I know you are suffering as well, seeing our parents suffer is heart breaking and if only I could change places with them, I would do it. Anyway, if i were at your place, i would just talk to my mom and tell her that there is still a chance that she'll recover, and don't lose hope. Tell her how much you love her and let her grandkids say it too, so that at least she will have hope again and tell her that. If she really wants to be cured then she have to undergo therapy and drink meds on schedule. Tell her that, every medicine you take is a step closer to getting cured and healthy again. :) I hope your mom and you find hope again, have faith in God and pray. God bless your family.

that really is frustrating.you want her to be fine but she dont listen or do the things that she must do.like taking medicine. do therapies. maybe your mother lacks encouragement, how about asking your local church to visit her everyweek to give her support.or ask her friends to visit her every now and then so that she will not get bored