my partner's ex is trying to make friends with me...

Philippines
March 26, 2010 4:22am CST
Recently, I received a message on my fb account from my partner's ex girl asking if we can attend her wedding. She said she don't want to get into trouble that's why she is asking permission to me, she also said that it's important to her that my guy is present on that day. Then she offered me her friendship she told me she hope that one day I could be her friend too and she will really feel bad if I don't like the idea. To be honest, it irritates me. First, I have a thing with her before when I discovered that she and my partner is having a constant communication without my knowledge. I got mad and jealous that time but we are okay now, we already fixed the problem.The thing here is she knew all about this, she knew what I went through because of that and now here she is wanting to have a coffee with me one day. I really wanted to ask her, will her wedding be cancelled if we don't attend? but I'm not like that, i just told her it's ok for me to be there but it's my partner who will decide if we will go or not. But I assured her that her message will be sent to him. I don't want to get rude though my mind wants to, I really don't know if there are people that can relate.
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5 responses
• India
27 Mar 10
mm........it's very hard to answer yaar. do what ever u lyk. if she is gud and u think she makes u happy and u also lyk her den dnt think go n get her first. lyf is so short yaar enjoy.
@aprilmmm (77)
• France
27 Mar 10
The past has passed,if they are still friends after breaking up,there's no need to be jealous.But I know that your partner's ex's behavior has made you incomfortable,for her,being friends with you is quite easy,but for you,this is stupid.How can you make friends with your partner's ex...
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
26 Mar 10
I guess that it's important for her that your partner and you are at her wedding because it is symbolic to her about 'moving on'. She is definitely one of those people, I would say, for whom life is a journey and everyone one meets and everything that happens along the way has its value and should not be forgotten. Some people - rather few, I'm afraid - can go through a relationship and still remain friends when it's over. I think that is a very healthy attitude to have and you should understand that and realise that there is no cause for jealousy because of it.
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
26 Mar 10
i think you don't have to make friend with her.it is not good feeling and it will make you always mad if she is not good heart girl.why she still cares your partner ?what she wants to get from you?i don't understand her mind.i just think not so simple.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Personally i think theres nothing wrong with attending her wedding i mean the fact that shes extending her hand for reconciliation is a big deal already. And if you ask me its a good move for both parties to be friends than enemies . If you cant be friends then try to be at least civil with each other.That way nobody will feel bad bout each other ;)