If you partner have a crush??
@angelbelle578 (1635)
Philippines
March 29, 2010 3:10pm CST
How would you feel if your partner is having a crush with other person? Is it okay with you? Is it normal? Does it matter or you wouldnt care just because it's just a simple crush. Or Is it a real big deal in your relationship? My partner now my ex is having a crush with other girl. She didnt told me about it. I just found out. I became cold after i found out but i didnt tell her why I became cold. We had a little fight that leads to break up. Anyways it not the only reason why I break up with her. This past few weeks I became so disaappointed about her for some reason. But the last things I told her about was her having a crush with other girl. I dont know if its just a simple thing to break up with her. Sometime I'm afraid of my decisions because mostly I regret many of my decisions and I dont want to make mistakes again. Please give me advice. Thanks alot in advance.
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17 responses
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
My husband is crushing on movie stars and all that but if he will be crushing on someone within our reach then that's a different story. If he will do that to me, I am also going to do the same thing to him. I think its the best way for him to know how and I feel and if he still persists on doing so then I think we will have to talk about it.
@shermaine1112 (203)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
i agree. my bf has a crush on sexy stars and to consider the very pretty ones-which is normal for a guy.. but to crush on som1 who's within your reach is different! that would mean that his attention is not on you. Love starts with a crush. That's totally going to freak me out! =o
@dylanchen (2)
• China
1 Apr 10
First i think if that's just a crush with some person ,so may be you don't necessary care about .because anybody sometime can crush heterosexual or charming person include you and me .
Second because i don't konw the real situation on this thing ,so if you feel that is very seriously ,it's best to have a talk with your partner .
i am pleasure to give you a help !
@fianne (1057)
• United States
30 Mar 10
well, having crush to other person duing a relatonship is just but normal... we are humans and we tend to like something that pleaes our eyes or taste. if it is just "crush", it's ok. the thing about it is you partner didn't tell you about it, no trust. if it is just crush, we can tell it to our partners because we know it won't bother the relationship. but if that "crush" tuns into something deep, then it's a different story.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
I will be mad and jealous, I will talk to him and say to him that I don't want him crushing at other girls. It makes me feel stupid. I can't leave him just because of that, I will try everything to still make the relationship work out.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
well, for me crush is really normal. i still do have crushes even while im in my 7 long year relationship. and when i do, i share it with my boyfriend. because its just normal and i find it healthy too. but of course, everything has their own limitations. that's what we need to set in mind. especially when we are in a serious relationship already. everything that is too much can be hurting. talk to him, and tell him that you find it uncomfortable when he's having crushes. and if he does care for you enough and loves you, you both will resolve this matter smoothly. happy mylotting!
@mlno054321 (212)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
no, it is not okay for me. it hurts for me that my partner have a crush on other person. and that is not a normal thing . i do care of that because simple crush can turn into real love. so for me it is not okay.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Mar 10
I dun think it's the right thing to be having a crush when one is in a relationships.. For it means being unfaithful in certain ways??
Having a crush for someone is different from fantasising about someone.. For crush means lovey feelings!! Besides, when one is able to love more than one person, it can only say that, u wont be special person in their hearts, and thus what's the point??
It's better to leave..
@daliaj (5674)
• India
30 Mar 10
Crush is not a reason to breakup. If my husband has crush with another girl, I will be jealous for sure. I may tell him that it is his personal decision and he has all rights to do whatever he wants to do with hs life. Even after telling all these philosophical points, I will be irritated about the issue. A good husband reads the minds of the wife and behaves in such a way. I am very sure that it is not the reason for a breakup.
@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
I don't mind my partner having a crush on someone. What's important is we know we love each other.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
It does not matter to me. Its normal to have a crush. So what if he or she has a crush. You have her or him that the most important thing. Right?
I guess if I have a lady like you its like I'm hanging myself.
I can't move and think. Because even having a crush makes you feel something bad about it.
@louierrific24 (1114)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Actually, it's just normal for us to have a crush on somebody regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not. We cannot forbid our partners to admire someone aside of us.
On the other hand, It's also normal for us to feel jealous whenever that happens. It's human nature. The catch perhaps is for that "crush" thing not to be serious.
It may also serve as an inspiration for us to become a better person for our partner.
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
30 Mar 10
it isn't ok at all with me. Im a transparent person, no matter how I hide how I feel, it shows. With that case, obviously I would feel uncomfortable. Well, Ill be askibng him frankly heart to heart about it. If he thinks he could be happier with that person then Ill let go as early as possible. I dont want to end up relationships without respect anymore. So while we still have respect with each other, then ill just let go than ending up cheating at me. That hurts more.
@kriskhedkar (877)
• India
30 Mar 10
Its perfectly normal to have crush on other person. But only thing is how we make it. If its just a crush, no need to worry. but if it is something serious, then I will have to think about it.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
29 Mar 10
this is very obvious that i am not going to be happy or even be comfortable if my partner does this things to me.
i think may be this is not in my hands but i would try to talk to her on this matter and the effect on our relation and i think she would be enough wise to understand.
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
I will be jealous knowing that my partner is having a crush to other girl. I will be insecure because might be he saw something in her that he didn't notice to me. I will start to be paranoid, thinking that he might leave me for that girl. However, I won't take this a big deal. I know and trust my boyfriend. Hurting me will be the thing that he would do. So, I will take things positively.
