Do you guys get frustrated teaching your own child?
@steve_sanchez (35)
United States
March 27, 2010 4:54am CST
I have talked to several parents, and it seems like when it comes to teaching your own children (reading or writing), we tend to have a really high standard for them. We get so frustrated when our children don't pick up learning as quickly as we want them to.
But when it comes to other people's children, we just let it go. Is it because we don't really "care" if other people's children succeed or not in life. While we expect our own children to aim and achieve high in their lives?
What do you guys think?
5 responses
@lulumartin (963)
• Germany
2 Apr 10
Hi, steve_sanchez.
My son is 13 months old now, and i started teaching him since he was 2 months old. And i never get frustrated teaching him because learning is fun for him. And he learns very fast. Sometimes he really amazes us.
I have read that you said your son is 4, right? May i know how do you teach your child? It's said that we should not show our frustration when teaching our children. Learning should be fun. When the learning becomes unenjoyable, please stop the learning sessions. Your child will not learn when he is not happy.
Have you ever tried showing flash cards to your child?? If not, i would recommend you to try this method! It works for most of the kids who are under 6 years old. And your child is just 4, he still has the "camera ability" to learn the information at lightening speed.
Write down the words on the cards, show to your child 1 card for 1 second. Show 5 cards each time (depends on your child's situation), and 3 times a day. Do not ask your child to say the words together with you. Just flash the cards to your child as fast as you can.
If you want to teach your child time, you can show him the time pictures and tell him the time. Same method, flash as fast as you can. I believe, soon you will see the results.
Good luck to you! Have a nice day and happy mylotting. @nikkij2079 (126)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I don't get frustrated with my 13 month old but I do with my 13 and 7 yr old because they act like they don't have a clue what they are doing. When they come home from school and do their homework, they act like they want me to give them the answers and that makes me angry. Then they tell me I don't know how to do it. My question to them is did you tell the teacher that you did not understand. Guess what the answer is NO. Well that was the time to say that you did not understand not once you get home. That is why I get upset with them.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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27 Mar 10
I have never gotten frustrated when teaching my own children because I know that I should be going at my child's pace to ensure they enjoy the learning experience and don't become too frightened of it. I've never really understood pushy parents, but I suppose ut's because I am not one. It's not that I don't care, I do, it's just that I allow my kids to develope at their own pace, their is enough pressure on them as it is.
Anyway, my relaxed attitude seems to be paying off with my eight year old. She is top of the class in all her subjects including Spanish, and she is the only non Spanish child in the school and is better at it than her Spanish classmates.
@steve_sanchez (35)
• United States
27 Mar 10
I applaud you for letting your own child learn at his/her own pace. But since your child is 8 years old, I think he/she is capable of really "learning" already. Sorry, but how about if your child is 3-4 years old, when it is really their first time to start to learn, like the alphabets, numbers, telling time and all.
I think part of the reason I get frustrated is that I see other children of his age can do the same thing but my child just doesn't seem to put it all together, even though I see him doing it every now and then.
@steve_sanchez (35)
• United States
27 Mar 10
Well, do you think it is because you are a teacher by trait that you don't get frustrated, and that you are patient even with your own child? Because I have talked to several parents myself, and a good number of them get frustrated with their own children because we all want our children to be "smarter", or to succeed in life that we tend to want them to learn quicker as we are teaching them. I hope someone else can chime in who has the same type of frustration and show me that I am not a bad parent.
@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
2 Apr 10
I am a very nervous person and then i feel guilty if i lose temper with my child. I wish i were more patient. But i do agree with your perspective that probably it is because we care so much for our own kids success and performance. It is a valid viewpoint. Besides our children tend to want to repeat over and over again and that is frustrating!
