Is it good to let go someone you love?

Philippines
March 28, 2010 7:34am CST
Do you think it's good if we can file a case against our gf/bf or partner who falls out of love? Or it's still good if we just let them go even if hurt so much?
19 responses
@khalida (1130)
• India
28 Mar 10
well if they don't love you its better they leave. but you can show them how much you love him/her and make them want only you cause they feel ur love is unconditional :) if they come back that way, both of you can be happy. otherwise you would be begging all your life for love and finally start hating life. don't you think!??
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• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Yeah, I agree with you. The more you force your self to someone who no longer want and love you, in the end you will be hurting yourselves as well to others that leads you to hating the world and life itself. Loving someone means letting go and placing your happiness to their happiness. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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• India
28 Mar 10
you are in love with him expecting him to love you. right... when you came to know that he is no more loving you .. i think its better let him go. what can you get by putting a case against him. you cant make him to love you any more.,.,. its better forget and move on.
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• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Yeah, it can only makes the person you love hurt you in the end. But somehow when the pain is too much we can't help not to wish and think a better way to hold on with the person and strive hard to keep the relationship alive. But anyway that's life, we must learn the hardest part of letting go someone we love. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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@setsuna26 (2409)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Theres this sayin tha if you truly love someone then set them free if they come back then your really meant to be. It wont be love anymore if you will just force the relationship, i mean if the other party dont feel the same as you do then i think its better if you just go seperate ways. I know its pretty hard but thats life,maybe theres someone much better than that previous lover of yours ;)
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• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Yeah, you're right holding on the person who no longer loves you will do no good on your part, in the end you'll be the one who hurt more. So it's better to let go and start again. It's really hard and I don't think when one is on that situation she/he can come up on that thought of "letting go." It takes time to accept those things and learn to live again. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
in that situation if one wants out send him out. we cannot impose our ways all the time. good thing one is aware that the other is falling out of love. what is worse is the other one is caught cheating already because the other half is too blind to even see that there is no love anymore. fate moves in mysterious ways and sometimes it is better for us to be hurt but stay intact and merely breathing than to lose everything to something that really wasn't meant to be.
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
well if your gf/bf has done something illegal against you or your family you better file a complaint, but i see you talk about love and feeling here, sometimes we are faced with such a hard situation in life, Do you know the song "I will survive", i dedicate it to you.
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@sender621 (14934)
• United States
29 Mar 10
I don't think we ever purposely want to let go of someone that we love. Sometimes we just have to. It does very little good in the end to hang onto love that is lost. If that special someone is meant to be in your life, they will find their way back to you agaain.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yeah, love will always comes back if it means to be. In the right place and right time, because in everything in this life, it has its own time. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@ladychai (147)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
As for me, i'd say I almost filed a case against my ex. But then I thought, will that make the situation any better? Will it help both of us in terms of finding a resolution to our problem? Making an already worse situation worse. Try to look into your heart and you'll see that love might still be there and try to cultivate it so it will grow. The only way that love can grow is by letting it spread its wings and fly. That love may not go back to you at at least you knew for yourself that you tried.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yeah, holding on the person who no longer loves you will only worsen the situation that could possibly lead into hatred. It's better to set free that person and set yourself free also from the love that's no longer yours. Yeah, the best thing is we did our best and love the person with all our heart. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@phynx15 (248)
• India
28 Mar 10
I think it depends on the situation. If we really love them we should look for their interest, if they are interested in leaving you and it will be better choice for them, i think it is definitely good to let them go. But in case we are sure that leaving us will affect their life, it is better to hold them even if it is not appropiate. True love is about the interest of the partner rather the one's own interests.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yeah, loving someone means always looking after them and putting our happiness into their happiness. That's true and selfless love. Although mostly we are afraid to be alone and to face the day without the person whom we love. It's a loss in our life and that's the hardest part, so we always try to hold on the person until we realized that letting go is the best thing we can do. As it also means letting go of ourselves. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
it will only be hard if we force them to stay if they dont love us anymore. so better yet to let them go and find someone that will love you, i know its not easy from the start specially if your really love the person but if we learned to accept those out there and give them a chance then perhaps theres a tendency that we will love them also.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yeah, we must always learn to let go and start again. There's always a better and good opportunity and chances that awaits for us. That's life and we must always remember that everything happens for a reason and it's always good for us. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@mitchann (303)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
it is so easy to say to let go of someone you love especially if you havent experienced it. I mean come on, I experience it myself, when you are already in the situation between letting go and holding on to the person, you would rather hold on and than to let him/her free. You tend to do ways just to keep him on your side, even though you felt he no longer loves you. I think thats the downside of loving someone, you try to hold on becoz you know it is more painful to see him unhappy with you than to see him go.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yeah, you're right letting go is just so easier said than done. It's hard to let go the person who makes you happy and who made a hole in your heart. It's painful when that hole become empty and you tried hard each day to fill that emptiness in you. It's definitely painful to accept the truth that holding on the person only makes him/her unhappy. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@caliya (1175)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
I can't help but be tickled. File a case? Sure why not. Specially if you have invested a lot in that relationship and I am not just talking about the money but time and emotion as well. It's really hard to let go someone whom you truly love but it's harder to hold on to someone who doesn't love you back.
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
hi careguarden, Yeah, i know it really hurt sooo much, if someone you really love fell out of love but no matter how painful it is, you have to give it up. Why would you force yourself into someone who doesn't even adores you anymore? That would hurt more...you have to save something for yourself..you deserve to be happy..I know it's not easy to move on but that's life, you just have to take one step at time. Who knows you'll wake up one day and don't even recognize the feeling anymore...
@carmenzhj (120)
• New Zealand
29 Mar 10
Although it is painful to let go, but do you think by holding on would make a different for someone has already falls out of love with you? Why not move one to see another bright site of it? She/He is not the only one you can get, there's always someone out there appreciate you. By holding on she/he would hate you even more.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
oh, that is so sad In this case...just set him free, cos it will just hurt you more if you'll continue to hold him and beg for love,,,though it hurts but time will heals everything, and also for you to set a time to move on.. You deserve to be happy too, so set him free and give your self a chance to fall in love again
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
It's understandable for my why some people go on keeping the person they love even after they were told that they have fallen out of love already. Somehow, the person is still hoping that the other would rediscover the lost feeling shared to him/her before. But it's always best to let go. Give it some time. If it's really meant to be -- it will come running back to you. The only way to appreciate a painting is by taking a step back away from it so we can see the beauty as a whole. The closer we are to it -- the more we are fixed in a particular detail. Cheers!
• Japan
29 Mar 10
I just let go my love one,I though he don`t love me i though he not enough care and i though i am not good enough for him we don`t say good bye he just gone i don`t know nothing about him but yesterday one of his friend was telling me that he was so busy no have time for himself to rest that why he don`t want to up sad me when can not stay with me for a while,he don`t want i am worry too much that he do this and that and i think that and i Think different thing when he is not then he just want me to focus on my own work till i got my dream so he go not because bad reason,he want all for good and if even not like i am thinking of i ll just let him go if that make him happy even i really love him,he is free then if he want to come back and i am still a lone i ll always well come him but if i am already have a new one so may be he not the lucky one since he decide to go:)
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
28 Mar 10
I would say its best to live and let live. There was this married couple and their marriage fell apart. The husband kept acting as if it was going to be a friendly divorce with no battles. Once the divorce was final, he kept his ex wife from seeing her children and raised them to believe she deserted them and that she was a no good drunk. The whole time he was telling the kids this lie, he was telling his ex-wife the kids didn't want to talk to her. The mother could have taken her ex husband to court, but she didn't want to drag the children through the mud so-to-speak. One day the truth will come out and then there will be even more pain. Being a friend is always better than being an enemy. There is enough war in this world, enough pain and enough suffering. Why do we need any more of it?
• India
28 Mar 10
from my experience its better to let go him even it hurts us...even though we think of punishing such guys..we feel bad if they get hurt
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Certainly, no one has the right to file a case against a love partner who falls out of love with the other one. It's a feeling that needs to be respected.Although, there must be some reasons why he/she falls out of love, and in case you couldn't afford to let him/her go..then better try to search those reasons and work it out in a way that you won't be too imposing and forceful. However, if after your effort, you see no improvements, then I would advice to really face it and let him/her go.Anyway, you can continue loving him/her in your heart and in your own way. And sometimes, giving the other partner some space, gives her/him chance to appreciate your absence, and who knows he'll get you back..